With this type of profile pic: If a guy had a belly (not fat just a belly) he would not get any response from women, they would laugh at him and think he is a creep. So why is having six pack abs the only way to attract women let alone talk to them because they will not talk to you even in a normal manner like "hi hello hows the weather today?" unless you meet a long list of requirements six pack abs being one of them.
Note: This is not a picture of me or anyone I know this was taken off of google images.
On dating sites/apps why do women only respond to this type of guy?
I think your look for the wrong type of girl! I love keeps and dirt bikes and being out doors if I seen the profile pic and the guy was out fishing or on a atv or in a jeep or truck that would interest me because I like that stuff. Put a picture up of something you love doing and a girl that likes that will want to talk. I have been with my boyfriend for five years and he doesn't have a six pack and prob never will and that doesn't matter because I'm not the kind of girl that needs a super model boyfriend and there's a lot of other girls like that you just gotta fine them.
I don't know about other women, but when I was on dating sites I never responded to disembodied torsos. I figured the guy was trying to hide something, and was probably just looking for sexting. But as for why a woman would respond to guy with a nice muscular chest vs a dude with a belly, isn't that obvious? Would you rather respond to a skinny girl with big boobs or an flat-chested girl with a bit of a tummy? Women like attractive bodies too, duh.
Actually if that's his profile pic I don't go for him. He can have the pic in his profile but his profile picture better have his face in it. This kind of pic implies douchebaggery tbh (not saying this makes the guy a douchebag but if he has this picture and a whole bunch chest pics, dick pics and post working out gym pics) it tells me he's not for me
The same reason why men message this type of girl who happens to look like this or has pictures like this: adigitalboom.com/.../...50ryjOhb81taj1flo1_500.jpg People like and usually go after men and women they find attractive.
It's the law of nature. If any person sees a person with a fit body, they think they're not lazy and takes care of things. Also, we have always been attracted to the above average type since the cave man days. But butts and hips means she more likely to have a healthy baby. Big Strong muscular men are more likely to bring food home. It's in our DNA.
My dad has been fat (over 300lbs) all my life, and he's the most productive and active man I know, even in his 60s. And I've personally seen him beat the snot out of an armed man who tried to rob us with a gun. And that guy, was very fit and toned, but he was obviously a weak little coward.
My dad's two brothers, older and younger, are both thin, fit and trim, and can't perform half as well athletically as my father, whom has always the trophy winning sportsman in the family.
Yeah, that picture doesn't tell me how smart, deep, or passionate you are, and it doesn't tell me why you're into the things your into, which is why I cannot develop an attraction to you until after I've gotten to know your mind for a few weeks.
Sapeosexual, only attracted to intellect, not by looks. As a result, MOST of the men I have fallen for would be deemed "unattractive" by mainstream society.
I haven't been to any dating sites. tho i did use chatous which would allow you to chat with strangers. and there was this one guy who sent a picture of himself right after a few lines, which is really ripped, just like that on the picture.
Let's just say he has a great body and that's it. 😂
so nah. won't have biases on that kind of DPs really.
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Not every girl. I like a man with a belly. So much better to cuddle with and kind of sexy too. I know my boyfriend has a belly and I find it damn sexy. A guy like that (in the picture) is a total turn off for me. He has too much muscle. So not al girls prefer a guy with abs.
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What you're saying is not true. Girls get a lot more messages than guys so they respond to only the best ones. But it's not the hottest guys with the best abs. We look at everything in their profile. We care a lot about what he writes and how he seems when he writes to us. Nice + average looking is better than great looking + being a douche.
I don't even give a chance to people who have that kinda profile pictures. That just signals "Hey, I've no substance in my life except for gym and sex".
I like chubby guys so... also it might not be a problem with looks but rather personality conflicts, you need to hook a girl and often enough looks can do that but what helps is a good cologne, good hair and a decent style sense. Also this type of guy is attractive to women because biologically we want someone who can provide for us, therefore we see strength and that means a suitable match. And a follow up, do you have a problem with women who are overweight? Because if you do then you know exactly why. But if you don't then more power to ya.
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So "we don't care about looks, we only care about personality" is a lie?
Also you contradict yourself, you say six pack ab = provider yet you said that you like chubby guys. Why would you date the type of guy you consider the opposite of "provider".
If what you say is true then all guys with six pack abs are rich but you and I know that is a lie.
You can't assume anything about a person just by their physical appearance. "he must be lazy and broke because he has no abs" is a very stupid and naive way of thinking.
Not really, if you look at psychological studies that data correlates with my words. Also just because I like chubby guys doesn't mean I'm a liar, it's a preference like brown hair or blue eyes. Why would guys with a sic pack be rich, I literally said nothing about money and yes you can assume a lot about someone by their appearance because it a a reflection of their personality. There is a reason why when you think of a professional man or woman you think of a well groomed person. I think you have a hang up on money.
And yes looks matter, they are the first thing you see, you have to be attracted to the person to be able to form a relationship, and looks that people prefer depend on the individual.
*says I have a hang up on money* *says women choose attractive men because attractiveness is supposedly a sign of being a good provider*
Provider = He who brings money to the table in the form of a job or source of income.
You cannot tell someones personality just by how they look. That is a ridiculous and shallow way of thinking. YOU are the one who said that attractive = provider and provider = money. Your words not mine.
But I understand why you have such a mentality and way of thinking, "women" of my generation are immature after all.
So some people are and will remain single virgins for the rest of their life for being single? And that is acceptable to you? It's ok for some people like myself to suffer?
... I was wrong it's not your looks or your belly that prevents you from being a virgin... it is your personality. You could have a six pack and looks from Apollo but with your entitlement to want women to want you, you become as ugly as hephaestus. And being a virgin isn't a life debilitating disease, it isn't and incurable cancer... grow up
woah, I never said anything about money. My goodness, listen, I grew up with a single mother, my sister makes thousands more than her husband as she is a doctor, I myself have a decent career as a IT specialist. I don't need a man's money. I also never said that men should provide, I firmly believe that if you are in a relationship you both contribute... but I also want a compatible match I have needs that need to be met, that isn't superficial, that's logical. A woman isn't going to settle for anything but what she deserves, if a woman is single then there is no reason why she shouldn't be happier that way. I am just trying to helpnyou understand another point of view. you asked a question and got an answer. It is neither my fault or my problem whether you like it or not.
@xianduchene What am i hateful of exactly? It's clear that you have nothing constructive to say and just resort to inviting these male feminists to come and insult me. Im used to it though. It's GAG after all where if you debate with a woman she will have some guy come and attack you on her behalf.
xian, to be fair you also need to work on your communication skills. you should be able to identify where the conversation go south from the first couple of replies.
So no answer then. Looks like you just can't handle opposing opinions and resort to ad hominem attacks and using desperate horny men to come and attack me.
haha I have a total Mic dropping last line though " Through war we braved, bloodied the noble clan of big bad wolf, as we recount our losses one chant falls over the fallen feminists"
"the voices heralded through the valley over yonder to where the mightly Lord big bad slouched, his slight stomach touching out... and it was heard "At least we are not virgins" "
lol. I don't know. maybe because i reply to her but not you? its her comment afterall.
seriously though, look around. people think you're a douche. but i see its mostly because you're an angry teen who looks at people's comments negatively.
if you stop and read her original comment again, slowly, you can see what i meant. its not the best written comment for sure, but you choose to take it the wrong way
@Aming BUT IT'S MY POST YOU BLOODY BASTARD. YOU ARE A VERY BAD PERSON. I AM GOOD YOU ARE BAD. STOP COMMENTING HERE. IF YOU WANT TO CONTINUE TALKING TO THIS UGLY CHINK DO IT ELSEWHERE STOP FLOODING MY NOTIFICATIONS SMALL BOY.
CAllING PEOPLE UGLY IS NOT COOL. HARASSING PEOPLE IS NOT COOL. INSULTING PEOPLE IN A SMUG MANNER IS NOT COOL, GANGING UP ON A INNOCENT PERSON LIKE ME IS NOT COOL, PROVOKING PEOPLE IS NOT COOL!!!
@Arya_Christ well, on this site at least, men tend to call women at a healthy weight fat, so I assume not many guys on dating sites/apps are accepting of chubby women either.
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