I have a 28yrd old cousin who got divorced last November. She was married from 2019-2023. She did not have any kids with her ex. I believe the reason was her ex infidelity plus something related to life goals of one of them. Before the divorce, they were like 5 months separated. He ended up dating a new lady who already had a kid from a previous relationship. When my cousin was married, she was not like super active on social media (FB or IG), just average user but not was like obsessive. She posted at that time photos of her with her hubby like on trips together, family gatherings, work related things and also religious stuff from time to time, like inspirational messages about God. When they started dating and a bit before married, both attended a religious cult from their religion (Christianity) they belonged to a church group and attended cult often and from time to time and they post photos of the cult or somethign related to it, but as soon as problems started between them when they were already married, they stopped going to church and no longer post photos of it either on social media.
So they got divorced last year and just a few months after they got divorced my cousin felt like free I assume, beacuse she became social media obssesed , posting everyday thigns about her and her and only her and me me and me. Also she started to post photos of her posing in bikini each time she goes to the beach, just to draw attention period and the obsession has not stopped, she continues to post selfies here and selfies there: gym selfies (she enrolled for the first time in a gym) , house mirror selfies, and she posts now a mirror selfie each day of the week before going to work. But she also post innuendos about relationships in messages she post, she keeps posting religious messages too. Liek she wanted to feel validated.
My cousin is very sensitive and she cries for everything. In December she felt very vulnerable
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This is probably more her needing attention and was probably attention starved in her relationship.
You mentioned a cult well they do bad things to your mind and honestly for a lot of people social media is addicting and very destructive.
She is feeding her addictions now that she is free and probably feeling extra guilty about things. As she still posts her faith stuff on her media.
She wants probably a good guy to come to her and going about it all wrong and getting the wrong attention from guys online!
This is not specific divorce behavior but it is a symptom of her not having a healthy mental view of herself. The divorce made it slow worse and smthis behavior is probably not new to her. Jus the social media part is and it being more public then she realizes.
WhenI mention a cult it was more like a mass. She converted from Catholism to Christianity when she starting dating her ex and during the tiem they were boyfriend/girlfriend, the participate often in Christian masses and they were part of some religious group but she stop going to this mass years later.
When she was married she used to post things on social media butnotthe way she does it now. Now she psot stupid and dum things, selfies here, selfies there, mirror selfies from her house or mirror selfies at the gym with her gym clothes and that is every day of the week, but also she post inspirational things too about God. Now she does not care to post on social media photos in bikini. She got this hideous tattoo on her leg that makes her looks cheap and tacky for a woman or for anyone.
And now she is in Colombia to celebrate her bday with the guy she started just dating a couple of months ago. This new dude she met last year in December (she got officially divorced in November but she was already separated from her ex months before, Im starting to wonder that maybe during her separation (not final divorce) she began seeing this new guy.. In December it seems things did not work out with the guy as she started to post messages about guys and relationships on her social media. But then months later (this year) the guy return to her again and now they are seeing each other. I believe she has some mental issue that she can't resolve, I dont know she needs the attention and like people to see what she post as if that was super important to see a selfie each single day, etc. But she already took the guy to Colombia that soon. And I wonder that maybe she was already seeing another guy while separated (not divorced yet) beause her ex seem ws doing the same thing. Today she postead a photo of her and the guy in Colombia with this quote "A dream together after so many years". Really? I mean Does it means she also cheated on her ex cause she says there " a dream together after so many years?"
Id agree they were both cheating and talking to others!
Also Colombia! She probably got taken there and is not loving a good life!
Lying to all cause she knows how bad it is and wants to pretend it's amazing!
Lol so your Catholic? Funny how 2 groups close to the same don't really like each other at all!
I'm Catholic too with some good Christian friends and others that I avoid who just use Thier faith as an excuse to do what ever
My cousin is one stupid woman at 29 years old. When she was married for what I know she paid a lot of things to her ex, her ex did work but it was unstable and at the end she ended up paying many of the house stuff. Now they got divorce and the guy kept the house and broguth his new partner to live with him. She was the one who had to move out. And now im told my cousin paid for his boyfriend colombian trip. She is a stupid!!
She feels that she has to pay for the love... Which sounds like the truth! The guys are lazy gold diggers and she happily goes a long with it!
Hope she comes back from Columbia hear a lot of stories about "vacations there" human trafficking.
They pretend one social media they got back when they are kidnapped.
This is all spiritual. She needs deliverance because the Kingdom of darkness is using her grief, the breaking of a covenant and her flesh to build themselves up within her. The Holy Kingdom is the only thing that will make a difference. Therefore I suggest you pray for her.
She seems to be in a very vulnerable state. She may have a mental illness on top of that. She needs validation and reassurance. And her self esteem seems to be very low.
Are they a JW?
JW? What s that
Jehovah's Witnesses Christians.
No she was not a Jehovah wtinesses. Just a simple Christian but not Jehovah Witness
Oh okay. I have asked because you had described it as a cult and I would always hear people say that about JWs.