How did you feel after learning you were cheated on for the first time?

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At this point in dating, I sort of feel like a cynic to say that I expect 95% of men to always have someone they’re at least emotionally cheating on me with. However most guys I’ve dated was good at covering that up. The last man I dated got the past year recently broke up with me in August via ghosting. He told me he was moving out of the city last. When I asked where to, he ghosted me. Last night I logged into Facebook because I never do and decided to glance at his page and I saw posts that let me know there was possibly was overlap in time with her. I instantly felt enraged. I wanted to message him that he was a piece of shit. I felt I was being over him but when I’m wronged unjustly it’s just hard.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Gawd I just gave an opinion elsewhere about how sleeping around retards female's ability to pair bond because women tend to generalize that all men are or should be like this or that guy instead of having a new individual in front of them. I forgot to add that a woman sleeping around is way more bound to fuck around with shitty men, but that point is moot at this point. Your feelings are 100% valid in my opinion.

As for your question, how did I feel. Fucking betrayed as all fuck. In a instance every sacrifice I made for her was invalid, and every white lie she told me up to that point about the possibility of such a thing was just lies.

"I thought you said you would never do that to me, and you used it as a pushing point to convince me that I better never do that to you... then you just do it? All the sweet nothing comments about how I'm the only man for you... lies. Why not just break up instead of this bullshittery?"

Yeah it was the worst feeling ever. I really wish I just was cheating on her because I can get tons of chicks. I sacrificed that and it was repaid with what I should've just been doing from the start. Cheating my damn self with tons of strange.

Missed out on all that hawt strange for that.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Hurt and sad and devastated, that someone you loved could actually do that to you that you gave your heart to , Asking myself , What did I do wrong , why would she do this to me , back and fourth feelings and emotions running through you , the trust you had with them is broken , the respect you had for them is gone. Being cheated on is a horrible feeling , that will take you a long time to forgive , but you never forget

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

I felt nothing. Can't be surprised when you know it's what they'd do, and can't be hurt when the love is long gone.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

It was a learning process. Thankfully, I learned that lesson about men when I was a young teenager.

Fireguy17 · Answer

pretty down.
I caught my now (of many years ago) ex wife with the landlord.
I knew something was going on, just not with who.
I did the come home early thing and he was backing into the closet trying to pull his pants up, and she was trying to cover up in bed.
Now it's kind of funny, but not then.
She asked me what are you doing here and I replied I used to live here and walked away.
He was married, and I just watched the whole thing fall like a house of cards.
I am glad I did not do anything stupid, he was not worth going to jail for.
My life ended up great, she sadly had to struggle most of her life.
Her second husband, not the landlord, they never did end up together, was pretty lazy so she had to work her butt off to raise the kids etc.
I guess karma is a fickle bitch!

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Well when I cought my ex in the middle of the scene that same day. I contacted a divorce attorney. Later he got angry few months later when he received the divorce documents. One thing I learn a cheater doesn't deserve forgiveness get an a divorce attorney.

KatieMyGurl · Answer

Happened to me in first relationship. It changed who i was and how i viewed women and relationships.

Ill be honest, i have cheated in every relationship since. Its not that im bitter or still feel anything with regards to my first girlfriend or that relationship after all this time. Not at all. It just opened my eyes to a reality i didn't know existed previously, but am fully aware of now.

ClassicDropout · Answer

I feel like 95% use us for a quick come up and then ghost once they get anour $1000 off us. I feel like 95% of women plan on taking the house as soon as they get married.

boggboss · Answer

95% percent of men are cheaters I get you have gone out with shitty men but don't lump us in the same pool please lol

ihateTaylorSwift · Answer

I lost respect for him to say the least and didn't treat him the same for a while

LiamJHayden · Answer

I've never knowingly had it happen. If it ever did, I'd be thankful that the deceiver was exposed so that I could move on.

Anonymous · Answer

It was pretty brutal. It was a high school girlfriend. We went to different colleges. Something seemed pretty off when I saw her around Christmas. The truth came out a few months later.

Nerdvana · Answer

I was crushed. Devastated. I loved her so much.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm single, so no girl is cheating on me, never, meh :P

WhitneySnow · Answer

Hurt and angry

DrPepper12 · Answer

All good. I was cheating too.

Arizona8 · Answer

I have never been cheated on.

MasterKS · Answer

cheat vs cheat is right way!

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