How do you heal after a bad break up?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I’ve been on the go, I almost forgot I had a bad break up… I just let busyness and stress about life take over.. but nights like this I am reminded I’m alone w/o him and I remember the aches he has caused me… it just makes me tear ups. I barely ever feel alone but I definitely feel alone now… and just left with so much pain he caused by not fixing it and instead just ending things that he’s not my person to fill in my needs and he don’t wanna feel guilty for hurting me anymore… 😭

And no I don’t wanna hear about hooking up. I’m just emotionally exhausted and in pain.

[Anonymous]

I recently split from a 4 yr relationship. NC is best for me but when special occasions and all of that come around, He is "knocking at my door." I broke it off because I never really trusted him and trust him less when he comes "begging" at moments like this for the usual gifts and cards I used to give him. I have even vented on this guy all over social media and I realize now it is time to bid him good-bye. You need to do the same thing. Go out with family and friends and focus on you now. Hugggs.

[Opinion Owner]

Love you, Gag. xx

[Anonymous]

Im ironically the opposite person in this scenario. I broke up with a girl because i felt us being together was causing her pain and it wasn't good for either of us. I wanted her to move on and love someone new and forget about me. But i miss her so much... Im told she even quit her job. I feel terrible.

Honestly its not easy. I've taken up new hobbies. Got immersed in work to try and build myself up but all it really does is hide the pain. She was good at hiding the pain. I accused her of building a shell around herself, in all reality I do the same.

I think about her everyday. I wish she would forgive me because I can't forgive myself.

Hang in there. Im told time heals. Sucks because its been over a year and still feels like we broke up yesterday

[Asker]

Ironically, you do sound my ex… he told me that we would be happier while not being together and he’s only causing me pain.. he can’t be the person to filled in my need… but I think he’s doing better without me and I did told him I was sorry I couldn’t make him happy and that I just want him to be happy… but I think looking back I shouldn’t had apologize because he was really selfish and kinda used reverse psychology on me because he was the one not making me happy..

Lately it has been getting so hard.. I miss him.. but my therapist say he’s not ready for commitment… and I know he’s not it because he let go of me…

Sometimes exes does get back together, if you think you can make it work & love her better, reach out to her.

[EricSummer]

The best for me is to do lots of sports, try to achieve something in my office job and put in extra effort and hours, and visit friends who I may have neglected earlier during my relationship.

These are things I can recommend, but in reality I do less reasonable things, too:

I think back to the dating phase when I first met the ex and I scan my memory for any interest from women that I did not follow up on while I was in the relationship. I then contact one or two women who once seemed interested and casually suggest a meeting.

This often helps gain back confidence, but it can lead straight into a mess.

In addition I go out a lot more and try to meet women.

[Zarapeachy]

Music and feel the pain. By that I mean no distraction, no gym no putting yourself out there. I mean if it’s 1p. m and you’re surrounded by people and feel the pain of missing him, sit for a few minutes and let it pass and tell yourself the separation is needed for now. And continue to do it. By avoiding the pain and messiness, you’ll just find yourself back in square one regularly. So sit with the discomfort and pain and talk to yourself. Talk to god or the universe. Repeat to yourself the purpose for the separation. it is exhausting but it will help in the long run

[Simslover92]

I listened to music which helped me get through it. Sometimes it was angry music to help me get through and sometimes sad music but it was always something to help me get through it. I'm so sorry you're going through this. It will get easier as time passes.

[OfMiceandMen]

I often take my phone, earbuds and listen to music out on the water, maybe fish or just paddle around to the different islands and explore them. It takes my mind off the pain and I can burn off some steam by paddling hard.

[MementoMori777]

Yea don't worry that it will get better, it always does, just like all wounds, it will heal, just be strong and go through the heartbreak process, with time you'll feel better.

[koko22]

I know my advise is not the right thing to do but it works for me all the time... Find yourself a rebound!!!

[KrakenAttackin]

Chad probably never saw himself as your boyfriend anyway.

[Makeushiver]

time heals all wounds and wound all heels

[Anonymous]

Do masturbate twice in a day for 15days..

[Anonymous]

New bae o clock

[In_Trance]

Rail other guys

[Jmmmfi4]

I don't heal

[riverrat3]

Tired, worthless