Am I really the bad guy here?

[max619]

Some back story:

my ex girlfriend dumped me and went to a new guy right away. tried getting her back didn't work, and then she threatened me to report cops if i ever text or call because i pointed out that she cheated (she acts on impulse). I went NC (absoulte hell) after that, it was around 2 weeks then she called me and asked how am i doing bla bla. My mind started to get false hope, after that she occasionally used to call me, telling me she just wanted to talk to someone thats why she called.(not sure why she didn't call her new boyfriend). Then one night when i was at bar I called her and asked if we could get back together (such a dumbass idea), she said no, never. Next day she texted me saying she is going to file RO if i ever call or text her again. She told me her boyfriend is upset because i called and texted her that night and they are fighting because of me. I didn't respond to text since i dont want wanna get in legal trouble. Then few hours later she called me twice. I didn't pick up the phone, probably she wanted to yell about reporting. Its ok for her to call and I didn't say nothing, and when i tried calling her that night she wants to report me.

I don't know if i am narcissistic or if she is or has some issues herself. My mind is fked. Why bother contacting me after first threatening report if you just wanted to threatened me again

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah dude, sounds like you've been through some serious drama with this chick. From the outside looking in, it really seems like she's the one playing games and sending mixed signals.

Like if she dumped you for another guy, that's whatever, but then hitting you up all the time to "just talk"? That's lame as hell. And threatening to call the cops when you tried getting her back is such an overreaction.

Then she turns around and calls YOU but gets mad if you reach out? Makes zero sense bro. I feel like she just likes having you on the back burner as an option while she's doing her thing with this new dude. Typical manipulative BS if you ask me.

Obviously you made mistakes retaliating when you shouldn't have. But I can't totally blame you when she's yanking your chain like that. Some people just don't know how to let go fully after a breakup, ya know?

If I were you, I'd block her number for good and focus on yourself from now on. Given her track record, I wouldn't trust anything she says anymore. You can do way better than dealing with those fickle games, bro. Keep your head up - these hoes ain't loyal!

[max619]

thanks bro, feels like i got trauma from this whole relationship and breakup drama. I know there were mine faults as well that led her to go with someone else because i didn't give time and attention, but still giving mixed signals like this, my head started thinking may be she wants to get back. so i tried, didn't expected her to threaten me again like that. why even bother if you are just going to threaten and not wanting to retry

[Oliverlogan263]

Aye man, breakups and trust issues can 100% mess with your head. But beating yourself up over faults or what could've been won't change the past - you can only move forward now, ya feel me?

Seems like she just ain't ready to fully close the door, but also not ready to reopen it either. Hot and cold games like that are wack, don't leave room for real growth on either side.

My advice - cut yourself some slack. We all make mistakes, especially in first loves. But now you know some lessons - value your time, don't chase anyone who isn't 100% sure about you, and work on having boundaries.

Don't let this trauma hold you back from kicking it with other girls neither once you're over her. Get out there, focus on your hobbies and fam. Time heals all wounds bro!

And if she ever hits you up again down the line, I'd keep it real casual at most until she earns your trust back fully. But for now, protect your peace - you come before anyone's mixed signals, aight? Stay strong bro, better days ahead!

[Billlewis]

No, you're not the bad guy here. She's using the old trick of laying the bait out there, and then as soon as you reach for it, she lashes out at you. Erase her from your mind and from your memory.

[max619]

thanks, i dont know why i even bother asking her to get back when she is with a new guy. just to humiliate myself from her again, and get a restraining order report. I am NC now, been like 5 days, but she really fked my mind. worst situation i have been on

[Billlewis]

Just turn it off -- you can do it.

[max619]

yeah i turn if off now since i dont wanna get a restraining order on my record. Not sure if she filed yet but i am kinda scared. hope she hasn't filed

[Billlewis]

She has no intentions of filing it -- she's just trying to scare you.

[max619]

i hope so man, she did try calling same day few hours later after sending me the RO text in the morning since i didn't respond to that threatening RO text. probably she wanted to shout at phone

[Avicenna]

Just don't contact her again and block her while saving all texts and call logs. Meet other women.

[Avicenna]

She's a bad person, and you knew that already because she cheated. That alone should have kept you away from this crazy drama queen.

[Anonymous]

That woman is messed up. What does this mean by the way?

I went NC (absoulte hell)

[Opinion Owner]

She called you you can call her

[max619]

Meaning after she threatened me with first restraining order. I went no contact, i stopped texting or calling her since i didn't want to get in trouble with cops. It sucked going no contact because i wanted to get back to her, it was like a hell.

[max619]

tried calling her after she called me, she threatened me to report to cops. its ok for her to call but if i call she wants to report me to cops

[Opinion Owner]

She’s just Bluffs and she called you after that. Call her back women say things they don’t mean at times when angry

[Opinion Owner]

I think you should call her

[max619]

yeah she called me after i didn't respond to her threatening text, probably she wanted to shout at phone not to text or call her

[max619]

nahh she and her new boyfriend will put me on legal trouble. cops might come at my door

[Opinion Owner]

It’s up to you, but I think call her

[In_Trance]

Right now she's telling her new man how you're the toxic one

[LiamJHayden]

No, but still avoid her.