Do Guys mind having sex with a girl who has fissure/hammeriods? Please help me?

[Anonymous]

Okay so im 24 year old female, who has never been kissed, never been on a date, etc etc. ...

now recently very recently iv been seeing a guy That i do like veryyyy much and we have a strong communication and physical attraction.

but the problem is that i know the sex spart will eventually come up... now i have a condition called fissure/hammeriods and its very visble espeacialy if i open my legs you can clearly see it :... im so scared to even thin about having sex with him. Like what if he gets grossed out and dumps me? Oh god 😲...

i thought of surgery but my family tells e to avoid it... so removing it isn't exactly an option atm...

[GingerBear]

If he's at all a mature male, it's not actually going to bother him. If it does, that's pretty sad.

If you don't mind me asking, what have you tried to treat the hemorrhoids with? There are certain ointments and lotions that can be applied to the anus and into the rectum that can, at the very least, relieve the pain and itching associated. They can also, in most milder cases, cure the condition.

[Asker]

Its external im afraid but is there anyway i can possibly shrink them?

[GingerBear]

Those topical treatments should help. Discuss with your doctor or pharmacist to find the right treatment, but definitely give it a go before turning to surgery.
That being said, if you need the surgery, get it.

[Dulcedulcexoxo]

You know they can fix that. Its really a small procedure

[Anonymous]

Maybe be up front with him first, that would scare a guy off not knowing in advance what's wrong seeing it with out warning , does it cause any problems for having sex? A doctor can maybe prescribe something possibly

[Asker]

No there is no problem in having vaginal sex at all... but im scared he might run away

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah it will scare him if you don't mention it first, if it's that bad see if there is a better treatment in fixing it even a second opinion

[Asker]

Its so embrassing. How can i even being this up with him?

[Opinion Owner]

Only do it when things are starting to get serious so he won't be surprised

[Asker]

Okay... thanks a lot...

[Opinion Owner]

But I definitely would consider fixing it though

[Asker]

Why so? I mean id want to but my family tell me to avoid surgery

[Opinion Owner]

Well see how involved surgery would be before deciding or not. I don't know how bad it is so I don't know if it will scare off normal guys

[Asker]

Well its looks pretty visible, but i do keep myself cleaned and groomed ddown there if that helps...

[Opinion Owner]

That helps so I guess if it doesn't feel different than usual and the lights are off you may be fine unless he likes to go down on you it would be an issue

[Asker]

Yea oral might be an issue,...

[Opinion Owner]

Just some of the things you will have to consider

[Asker]

Aww fuck..

[hellionthesage]

Well, how visible, aren't those found only on the anus? If so that wouldn't be that noticible. Also have you tried other remedies. It might not be pleasent but I don't think its going to be break up worthy.

[Humping_Tornadoes]

How much trust you have with this guy? Maybe it's best to discuss it instead of letting him have the surprise. Too much STD's and stuff going on the honest truth is he might freak out.

[Asker]

No i dont have stds or anything else going on...

[Hades77]

Sorry to be a killer, but no, I will not have sex with... yeah.

[NYkid27]

What does it look like? You can send me a picture and I'll tell you if it would completely turn me off or not

[Anonymous]

Hammeroids... WOW... is that like hemorrhoids but with hammers?

[WalterRadio]

Go to the doctor. Get it fixed.

[Asker]

So its really That bad?

[WalterRadio]

If it is bad enough for you to care, then it is bad enough for you to see a doctor. It can be fixed, and afterwards, you won't have to worry about it. The sooner you get it over with, the sooner you can forget about it and stop worrying about it.

If you couldn't see well enough to read street signs, you would get glasses. If your tooth ached, you would see a dentist. If your arm broke, you would go to the ER. Just take care of it.

[Asker]

Well its not Bad like that im physicaly fine and stable, im Just worried that the guy im seeing might get grossed out or dump me, that would be devastating...

[WalterRadio]

You are NOT listening.

[Asker]

Ohhhhh..

[Anonymous]

The people on here give terrible advice, no it will not scare him off.

[UhDopeDude]

Ew yea that's disgusting don't touch me

[Polocrew]

Yea that'd be gross Tbh, just fix it