Have you experienced heartbreak?

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If so, how did you get over it? If you even did get over it

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

I have you have to understand there's two different types of heartbreak when you and your girlfriend and boyfriend break up it hurts you have to accept it and let it go and realize whatever happened to make you break up it wasn't by chance it was for a reason probably because that person wasn't for you we have been programmed to feel all this pain and hurt when this happens to us..

First of all you have to think of the reasoning what happened and be honest about it then you have to accept it acknowledge it take a deep breath and let It Go

Then the worst heartbreak is when you get together with somebody and you become one with them your energy becomes one with their energy it's not so much that you and that person fell in love is more like you're too energies fell in love and that is the heartbreak that makes you so you can't eat can't sleep you just want to lay in bed you hurt and after a couple weeks you're going this is not like me what is going on it's not you it's your energy fell in love with another energy and the mourn each other and that's when you have to say stop it you have to get up and take a step and go forward and do the same thing acknowledge it it's not the end of the world you have gotten through everything before in life this is going to be the same way you have to understand there's somebody out there better waiting for you and you have to be motivated you have to love yourself enough to understand that it is what it is I hate saying it like that because of the pain but you know what that pain that you feel is the love that you're going to have for somebody else that's the love that you have inside of you to acknowledge that too you have to stay busy..

And here's another thing when you were in bed you're having sex making love fucking doing whatever and the moment right before you going to have an orgasm you have clarity and you're moaning like crazy but you're just looking at this person because you have never ever felt anything before like this in your life and you're going oh my God I love you I love you I love you that is not love that is when two energies become one that is not love don't miss it mistake it because a lot of times when people break up they're going to miss that because they made that person feel so good oh my God nobody's ever done that I guarantee it everybody will do that to you well not selfish guys a real guys will but that's two energies becoming one so don't get hung up on that either that's not love

mobiusforniner · Accepted Answer

Oh yes. Many times. More times than I can count. And I likewise was the cause of heartbreak in others.

how to get over it? Well, that’s for you to decide. You can either mope and lament about it l, let it consume you and others; or you can invest in yourself and become the best version of you, and meet new people to grow and learn with.

have I ever gotten over it? Not really. It kind of stays with you, a mark on the pages of your life’s experience. A moment that put away a past version of you and saw you emerge into something new. I never forgot the ones who broke me, or even the ones I broke. I am grateful for what happened because all of them made me into who I am.

PessicaJeter · Accepted Answer

It really just takes a lot of time. Eventually, it just doesn't hurt as much and your mind focuses on other things instead

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes a handful of times , some were harder and longer to move on from and some weren’t that hard to move on from , it mainly stems down to why the relationship ended in the first place and what occurred for it to end. Also how long you were with that person can play a factor in it as well. So only time will tell , when you feel you are ready to move on and pretty much when you feel you
are completely over your ex , there isn’t really any set time limit. your feelings are your feelings , no one else can decide that for you. When my one ex cheated on me , I was devastated and heart broken , my whole outlook on relationships went doesn the tubes , I pretty much went through a phase where I no longer wanted another relationship with a girl because I felt all girls’ were liars and cheaters , so I gave up on relationships all together and focused on myself , other girls’ were showing interest in me but I told them straight up I am not ready for another relationship whatsoever , so I became FWB’s with one of them that was on the same page as me , She didn’t want a relationship either because she just had her heart broken as well by her boyfriend , so her and I became very good friends with benefits. We both agreed we could date other people but we couldn’t have sex with other people , if we did? Then we promised each other we would end the benefits part and just remain friends. Little did I realize she was falling for me and I was blind to it , because I was dating other girls’ so she eventually met another guy and I pretty much lost her. I still kick myself in the ass for being blind to it. But you live and learn

AviatorTom · Answer

Several times. Relation breakups, miscarriages, not getting the job I was told I would get. You grieve for a while, then realize that life goes on. Simply put, you try again.

cheapshotbob · Answer

I never really got over it so I've kept kill myself for 30 years. human contact is it my thing? and I'm no good at being social?

And the attitude some women have today are two feminists and they don't rely on men like they used to so I don't see a point in trying anymore.

And it really wasn't a heartbreak for me. it was more of an eye-opener because it's more to life than taking care of a woman just so she can make herself look pretty and smell pretty and look beautiful.

That's not why you marry someone to begin with but that's just my opinion. people get married today for statements and that's not why you get married at all. you're just marrying an idiot if you marry someone for that reason, which a large part of people do. Mary for statements which is an idiotic idea

razelove · Answer

A couple times. My method probably isn't the most healthy, but I just didn't feel anything. Disconnect from feelings, try to be completely rational, avoid getting into actual relationships, and treat sex as just sex until I'm over it and ready to be with someone as more than a rebound, replacement, anything other than treating them as them, an individual to learn about rather than a role to fulfill.

molonski2 · Answer

I think pretty much everyone has to a degree , to deal with it? ' Horses for courses " I guess , keep busy , and just find something , and for anyone who says they have never experienced heartbreak? I'd seriously question what's wrong with them actually , it simply does not make any sense , at all..

You can't have the sweet without the sour.

BetaBucks · Answer

Yeah, for sure. It's good for you. Reminds you to be realistic about life. And that we aren't special. The person we love can want to suck someone else dick, and make it clear right in front of you, and you don't have fuck-else you can do but learn and adapt. Go enjoy your life a little more. Get some new experiences. Don't drag yourself into self-destructive shit either.

Anonymous · Answer

Yep. First girlfriend (high school) was a great relationship. That was devastating when it (inevitably) ended. Probably took me the better part of 10 years to get over that and only then when I got together with my second great love in my late 20s through early 30s. That ended in a heartbreak as well that probably took 4 or 5 years. Now I'm good though!

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Probably 5 times? Classic mourning phase, usually going through with music and kleenex, a lot of music and a lot of kleenex lol. Fresh air kinda works as well.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, I was totally blind sided. She went back with her old boyfriend. I just decided that I would not let it bother me.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Yep overtime you get over it, for me it took about a year to get over the person, I fell hard, what can I say.

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

Joined the infantry, fought way older and bigger guys at bars when I was a minor, drovew things too fast, got with skanks

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I have, several times. I dealt with it by reflecting on the situation for a little while, and then getting busy doing other things.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

yeah! i got a motha fuckin valve replacement~

ChiTown33 · Answer

Every season the Chicago Bulls break my heart. Every season I lick my wounds and wait for the fall.🤣

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I NEVER GOT OVER IT NEVER WILL NEVER WANT TO

DrPepper12 · Answer

Strangely not really.

Walksbehindtherows · Answer

No I'm not a woman I'm a man, a real man tough man

LiamJHayden · Answer

Not romantically.

noohair · Answer

Almost everyone does.

SweetJoyGirl · Answer

Yes.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

MANY times!!

AGAM1 · Answer

Yes big time!

jack1924 · Answer

Keep yourself busy

Ladsin2 · Answer

Time

justabuddy · Answer

It's a part of life.

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