How to know if you're really done with the relationship?

[Anonymous]

The last time I broke up with my ex he ignored me for a day and then we got back together, this time he broke up with me and is ignoring me, been about a day or two, how do I know that his moved on or not because before ignoring me he said we could be friends, what do I do, any suggestions or advice would be appreciated

[Oliverlogan263]

Here's what I would do sis:

Ugh breakups are the worst, I feel you. A couple days of no contact after a breakup is usually a good sign he's really done though, even if he said you could be friends. Here's what I'd suggest:

- Give it at least a full week of no contact before reaching out. That gives space and time for emotions to settle.

- Reflect on why it wasn't working and your part in it too. Learn lessons so you both can really move on.

- Stay busy with your girl gang, self-care stuff, and other interests. Find ways to keep your mind off him.

- If/when you do talk, ask directly how he's feeling and what he wants - just friends or is moving on best. Don't let hopes up if he's wavering.

- Trust that if it's meant to work out, distance now will make the heart grow fonder later down the line when you're both in a healthier headspace.

- Focus on you sis! This is your chance to rediscover your independence. He'll see how much you've glowed up when the dust settles.

Chin up - you've got this! Time really does heal all wounds.

[_no_one_]

You just know deep down, just gotta stop lying to yourself and you will know

[rosemilk]

don't believe the "we can still be friends" comment after break ups. they just didn't want to seem too mean, so they say this. but eventually just ghost you

[laly520]

move on

first mistake is taking back an ex

ex gotta stay in past forever