What are your opinions on whether or not you think that a guy or girl who has been a player in the past could change and be loyal or committed to someone?
I have been talking to someone I go to school with for a while now, although we haven't seen each other yet. I know his past and he has been a player while I am The type of girl who doesn't sleep around and who takes that kind of stuff seriously. He says he has changed and matured and is interested in being with one girl, but do you think it's possible?
I told him I would give him a chance because I believe that people do change. There still is a part of me, though, that fears I may get hurt in the end and maybe he just is enjoying the chase.
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While a player can change, it won't ever be for any girl he is dating. If a player does change it is normally because they get older and lose their good looks, and simply can't be a player anymore. Or that something big happened in their life, such as having a daughter and not being able to stand the thought of men hurting her. I doubt at his young age he has experienced anything that could have caused him to grow up.
Talking about how they have changed and matured, is a classic player line. I have known players that told me that it was a pain having to convince every girl they meet that they have changed. People should be judged based on the decisions they have made. That is the best way to understand what is in their heart. All the signs point to that he is still a player. If he hurts you, and he will, then you have yourself to blame.2