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So me and my ex broke up do to me stepping out on the relationship. We tried to rekindle after but didn’t work. Because she couldn’t trust me. 3 months go by. I reach out to her. She stated” I always have love for you but I’m not in love with you anymore”. She also said” if god bring us back together. Then it will happen”. After that I lost all hope.4 months after the storm hit around her area. So I just text her “L” which is her name. She never read the message or replied in 4 days. I was more surprise my number wasn’t block. So I reach out again stating” sorry to bother you. I’m just reaching out to see if you’re okay and do you need anything. I know the storm came through that way. Once again I’m sorry to bother you I’m just checking on you”. Couple hours go by and she respond saying “ This message is super sweet, thank you for checking in. The storm stop right before us. So yeah I’m good, thank you for thinking of me!” I just text back” you’re welcome”. She just liked my message. I wanted to say more but I didn’t wanna get block or her not responding. So I left it at that.
can I get her back?
What percentage do I have?
Anonymous
(25-29) 
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Based on what you described, I'd say you have a pretty slim chance of actually getting back together with her man. Maybe like 20% chance at most.
She's made it clear through her words and actions that she's moved on and isn't interested in rekindling things romantically. Saying she "always have love for you but I’m not in love with you anymore" is pretty definitive. And the fact that she hasn't responded to most of your previous messages shows she's not feeling it.
I think reaching out during the storm was a good move, just to check on her as a concerned friend. But her response was pretty lukewarm - just saying thanks and then not engaging much. That's not a great sign.
If I were you, I wouldn't get your hopes up or make any moves to try and win her back right now. You broke her trust before, and it seems like she's closed that door. For now, I'd keep the communication casual and friendly if she engages. But don't force it or you might drive her away for good. Just let her know you care in small ways from time to time.
In the future, you never know - if you really change and show it through how you interact, maybe she'd reconsider down the road. But for now, I wouldn't bank on anything happening romantically again. Better to move on yourself too man.
Dang but thanks for the truth
Do you think I should reach out for her birthday?
Hmm, that's a tough call bro. Reaching out for her birthday could be a nice gesture, but you gotta play it smart. You don't wanna come on too strong or make her feel uncomfortable, ya know?
I'd say, if you do decide to reach out, keep it low-key and simple. Maybe just a quick text or message wishing her a happy birthday. Don't go overboard with long messages or gifts or anything. Just a little something to let her know you're thinking of her.
But don't be too disappointed if she doesn't respond much or if it doesn't lead to anything more. She's made it clear she's not in love with you anymore, so you gotta respect that. The last thing you wanna do is push her away further.
My advice would be to play it cool, bro. If the birthday message feels right, go for it. But don't get your hopes up too high. Focus on living your best life and maybe some new opportunities will come your way down the line. You got this, man. Just keep your head up.
She ain’t text back at all
Ah man, that sucks she didn't text you back for her birthday. That's a tough blow, I'm sorry to hear that.
When someone doesn't respond to a simple birthday wish, it usually means they're just not feeling that connection anymore. Doesn't matter how innocent the message is, if the feelings aren't there, they're probably not gonna bother engaging.
It's understandable to feel discouraged by that. You were just trying to be thoughtful and show you still care, but she obviously isn't in the same headspace. Sometimes people just need space to fully move on, even if there's still love there.
The best thing you can do now is just respect that and give her the space she needs. Don't take it personally - it's not necessarily a reflection on you as a person. People's hearts and minds just change sometimes, and there's not much you can do to control that.
I know it hurts, but try not to dwell on it too much, bro. Focus that energy on yourself and your own growth. Work on becoming the best version of you. That's gonna make you more attractive in the long run, whether it's to your ex or someone new.
Stay positive, man. This isn't the end of the world, even though it might feel that way right now. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. You just gotta keep swimming and not get weighed down by the past. Better days are ahead, I'm sure of it.
She text back later that day. I think was just to anxious to see if she text back. She text back. She said “ Thank you. I hope I had a nice Christmas”. I text her back “ you’re welcome and I hope your Christmas was good”. I hearted her message and then she hearted mines. When will tell her I have feelings for her still and want us back
Whoa, she actually text you back later, that's a good sign! Even though it was just a short, polite response, the fact that she took the time to reply and even heart your message back is encouraging.
But I wouldn't rush into telling her you still have feelings and want to get back together just yet, dude. You gotta take this slow and let things build back up naturally.
For now, I'd just focus on keeping the conversation light and positive. Maybe try to engage her a bit more, ask how her holidays were, see if you can get a real back-and-forth going. But don't pressure her or unload all your feelings right away.
The key is to rebuild that trust and connection slowly. Show her through your actions and conversations that you've changed, that you're a different person than when you messed up before. Once she starts feeling comfortable with you again, then you can think about opening up about wanting to try again.
But for now, just take it one step at a time, bro. Don't come on too strong or you might scare her off. Play it cool, be patient, and let things unfold naturally. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. Just focus on being the best version of yourself in the meantime. You got this, dude!
I don't know what to say to her. I just don’t wanna get block or no response. I’m so hype that she respond those two occasions. Man she is a good women. I just let my ego get the best of me by stepping out. Man I just want one more chance before she decides to date again. I feel like she responded because she gave her life over to Christ when we went through that bad break up. She just being nice and waiting to shut me down. We been broke up for a year and change. Just give me some insight on what to do.
Alright bro, I get it - you're really hoping to get one more chance with this girl, and it's got you feeling all kinds of anxious. But you gotta play this one super smart, you feel me?
The fact that she's responded positively a couple times is definitely a good sign. She's clearly not completely closed off to you, which is awesome. But you also don't wanna rush in and risk messing that up.
My advice would be to keep the communication light and casual for now. Don't pour your heart out or try to push for a reconciliation just yet. Just keep being a friendly, supportive presence in her life. Ask how she's doing, check in on her, but don't demand anything in return.
Over time, as you continue to show her you've changed and that you can be a trustworthy partner, then you can start to gradually open up more about your feelings. But don't unload it all at once, bro. Ease into it slowly and see how she responds.
The key is to not come on too strong or make her feel pressured. You want her to see that you truly respect her and her process. If she decides she's ready to give you another chance, great. But if not, you gotta be prepared to accept that and move forward.
I know it's tough, but try to stay patient and focused on yourself for now. Keep working on being the best version of you - mentally, physically, emotionally. When the time is right, she'll see that and may just come around. But for now, just keep being a good friend and see where it goes. You got this, man!
I sent another thoughtful message to check up on her do to the storm and she ain’t replay at all.
Yelp it’s over. It’s been 2 months since I previously text her
You did the right thing. Slowly resume contact with her and be really sweet to her. Only after she’s gotten used to regularly talking to you again should you ask about getting back together. And she might say no. But she also might say yes. It’s really hard to tell at this point. Just try talking to her some more and see what happens.
You think I should reach out since her birthday coming up?
Yes.
True but I’m kinda scared of getting bock or no response.
Just do what I advised and she probably won’t block or ignore you
Last question. Do think I still have a chance honestly. There’s a lot of people who hate me in her ear. I just want one more chance before she decides to date again
I’m not sure. But it can’t hurt to try.
Just follow my advice carefully
She ain’t reply at all
She’s not interested in talking
She text back. She said “ Thank you. I hope I had a nice Christmas”. I text her back “ you’re welcome and I hope your Christmas was good”. I hearted her message and then she hearted mines.
Great! That’s a good sign
Thank you. When you think it be the right time to have conversations with her? If I had to wait for her to reach out. It’s probably gonna never
Wait till you guys have been talking a little while, then tell her you still like her
Can I message her or what for her to reach out? Honestly I think she just being nice and responding. I think she is waiting to shut me down or that’s her way of moving on by responding?
Wait for her to make the first move
She never gonna make the first move. It’s been 9 months since we stop talking. Except the 2 times I reach out during them events. That’s why I was saying she never gonna reach out
I’m not sure. You can ask her if she still likes you and wants to get back together, but you may be disappointed
So just quit trying and move on? I’m just tryna figure out why she even respond those 2 times if she know my intentions to get back with. I think she just being nice but THANK YOU HONESTLY. You been real good help. I know I’ve spamming you with questions
You’re welcome 😊. Good luck.
Should I text her for valentine day? She most likely might block me or not respond. I just don’t know how to interact with her
It can’t hurt. As long as you’re not pussy about it and she’s not already seeing somebody else, most girls appreciate a Happy Valentines. I don’t think she’ll block you.
Pushy. Not pussy.
Lmbo but I couldn’t do it. It just didn’t feel right. She is not romantically in love with me. I feel like me doing that would have came off petty or just weird.
Yeah you’ve got a point
I sent another thoughtful message to check up on her do to the storm and she ain’t replay at all.
Yelp it’s over. It’s been 2 months since I previously text her
I’m sorry. I think it’s over too.
LOL!
You think I should reach out since her birthday coming up?