Yes or No - Dating a woman who has kids?

[wolfcat87]

How do you feel about dating a woman who has kids?

Does it matter?

Does your opinion change based on how long she waits to tell you?

Does the number of kids matter?

Do their ages matter?

Does it change how many kids you envision having with a woman if you do end up with a woman with kids?

Would you stay with a woman even if you did not like her kids?



I have seen so many different scenarios, but i know that the stories we see are often not what's happening everywhere.

[art84]

Probably no and the reason is having that extra baggage of children to take care of who aren't even mine. I just kinda feel like trapped in taking care of children who I would have to play second fiddle to as the children come first in the relationship. I like children but would rather have my own then raise children who might not even like me replacing their dad.

[wolfcat87]

That is a well thought out and more than fair response. Thank you for taking the time to write it!

[dragon9669]

I would expect to be told within two months. Nothing else matters

[Band_freak]

Well I'm 17 so no I wouldn't

[ps20872]

U have kids?

[Band_freak]

@ps20872 no?

[ThatPersonOverThere]

If I have 0 kids I will date a woman with 2 kids max. If I already have 1 then she can only have 1 max. This is for the future event that we really love each other we would want to have a child together. So 3 kids in the back seat, 2 adults up front. I'm not getting a minivan.

[ChrisWP1]

I have no problem with it.
No, if she waits it most likely because she wants to be sure the guy she's seeing is a man with honor and integrity. Before she trust him around her children.
I feel if she has a few kids with all different father's then yes it does matter.
Age does not matter, it may be a little more difficult.
If I care about her and I know she has children then it's my responsibility to step up to the plate.
I would not stay if it causes problems amongst us.

[kmsdoggo]

My brother is with a woman with two children. Both boys. He just recently found out that they were having a little boy. He loves her dearly and the kids see him as their dad. No problems for him.

[Malomy]

If she want to date because she likes the other person instead of dating to find someone to sustain her and kids i see no problems.

[najekim]

When you get into your 40's almost every women also in their 40's from then on will have kids.
So get used to the fact that you'll have no choice about the matter.

[Marinepilot]

Date younger women then. No instant Papa for me. That's settling in my opinion.

[Furuok]

It would a trial based relationship. Kids definitely make the decision. And the couple should be in love before adventuring into more. Yes i would try to if it were me.

[Marinepilot]

I can't do it. I've been involved with three single mothers. Never again. Some men can seamlessly. I'll be dipped in shit before I play second best to kids aren't mine. And many men feel this way. Many guys use single moms for pump and dump. I've done it.
No, women with children by another man are off my radar. If this is in evil in me, so be it.

[clintonisinpune]

Would depend. But for me wouldn't be a deal breaker, just as long as everything clicked.

[clampfan101]

It wouldn’t be a deal breaker, but pretty close to one tbh. :/

[Malesekhar]

No problem... we can date anyone... but you should take it positively... date means to share your feeling... and we can share our feeling to anyone

[WalterRadio]

I have dated married women who have kids and a couple of others, but in all cases, they are throwaways. I date them just to have sex with them, not for a relationship.

[sidvt]

Nothing changes n it's OK to date woman with children

[Good_Behavior]

I would only date a woman who has kids of she was receiving child support.

[Wollu]

A no go. Why should I deal with the leftovers of another guy? And I would have no priority for this woman except as a supplier. Not desirable at all.

[Solias]

Only a no if I feel I'm being forced into a fatherly position

[skeetskeetskeet]

I made that mistake 2 times...1 kid was cool as hell. Bit the others kid was a fucking brat... I won't do the kid thing again because I don't want to be playing baby daddy to her mistakes

[Lumberman53TheSecond]

No a woman having kids is a dealbreaker because I don't even want kids of my own let alone someone else's kids

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

It's a no for me. I'm not interested in raising another man's orgasm.

[cadans]

I would date her ıf i liked her. Kids are nice, i wouldn't bother

[apple24]

Oh hell no. No smart or rich man would marry a single mother.

[wolfcat87]

Hmmm... I've seen both types of men do so.

[apple24]

Hmm. Then he not smart and should be thrown out to the lions. Why would a rich and smart man who can have any pussy pick a women who already has kids. A man like that rare would want kids and a family of his own. No man want to raised kids that don't belong to him.

[wolfcat87]

Hmmm... It's actually quite common for smart and well off men to marry women who already have kids. That's why mixed families with step parents and step children are so common. It does not mean the man is not smart, it just means he appreciates the quality of the woman and either likes kids or does not mind them. Some men also use it to see how good of a mother she would be to his own kids rather than gambling on a non mom. Men have their reasons. A lot of the woman sleeping with rich and smart men are only gold diggers and do not want to ruin their figures with kids. A woman who already has kids is more likely to be okay with more, and she is easier to read in what she wants in life over money.

[apple24]

I am telling you. Guys don't think the way we think. I listen to enough mgtow and self actualized guys. They don't want that. They prefer a women who has not baggage. They don't want someone who has kids from several men or a man. The type to marry single mother are those who couldn't do any better. A man who can have anyone. I mean anyone would rather pick someone young. Also all women are gold digger. We all use men for their resources. That's human nature. We use men for money and they use us for sex. But regardless those smart men never want marry. They don't want give up their wealth.

[wolfcat87]

Maybe the men you know are like that. I get how men think for the most part. I've always gotten along with men and understood them better. Even the ones who don't want the "baggage" don't care if the woman has a career and is paying for her children.

All women are not gold diggers... That's actually what I see men fear more than step children.

You have a very cynical view of the world. It's not like that at all in most cases. Smart does not mean a penny pincher. Those guys die old and alone. Smart means doing what makes a man happy while still succeeding in life. Very often that just involves finding the right hard working and committed woman whether she has children or not.

One of my wealthy male friends says, "I don't care if she works at McD's, as long as she works hard, loves what she does, is happy, and will be a good wife to me and a good mom to my kids." He actually didn't hit success until he was abut 30, and he understands that not everyone is so fortunate.

[apple24]

lol 😂 what a pussy of a man. I think all the men you know are stupid. He wasn't lucky. Luck doesn't make some one rich it's take smarts. Smart enough not to get kids out of wed lock and pay child support. like I said a man who could get better would not dare date single mothers. Yes you can find a man well a man who a single father or a man who couldn't have children. Or a poor working man who is cluesless and had no more options. I am sorry but single mothers are not what they want. in my opinion, single mother Decided to be indeed single mother. Poor life choices and poor decisions making. How could you give a child life when you pick a man that wasn't capable of begin a father.

[apple24]

Regardless this is the way very smart rich men think. Even if you disagree. You should listen to some mgtow- men going their own way and people like Tom Leykis. Although there is different forms of men and different philosophy. They all agree that single mother is the least thing they would want. I am sorry but the truth hurts. Also, it would be foolish not to think women are gold diggers. We all are and it's always been that way.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

@apple24: You're 100% correct. Only a simp or desperate bottom feeders will raise or want to seriously be with a single mom.

It's humiliating to a man's nature to be around or raising kids that don't belong to him.

Every time he looks at the kid it must remind him it's someone else's nut.

[wolfcat87]

We'll just have to agree to disagree when you start insulting men who don't fit a very tiny idea of what you think men should be like. When you're a billionaire male, please get back to me. Bring your billionaire male friends for their opinions too.

[wolfcat87]

@Hispanic-Cool-Guy Yeah, that's totally why so many people adopt kids. Just to remind their selves that they are not their kids... XD

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Those kids actually have no parents. I'm talking about a man that screws a woman then decides to leave her to be a single mom because she was silly and not smart enough to choose a good man in her life. Big difference.

[apple24]

@Hispanic-Cool-Guy thanks you! Exactly! She only know pussy type guys. If I were a rich man I wouldn't even be associated with single mother.

[2Real4U]

Betas & Alpha Cucks, I've dated single moms in the past (to give a benefit of the doubt) and it was always take take take, me me me, there is no room for us, when it's all about you. Period and stop. Why add frustration, drama, expenses and extra crap to life that wasn't your doing in the first place, hard enough to have a relationship without adding the dynamics of another mans child into the picture. I love kids, have one of my own, but in the end it indicates possibly one of a few things or all them... 1) She has no discernment when it comes to choosing men that will be a good father 2) She f*cked over the good man that was the father and this is a huge red flag 3) She is a baby making factory to get the $ and to a wealthy man that's a HUGE F*CKING RED FLAG!!! He's worked hard, and if he has 2 brain cells why the f*ck would he put his life's effort into a potential disaster when there are so many single women to choose from? He doesn't, if he does it's because he's a thirsty f*ck)

[wolfcat87]

@2Real4U Wow, sounds a bit jaded. Maybe you just went for the wrong women.

[2Real4U]

LMFAO nice try little girl, shame tactics don't work on this dawg, I just know how the game is played, you sound jaded b*tch because you be a single mom and men be seeing your game and exposing you make you all twisted up. I am here to tell truths and save men, also allow single ladies to get those good men instead of them falling prey to a single mom. You hate because truth hurts, enjoy your section 8 and cats... you ain't getting my $, cheers!

[wolfcat87]

@2Real4U Being jaded is not shameful... yikes. It just means you let the world get to you instead of rising above it. Happens to people every day. It's all about how you choose to see the world and react to it. No wrong way to go about it really. Whatever makes you two happy. You'd make a cute couple.

[2Real4U]

lol nice try I'm not bitter, you're mistaking indifference for bitterness, to be bitter I have to care, I don't, hence why I leave behind those who don't add value to my life, as it's valuable, aka single moms = take from you, don't add value, period... enjoy your illusions... I prefer reality...

[wolfcat87]

@2Real4U I don't think any indifferent person would bother to comment with such vitriol. Having a few bad experiences and deciding they define the world certainly seems to have turned you jaded. If every person judged a whole set of experiences by those standards, I think we'd mostly give up on dating and relationships at all, ha ha.

[2Real4U]

lol you just used up my last give a f*ck for the day, this is why you will be poor as f*ck and a single mom... I'm here for the men that would fall for your trap, I give to the world and educate young bucks and betas of the games to save them decades of b. s., modern savior... hate on me, I love it, proves that I touched on a sore point and truths and all can see that, no amount of 'shaming' hidden as 'goodness' will work on this dawg, I'm free of those shackles and the plantation. Cheers. No more responses to your nonsense and false reality, believe your prince charming will come and enjoy poverty & cats ;)

[wolfcat87]

@2Real4U I'm not poor or a single mom. I've been with my husband for over 10 years. So, you're really only here for yourself, hon. I don't hate you at all. Hate is a toxic emotion.

[apple24]

@2Real4U the very fact that she asking this question is evidence that single mom are not great for dating. Just look at the question.

[wolfcat87]

Ha ha ha, again, I've been with my husband for over 10 years. How long have you two been happily married again? I would imagine it's hard to succeed at much in life while making so many inaccurate assumptions about the world around you.

[2Real4U]

Just amuses me, I was married for over 15 years and you're right evidence that single moms are not a viable option for dating. Wealthy men do not invest in a bankrupt/failing business, it's about checks & balances, assets vs liabilities, and 99.99% of single moms are liabilities not assets (bring very little to the table except needs/wants). Waste of time talking to left wing SJW's, time saved for people who have sense, like yourself as that will only make the world a better place. I believe in truths, not fantasies, I am a true giver and love myself and give time to those who deserve it. Cheers apple24

[apple24]

@2Real4U I know. I wish single mother realized how much they hurt their kids. I didn't realized how fucked up and how much feminist crap I swallowed. You hear single mother as independent and amazing. Yeah they opening their legs without first making the proper measure to not let their future kids suffer. You pick a crappy man and now someone has to pay for it. Yes your kids have to pay for your dumb decisions. Women need to get logical. It's not about feelings! It's about logic and fact. You don't fuck a bad boy thinking he will be a great dad... you open your legs because of irresponsibility... we have so many way to prevent child birth. At the end we are responsible for our decisions...

[wolfcat87]

The problem with the logic here is how many successful women choose to become single mothers. Not every woman wants a man to drag her children down. It's much better to be a single mother if you're a good mom than it is to keep around a man for a dysfunctional relationship for the children to have to see. Women end up single moms for many reasons. There are so many that I can't really list them all here. To jump to conclusions is just ignorant.

A lot of single moms may be a mistake, but that does not mean the majority are. It seems you both are falling more into the welfare queen stereotype of a mother than the legitimate majority of single moms who may have been in committed relationships that just don't work out. Those women are reclaimed extremely quickly and don't stay single long. Hmmm... So many marriages end in death or divorce. So many relationships fail because they had kids and not before. Why assume anything?

[2Real4U]

Without 'Daddy Government' & extortion of taxes which grossly is 75% from men filtered to women through divorce, alimony and taxes women wouldn't be given entitlement + and benefits above men. Cucked men gave a inch, women abused the system and men let it happen. Men are going their own way. When you say 'go ahead, we don't need you' great then let all of civilization fall as men are the ones who built it, maintain it and have since the beginning of time, think robots will do the work, yeah, who will fix the robots... enjoy your feminist fantasy... tides are turning and women are quickly jumping ship from the brainwashing because they realize life is fairly long and they don't want to fend for themselves in a collapse, tell me your stronger when the world crumbles, bring it... truth hurts, family unit destroyed by women who drank the coolaid that they were 'oppressed' while men went out, killed themselves literally in wars, on the job (look up statistics) while women chilled at home!

[2Real4U]

apple24 It's good to see that you see through the crap that feminism has created, the only way society will prosper and gain 'sane' balance is young women such as yourself seeing the 'game' society is creating to make the 'elites' richer by controlling the masses (feminism), which is not equality, it's about entitlements over the opposite gender for profit (corporations & government makes money from destroying families, women spend more money on purchases (just different mindset men vs women) so they had to figure out how to be able to tax more people, how do you do it? Destroy the single family income, increase inflation, create court system to filter money from men (as they don't spend) to women, and voila, judges, lawyers, government systems, corporations & the elite get richer. Men and women then suffer, whatever I'm off the plantation, I hope it corrects so you, my son and future generation have a fighting chance for peace. I'm out!