It took me 4-5 years to get over a breakup is this normal?

[Anonymous]

It was my first relationship. For the first 2 months I was depressed didn't do anything. Later got into spirituality and self improvement slowly things started to get better but still there were moments where i missed her. More then break up it this hurted me more is at my lowest she left me and i was there at her at her lowest, another thing which hurted me the most was she didn't took the responsibility and blamed me for the failer of relationship.
I am over her but, sometimes i miss the companionship of a partner. The problem is I work from home don't have a routine in which i meet more people in person so how can i improve my situation?

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It took me 4-5 years to get over a 4 years relationship is this normal?

[lightbulb27]

some punches are harder than others, the more vulnerable we are the more it hurt and take time to recover... make sense of it, rebuild energy, get moving towards goals again. It's the confusion and exhaustion that takes it's toll. people can "fall into despair" for a lot longer than that.

find hobbies you do with others, find ways of connecting and giving to others.. that feeds you. connect with pets, connect whereever you go.

isolation... you aren't a cave man... and even they didn't like isolation. if you have to, create your own social groups. find other singles to connect with... but I'd suggest do so with men first as women... it just stats the process again and you may not be ready.

[YourExLover69]

Sorry to hear about you. Sometimes some people love people way too much. I Know break up hurts very badly.

[Justmeagain1]

It takes time to grieve - we don’t know what you have been through and for everyone it’s different. Ps - proud you took your time - good job!

[Asker]

Thank you so much it means a lot to me 🤗🥺

[Anonymous]

Yes it’s normal. Some take longer than others , I’m definitely one of those that takes years too🫤

[gag37627]

It's normal I guess. Because I have met many people like you. Don't be hard on yourself over this, it means you are someone who truly do the love

[Anonymous]

No, that is ridiculous. Even 4–5 months is too long.

[Justmeagain1]

Ok so just gunna check in and see if you’re ok anonymous? I didn’t think that you were with how rude your response was.. try delivering it a bit better. Eg : “ For some that’s a long time , I’m normally a bit different to you, but healing is healing - least you won’t be returning to dating scene with that hurt, there is no time limit on it, as long as you have support that’s all that matters. “

Anonymous- I bet when you grieve the death of someone you don’t put a time limit on it do you? Stop judging - and just do better. He asked for an opinion not to be chastised.

[dudeinohio]

Each person gets over things in their own time. So I'd say it's normal.

[Jmmmfi4]

Takes me longer