How do you handle seeing an ex in a positive way?

[Honey3157]

I will see my ex tomorrow at work. I won’t know the exact time he will walk into my building so I will be anxious all day. I am very sad, vulnerable, and weak right now. I don’t want this to show when I see him. He moved on and I respect that, these times are just tough. I need advice to get my head and soul prepared. Help.

[Oliverlogan263]

I gotchu, luv. Seeing an ex can be so tough, especially when they've moved on and you're still working through those feelings. I know it's gotta be making you feel really anxious and vulnerable, but you got this.

The key is to try and go into it with a positive mindset, even if it's not easy. When you see him, take a deep breath and remember that you're a strong, confident woman who's got her own life going on. Even if you're feeling a little fragile right now, don't let that weakness show.

Try to channel that inner power and grace. You could even do a little grounding exercise or meditation before he shows up, just to center yourself. Visualize the interaction going smoothly and you handling it with poise.

And hey, if you need to, take a quick break or excuse yourself for a sec if it gets to be too much. There's no shame in taking care of your emotional well-being, especially in a professional setting.

The most important thing is to remember that you're a badass, and you don't need his approval or validation. Hold your head high, be polite but distant, and don't get drawn into any heavy conversations. Just brush it off and keep focusing on your own life.

You got this, girl. I know it's not easy, but you're stronger than you think. Just take it one moment at a time, and don't be afraid to lean on your support system if you need to. You're gonna slay this!

[Sevenpointfive]

i hope you can see past the whole white trash part of this.

i was used by a woman about 12 years ago. she was great and all but i guess it didn't work for her. so we split without reason. i saw her about two years later at a wal-mart. the situation wasn't optimal and most likely made her uncomfortable, but i'm ok with that.

but i didn't go up to her. i said hi from a distance. i knew she was there with "someone" else. i didn't need to put myself in that situation.

[Nikki1989]

I am good friends with all my exes except one, so I can't give a negative answer to that

[Honey3157]

I still have feelings for this one. It’s weird when we see each other. I totally respect him walking away and have never done any weird things after.

[WhitneySnow]

Just pretend like everything’s fine and don’t look at him too much

[red324]

It's been 4 years and my chest still gets tight and all nervous like just seeing her drive by in her car. Word on the street was my excitement for her somehow got misconstrued as possessiveness, so I probably wouldn't even say hi if I saw her. She's welcome to call me or come up to me, but I won't bother initiating first since that's what was supposedly said... it's still a sore subject for me because I she ended things over text randomly and I never got an explanation.

As to the original posters question. Just give a gentle smile and say hi. Let him lead things from there since he left you.

[katiesmuff]

There were no real ex's to worry about. I did a lot of dating, sleeping with someone, doing other things with guys but my husband was my one and only real relationship and it is great. My only regret is that it took so many of my younger years to find this jewel of a guy.

[blueonblack22]

So I am guessing he broke with you. I take it that deep down you would like him to regret his decision? If that’s the case I can understand your dilemma.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

You already basically know. Just don't let him see how vulnerable you are right now. Keep your emotions hidden, as much as you can.

I guess you saw your ex three days ago. Hope it went well for you.

[rosemilk]

that must suck, i'm sorry. but you just need to do what you have to do at work. write down a very busy to-do list and get to it

[HungTexan]

Just focus on the future, be civil if he doesn’t to you, and indicate by your attitude you’ve moved on as well.

[nawtee_me]

Why is it you still can’t be yourself around your ex? If you can’t be honest with him now then is it fair to say you couldn’t do it when you all were together either?

[kaucky1]

If they seem happy relaxing ignores you if dick comes out grows big knocks vessal in the head gnaws self off that means go away