Hey, I'm Korean American who moved to the US around 7 or 8 years ago, and I know exactly what you are going through. I'm also interested in white, blonde, green/blue eyed girls and many of them showed me interest. I'm young, but a lot of the posters here don't really know 100% what it feels like to be an Asian in the dating world so please listen to me!
There are so many negative Asian stereotypes and the media portrays us as losers. Some white girls in some areas are not exposed to many Asians, and as a result they will assume that you are somewhat nerdy, awkward, weird, etc.
Over the last week of participating in this site, I've noticed that a lot of the girls and guys are overly positive when they are responding to comments. A lot of the girls said, "Height is not a problem for me, blah blah", but to be honest, research has shown that height is the FIRST thing in the list for many girls, more important than looks, wealth, social status, build, personality, etc. I recently had a poll called, "What is the BEST height" and over 100 people participated in it. Most people said 6 feet was the most desirable. Go to my profile and check it out.
There are many negative stereotypes of Asian Americans, but I figured out a way to stand out and beat the stereotypes. I wish I can tell you more but this site is only allowing me to type 2500 words so let me summarize.
1.) SHOW CONFIDENCE. Girls, especially white girls, want confident guys who go for whatever they want. You need to be the one initiating. You need to be the one keeping the conversation going, get her number, take her out to dates, and repeat that process. Show confidence by
-Learn how to walk taller and confidently (look this up in google).
-Learn how to talk without stuttering and get rid of an accent if you have one. Asians tend to lack testosterone and as a result we have a higher voice. Try to lower it a bit.
-Take care of yourself. Get the right haircut for your face, get fitting clothes that make you look taller, etc.
-Get rejected a lot and don't take it personally. The point is to get experience rather than get as many girls as possible. At first initiating will be extremely awkward, but it's okay if you get rejected. You will start to notice your mistakes and improve yourself as time passes.
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Average height for males in the US is actually about 5'8"-5'10" in general. So you are right there among those of average height. And I've seen lots of guys shorter than that, who have girlfriends. So the height is no issue at all.
You are only 20, and still have a lot of time in life to find someone. Seriously, at 20, you still have the whole world in front of you.
Just keep talking to and going after the girls you like, and try not to feel any pressure that you have to come across as impressive every time you open your mouth to say something to her. That's one of the top anxieties guys have that causes them to be shy and socially anxious in front of girls. Nobody will be funny and/or badass all the time, or even most of the time. We're just human. Some moments, you will get to shine and be the coolest guy in the room. But most moments in life will be unremarkable and mundane. Some moments will be lame. But that's just life.
Just relax and talk, and eventually a girl you like will open up to you too.
5'8" isn't even that short. Of course a girl would date guys your height. There are a lot of great, open minded girls out there so don't think that factors you can't change like race and height (after a certain time) will hold you back.
Im 5'7" with a 5'6" fiance.
Not a big deal to most girls i dont think.
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I'm 5'5" and I've never had a problem. I've dated girls up to 5'9". Nice thing is you'll avoid all of the shallow ones. Really, just be intelligent and be kind and you'll have no issue.
I dated a guy that was 5'4 once and I am 5'3. Height is not a problem for me.
if ur 5'8" then ur not Asian. Asians are no taller than 5'5"
5'8 is not short yes you do.
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