I'm 20 and I want my boyfriend to impregnate me?

[Anonymous]

I have a loving boyfriend who wants to marry me and have children someday in the very near future.
I've always wanted this for myself and for years wanted to raise a family.
Thing is I'm still a third year in college (UC Berkeley) but he's got a very steady job with stable/reliable income at 23 years old. A part of me wants to wait until I graduate. But a much much bigger part of me wants to just go ahead and try to conceive even though I'm a virgin.
Thoughts?

[MissRecluse]

If your unsure dont. If your on your way to being stable once education is done then wait until that's done because a baby will take every second of your time up and it's very unlikely you'll stick to a hectic collage schedule with a full time job as mum. Also discuss it with your partner and discuss if you two are really comfortable enough finance wise and all around relationship and life wise to even think about bringing another life into this world that will depend on you two for everything. Good luck.

[Xoxocutekitty]

you can have sex, and not get pregnant if you use birth control. You can even go on the pill, and fantasize that he's impregnating you if that floats your boat. If its for religious reasons you shouldn't use birth control, you can justify that if god truly wanted you to conceive, then it would be against statistical odds, and it was truly meant to be. Finish your education, you'll be able to support your family in the long run more (financially) if you hold a bachelors degree than if you don't.

[Wonderer89]

If you’re both equally financially stable and could raise a child solo as well as together then sure. If there is any doubt that you could do it alone financially and emotionally then you shouldn’t be doing it.

[Anon85]

Wait until you're married. Relationships can turn sour fast so just keep looking forward to it. If you want that degree you have to wait, but if you plan on staying home with the kids then you might want to consider cutting off that influx of student debt.

[Anon85]

But you have to get your future plans sorted out before you make such drastic changes to the status quo

[WalterRadio]

Actually, it sounds more like you just want to have sex, rather than raise a child right now.

What you should do is get on birth control, then have all the sex you want. After you graduate, wait one year, then get married if you still want to.

[Asker]

Why do you argue I'd want sex rather than a child?

[WalterRadio]

Because I know women who have confused the two, only to figure it out years later when they realized they made the biggest mistake of their lives.

[Asker]

Thing is... I've wanted a little one of my own for years. Ever since I myself was a child really

[WalterRadio]

A classmate of mine in middle school said the same thing. She dropped out of hs at 16, got married and had a baby. She has now been married four times and is as dirt poor as ever.

[Kreneman]

I would still wait because your still in school and its even better when your married and graduated from school so you can spend more time with your upcoming family and get into your career. 😊

[thomascale18]

You should wait till you're married before thinking about kids. You could have protected sex for now.

[jaechius]

please wait. just a few years. young, and you are young, pregnancies are really tough. my wife and i were 23 and 22 and it will forever change you

[Asker]

Do you guys regret having your first child so young?

[jaechius]

yes. i love my Mint like no other. but i wish iwas more stable and better with finances. a few years lets you cement your bearings

[Asker]

Personal Q I know, but who pushed for sex at that age? You or her? Do you think you guys could have lasted and be married today if you guys had waited to have sex a few years later?

[jaechius]

i pushed. and it wasn't premature sex, pregnancy was only one of many factors that led to a failed marriage

[Asker]

Are you guys still married?

[jaechius]

technically, but i feel like divorce is inevitable

[Walrus_au]

College is hard enough under normal conditions - hold off till you graduate, that will open up future options for you, and won't cut off what you want to do.

[Pink2000]

Getting married and having babies at 20 is like leaving a party st 9:15

[Anonymus2017]

Having a kid is great and all, especially with someone you love.

But youhave to think first...

Are you financially stable enough to afford a child?

If so, do what you want. Go for it.

[Iamaguy4real]

Tell him he playing with the teacher, so you leave him

[disgustingweebtrash]

Normal, most women want to get pregnant but they deny it

[momiamhere]

It's your life that will live that's why think well then decide.

[Ryaan]

I'd wait and allso small fact women can still get pregnant at 50

[Danielleo]

not really and your only 13 .

[Drooogie4]

Waiting is definitely the better option

[krishh0805]

Do you want kids now?

[Asker]

Honestly... yes.
I know it sounds selfish but I really truly do.

[Groisu]

You underestimate how expensive diapers are

[otternk15]

Wait 5 years trust me

[sebas123]

Concentrate on ur studies and find a good job

[BronzedAdonis]

Id probably do it

[Marinepilot]

Why not? Go for it.

[jeffrey604]

Graduate first.

[Anonymous]

I think you're dumb