How do you guys feel about getting rejected after the second date?

[ladylittle]

I'm about to go on a second date with a guy since I wanted to treat him out this time as a friend since he treated me out yesterday for our date. I wanted to tell him up front that I don't want to be in a relationship atm.. Is that okay or does giving him that second "date" make him get his hopes up...

[Barrabus_the_Free]

You should have told him after the first date. Hell, you should have told him BEFORE the first date. If you truly didn't want to be in a relationship, you WOULD have told him before. Now that you know you don't want to be in a relationship WITH HIM, you should tell him before the second date. Don't waste any more of his time.

[ladylittle]

I had a lot of fun on our first date but I wasn't sure whether or not I want to be in a relationship. And I completely understand why I should've told him right away that I wasn't very decisive and I didn't want to make a half-hearted decision. Thanks a lot though for the answer

[Barrabus_the_Free]

Sure thing.

Please do the decent thing and tell him before the second date. And not over text, either. That's a shitty way to tell someone this kind of thing.

[ladylittle]

Thanks a lot again!

[MadeInAmerica]

Yeah it is. He is coming in thinking everything is good and you are about to be nice to him then stick the dagger in. Just tell in person or even over the phone that your not interested. To me that's better than wasting my time and rejecting me in public fashion.

[ladylittle]

Would it been fine if I just told him on text?

[MadeInAmerica]

Are you trying to be an ass? Haha jk. I think in person or a phone call would be better. Texting something like that is so lazy to me.

[ladylittle]

Hahah yeah I don't think that's right.. Thanks a lot for helping

[BellePepper]

You should tell him before the date otherwise he's going to be confused.

[Anonymous]

You just want to go out with him again to return the favor and pay this time? You don't have to do that. He asked you out, he knew full well that he had to pay even if you never see each other again. Tough luck for him. Be happy you got a free meal and move on. Don't give him false hope.

[TomBradysJersey]

I've taken rejection personally before

[Regular1]

Give him a BJ before telling him the bad news.