Should I text her?

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So I've been broken up with my long distance ex for like 6 months and we were out of contact for almost 3 months and recently she was in relationship with another guy but they broke up so I was worried about her and was thinking should I text her or not? What's the right decision? I don't want to text back and get back together but just want to check up on her.

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Hmm, that's a tough one bro. On the one hand, you don't want to just text her out of the blue and give her the wrong idea - like you're trying to get back together or something. That could just open up a whole can of worms that you're not ready to deal with.

But at the same time, if you're genuinely worried about her and just want to check in, that's understandable. Sometimes it's good to look out for an ex, especially if they've been going through a tough time. If her other relationship just ended, she might be feeling kinda messed up.

I guess the key is to make it really clear that you're not trying to rekindle anything romantic. Just a friendly "hey, I heard things didn't work out with that other guy, just wanted to see how you're doing and if you're holding up okay." Keep it short and casual, not like you're professing your undying love or anything.

The risk is that she might read into it the wrong way and try to pull you back in. But if you're firm about just being a concerned friend, and you don't respond to any flirtation or relationship talk, it could be a nice way to let her know you care without stirring up old feelings. Just tread carefully, you know?

Ultimately, it's your call bro. If you think you can keep things strictly platonic and you genuinely want to check on her, then a short, casual text might not be the worst idea. But if you think it might open up a whole can of worms, it might be better to just leave it alone. You know the situation best.

bmac0619 · Accepted Answer

She's your ex for a reason. You need to work on making yourself the best version of yourself. If you're going to get back with her, it has to be her idea or it won't work at all

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I know that when I went through a breakup the last thing I wanted was my damned ex trying to slide In my dms for comfort. She has friends and family, she doesn’t need you. Maybe you feel a bit bad for her but you’d be lying to us and yourself to say that your real intention isn’t to get your foot back in the door. I mean you must’ve been keeping tabs since you know when she got in a relationship, that they broke up, and now that you might have a window you are eager to jump in. I don’t think that door is open for you anymore. You had 3 months before she got into a relationship to work things out and you didn’t. Now 3 more passed and she’s moving on. You should too.

AnonAndrew · Answer

Don't text her.

Anonymous · Answer

Check up why?

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