The thing is as for now I lack confidence and quite a insecure person. I know that's a big turn off for girls. I had rough childhood I know that a lot of people had it worse than me but it brings a lot of crap to me even right now when i'm 20. I'm not ugly or anything accualy i'm quite pretty. I find it incredibly hard to flirt with woman, doing some playfull things, a lot of times I'm just being direct and honest (it is realy hard for me to behave differently) and I get a lot of compliments for being that way but it doesn't atrract woman. A lot of times i'm just too goofy, awkward and serious at the same time. I'm complete shit at this so called game. There is a lot of people that love me and a lot of people that I love, but I want somebody to desire me sexually, I never felt it. What I want to ask is whether i should continue searching for a girl, which will bring my confidence up, or sort my shit out and try later when I will feel less awkward and insecure. By the way I'm not native English speaker so there could be mistakes.
Most Helpful Girl
Insecurity is unattractive while confidence is attractive. Understanding and accepting that is the first step, so you're on the right track. You should definitely work to improve your self-esteem and confidence before getting into a relationship because being insecure in a relationship often causes bigger problems and failed relationships. If you want a healthy relationship, then you have to be a mentally healthy individual first. The bonus is that being a mentally healthy individual will automatically make you more attractive
What's your biggest problem with talking to women? Is it with all women or only attractive ones? My best advice for this issue is to start with casual small talk with waitresses and cashiers in situations with limited interaction and an easy out if the conversation turns south. Overall being more social with strangers will make you more comfortable talking to women you're attracted to2
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Most Helpful Guy
Insecure guys will get nowhere with women. Insecure = no confidence, and we all know how confidence is crucial when getting a girl.0