Why would a guy keep accusing his ex is trying to use him even when she told him to leave her alone and she moved on? She barely text him?

[Anonymous]

[TommyMountainFigure]

It sounds like he is trying to invoke any kind of a response from her as a form of validation. Let me explain:-

He hasn't been able to accept the fact she broke up with him (assuming that is the case) and he knows pleading with her will do no good, so by being negative towards her, he feels she is more likely to respond, (even if it means the response he gets will not be of his liking)

[Asker]

I’m thinking about blocking and he only wanted sex tbh

[TommyMountainFigure]

That might have been all he wanted then but I can assure you, now he's realised what he's lost? he wants more. It's why I ALWAYS advise giving everything to the relationship whilst it's current, because once it's done? It's done with no going back!

[Asker]

I stop texting him after I broke up with and we’ll go to 1 to 3 weeks without talking until he text

[TommyMountainFigure]

Yep because he is clinging on to any bit of hope he can get, and very time he texts you, just knowing you are reading his text gives him that hope. Maybe in time, 3 weeks between texts will become 5 weeks and then 10. That is probably the right way to do it, but if it ended brutally, blocking/ ignoring him will cut him to the bone. That is for you to decide!

[Asker]

I think he had a serect girlfriend when he was dating me

[Asker]

I texted days ago when he texted about a second chance and I asked why he wanted a second chance he won’t respond. I just texted told him he’s too much to deal with and bye.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Why did you never confront him about it?

[Asker]

I did and he said he’s not married

[Asker]

He make up dumb excuses and lie so I decided to break up with him. Now he claims I’m trying to get money from him. I told I barely text him and why would I try to use him if I told I want to move on.

[Asker]

Sometimes I think it’s pointless to confront him because he’s a big liar

[strateguy632]

because she asked for stuff or was demanding emotional support

[Asker]

I never asked for nothing

[spartan55]

Uh, who cares? You told him to leave you alone, right? So why does what he says even matter?

[Asker]

You’re right I just block him