Guys, would you date a tomboy?

[Anonymous]

Now I'm a tomboy who was raised to do mostly guy things and girl things as well but I don't wear makeup, I wear guys clothes like t shirts and oversized hoodies. I even have somewhat a guyish body but that's not really something I can control having. I enjoy playing video games and less drama and bullshit and I love honesty and being brutally honest. In general I get along with guys better but for some reason lots of guys don't like hanging out with me or such girls they like hanging out with cute girls.
So my question is would you date a girl who isn't feminine? who doesn't wear makeup or dresses or skirts? and in general has more of a personality that gets along with the guys?
I'm not completely dude-ish but I guess mostly tomboy.

[Nik1hil]

if you are a tomboy, then it is really good deal, since you do not carry feminine drama with you,
just work on few things...
Have a fit and body in shape, body type does not matters..
plzz at least have 6 Inches of Head hairs
if you are going with short hair do not go shorter then this..
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i know you are good with guy dresses, i might even be okay if you want to wear tuxedo when you go to a social event instead of gown.. but i would love it if you went with female dress instead of one just like me.

There are other things that vary from person to person , just talk to the boy and you will find out..

and trust me, if you are a tomboy, you can steal men from even the most beautiful women, because you have perks that feminine drama queens can never give..

[ksoma]

Yes. A lot of guys who shy away from tomboys, I think, see them and think they are either lesbians, or that they are "butch" types who happen to be straight.
They're not. They're women, even if some of their style and interests are not classically "feminine," but even then, look deeper?
Lots of tomboys, in my experience, have some extremely feminine traits. Some are just hidden, and some would be more prominent, but she is afraid to show them for one reason or another. In any case, I never saw a legitimate reason to discount tomboys.

[OjosOscuros2]

I knew a girl once that was so dudish I thought she was a lesbian. Then I found out she had babies and saw her boyfriend and he was one of the hottest guys I’ve ever seen. There is definitely hope for you my friend.

[Asker]

but was she good looking like a nice face or body or was she average maybe that is why

[OjosOscuros2]

She was skinny, wore baggy clothes, so not sure if she had curves, and had messed up skin and really short hair. She had nice features I guess but honestly she looked like a druggie at times.

[Halligan]

I’m a tomboy, was in a male dominated career, and am happily married. I do like to dress up for dates, but I have a bigger game collection than my husband, used to squat more, etc. I’m a geeky tomboy

[RaceAgainstMachine]

That’s pretty hot

[Asker]

Well maybe your looks helped too but I just wanted to know if the personality is a problem too cus many girls tell me guys don't like girls who aren't feminine

[Halligan]

I did get dumped once for being “too much like a guy”. I shot better than him, I out fished him, I set up camping stuff faster... he apparently had insecurities. My husband sees me do stuff and calls me a BAMF. Brags we’ll never starve in an apocalypse. Lol

[RaceAgainstMachine]

The personality is perfect! Every guy wants a girl with a tomboy personality. Having a feminine personality doesn’t matter. Having feminine looks does. If you look like a dude, there’s gonna be a problem

[jpiccaro]

BAMF= bad ass mother fucker?

[Halligan]

@jpiccaro yes. It’s even under contacts that way... BAMF Wifey

[bigcoolguy]

Oooolalaaa want to be friends?

[verngoodinbed]

Faster than a girly girl cause Tom boys like getting out and getting there hands dirty

[Halligan]

@verngoodinbed my romance with my husband was definitely a whirlwind.

[Logorithim]

Lots of guys like tomboys. I had a great time when the tomboys girlfriend I had.

[RaceAgainstMachine]

What did she look like?

[Logorithim]

Mixed race white/Japanese, 5'8, big butt and boobs, OK face. Was learning to be an auto mechanic when I was her boyfriend, which made things more interesting for me (she and her father taught me a lot about vehicles).

[Losalt]

Would I *date* a tomboy?
Yes.
Would she be the first one I'd notice and started focusing on?
No.
Thing is, looks functions mainly as "advertising" to attract attention.
But that really isn't what makes a guy *stay* in a relationship.

I might enjoy spending time with a tomboy and might end up in a relationship with her.
But if there's no relationship and someone feminine shows up that feminine woman might end up distracting me from the tomboy pretty much because that feminine look enchances her own natural beuty.

That said, in my country the excessive makeup used in some countries really isn't popular at all and I guess women here are somewhat tomboyish to begin with...

Basically, what I'm saying is, fine, be a tomboy, it's not a big deal.
But occationally you might want to remind the boys about the fact that you're actually a pretty good looking girl too.
Perhaps you can add something subtle in your daily routine to get that point across too?

Also, don't worry too much about not having a boyfriend yet if you don't.
Sometimes it just takes some time to find someone that works out.

[wingattebaby16]

i have been a tomboy most my life...

growing up was hard... i dint have much hips til i was 19yo and go prego.

at 16yo, my measurements were 30A, 24 waist, 32 hips...
at 18yo, i was 30A, 24 waist, 34 hips...

I personally like being a tomboy...

still, a lot of guys dont like dating a tomboy... TBH, that is why i have always tried to date much older men.. they appreciate petite girls and tomboys...

when i was 16yo, i dated a 42yo man for 3 years...

when i was 22yo, my fiancee was 42yo...

From 19yo to now, i have a friends with benefits that is 56yo now and another that is 32yo...

[EpicDweeb]

I'd honestly prefer to date a tomboy. If I met a tomboy who knew how to be a tomboy but also be very much a lady at the same time (if that makes sense). That would kind of be awesome. xD I enjoy a lot of stuff that most guys don't seem to like. Reading, calligraphy... generally stuff that looks cool and old. I dunno I write poetry and stuff and I feel like a lot of tomboyish girls aren't fans of that. I feel like there's a certain kind of girl who is both very tomboyish but who is very much a girl who enjoys old fashioned romance stuff and just... the weird part of geeky culture that contains steampunk and victorian suits xD

[jack187625]

Something about girls in loose jeans..

Actually makes you more interested in what they look like with less clothing on. It isn't all obvious like it is with today's fashion.

Tom boys are generally less insecure, less focused on their looks, have different priorities. a lot harder to find though.

You will do fine, no need to worry!

[Kureghooghoo]

I'm kinda similar to you. I do things boys do as well as things girls do. I don't wear make up. Though I wear dresses and skirts. But my body does look like a girls. I do love video games and don't really like watching or reading love stories and find them boring and not my type. I am 100% honest and don't like girls childish plays and lies. I hate when they behave like little babies. I don't find many things in common with girls and have many cool things to talk about with my virtual guy friends. But I think among guys who have actually seen me in real life, almost none of were into me. And tbh, I don't really care. I love who I am, even if I'm called a tomboy.

[passinby]

I have and I would because you would be a lot of fun to be with as you have described. If you want to fix a car or tractor with me or go plant some trees, work some dirt, sling some feed, that would be handy. If I can identify enough woman in you, I wouldn't mind.

[RaceAgainstMachine]

What did she look like?

[passinby]

@RaceAgainstMachine Thin, average, plain girl, dirty blonde, 5'8", small ones, nice butt.

[RaceAgainstMachine]

How tall are you?

[passinby]

@RaceAgainstMachine 6'5" but I don't think it matters

[jpiccaro]

There aren't a lot of tomboys today so embrace that. I think most guys would date a tomboy but they have to be alittle feminine in the sense that guys find feminine features attractive. If you are 100% tomboy then guys will just see you as another buddy and not as a romantic partner.

[snakeye1]

I'd much rather have a tomboy girlfriend which ist honest and doesn't Take a shit an can Take Care for herself rather anoying to me If a girl comes and is Like ew No my Nail broke or shit Like this so to me you'r charracter is much more apealing to me then Most others

[Pozzle]

Tastes varies. As for me I tend to prefer girls who wear little to no make-up at all. I like t-shirt/hoodie girls way more than long heel / dress types of girl.

But in terms of body type, I prefer feminine traits/body. Girls who are not tall and tend to be thin. I prefer longer hair. Girls that I sort of feel I can protect.

So I do like Tomboy-ish girls, but only to some extent.

[Asker]

Yeah I figured that guys say they like the tomboy but only for personality though not the looks of her face or body.
What's wrong with tall not thin girls?

[Pozzle]

It's not wrong at all. It's just a matter of personal preferences. Some people like chubby girls, some like skinny. I fall in the latter category. I don't really choose what I find attractive.

[RaceAgainstMachine]

How tall are you?

[Bjorn526]

All my past girlfriends all considered themselves to be “tomboys” and they all had a point, they all had something about them, where they didn’t mind rolling up their sleeves, getting dirty and just left their make up bag at home for a weekend camping

[RaceAgainstMachine]

What did they look like?

[Bjorn526]

They all looked different from each other; but typically they liked the outdoors, one surfed, one was a professional volleyball player, one looked a bit like the main character in Orange is the New Black, the blonde and I only had one girlfriend under 5’9, she was cute and short and resembled the actress who played the angry wife, in walk the line

[RaceAgainstMachine]

How tall are you?

[Bjorn526]

6’1-6’2 with shoes, The volleyball player girlfriend was practically six feet tall

[RaceAgainstMachine]

How tall were the rest of them?

[Bjorn526]

Two were around 5’9, one was 5’11, and the last one was 5’3. These are long term relationships. Why?

[RaceAgainstMachine]

Just curious

[RaceAgainstMachine]

How tall do you like your girls?

[Bjorn526]

I don’t have any preference really, short girls can be so cute and hot as well. Personally, I think 5’6-5’10 is ideal

[RaceAgainstMachine]

👍👍👍

[shin1chan]

It's always fun to date a tomboy!! ;) And why shouldn't it be?
Yes boys run around feminine characteristics, but not all and not always. Sometimes people just want to be around bood companions who could have mutual thoughts to share!
You don't like make, so don't I and so many others. It's good to be with girls but being with someone of our type is a total blast! You can always get my grin and I don't even have to explain you what is ut about!
Yes honesty is important and being honest is also good, but not always necessary. Sometimes it is required to hide so try not to push it bit too hard (if you do).
Also don't say everything at people's face. Manier times it is pure to do it but so many other times it also hurts people as you tell them what they (boys) are not ready to take.

[Andre__]

As long as your physical appearance isn't full-on boy ( not talking about clothing) I'd have no problems with it. Most likely prefer it since I'm not into the girly Barbie types. Tomboys are typically much more relaxed and level. The dating thing will mostly have to do with how attracted a guy will be to you since that plays a major role in the intimate part of a future relationship.

[The_Wise_Guy]

Everybody's taste is different but yes I being a guy find this tomboyish character and macho attitude in a girl very attractive even when I am with my girlfriend a girl dressed tomboyish draws my attention for shure

[Anonymous]

I personally wouldn't, just because I want to fill my life with as many characteristics as possible and I will most likely have all of those that you possess. I find the differences between masculinity and femininity attractive, if that makes sense. There is definitely someone perfectly suited to you though so don't let it worry you, just get yourself out and about doing what you enjoy and you'll find people that get you

[satori1974]

You'll end up with someone like yourself but with just enough differences for it too work, it's similarities that work in a relationship...

[Opinion Owner]

I think it is more broad than differences and similarities, I think it goes to what you can tolerate and what you cannot

[satori1974]

It's your core values that will be similar.

[Opinion Owner]

That, I agree with

[RaceAgainstMachine]

I love tomboys! I don’t care if a girl wears makeup or dresses or skirts. A personality that gets along with the guys sounds perfect to me! Doesn’t matter if you’re not super feminine but you do have to look somewhat feminine.

[Asker]

Somewhat feminine in what way?

[RaceAgainstMachine]

You still have to look like a girl, but you don’t need to act like one

[Asker]

Well my body doesn't look like a girls lol but oh well

[RaceAgainstMachine]

What does your body look like?

[Asker]

Kinda boyish and athletic you know big shoulders and just a dude body in general you know

[RaceAgainstMachine]

How does athletic and big shoulders equal dude body? Be more detailed

[Asker]

Upside down triangle body you know big shoulders small hips and butts and big torso compared to smaller legs and hips kind of like a guy body

[RaceAgainstMachine]

Ok, well if you’re athletic, then that still sounds pretty hot honestly. I meant you have to have a feminine face and long hair, that’s all that really matters

[sahas20]

I have been great with girls who are a bit tomboyish coz I can connect more with them. But the problem is I was never sure if the girl was a lesbian or not. There was this one girl in my office who liked me, I think coz my friends always said that, even the other girls used to say that, but I used to brush it aside coz I genuinely thought she was a tomboy.

[RaceAgainstMachine]

What did she look like?

[sahas20]

Short hair, wore men's jeans and a T-shirt and an oversized jacket.

[ThePragmaticRomantic]

Sounds great to me. Better chance of shared interests... and frankly I dont think anyone looks better in make up than without.

[parkin]

Actually i nearly almost exclusively date tomboys
Dont try to specifically but those are just the types i fall for

[mrirkre4y4u]

Oh hell yeah. Do ya get grease too? I'm from the woods I love a girl with her boots half tied ready to hook a tow rope up to somethin.
There isn't a thing wrong with the natural beauty of a clear faced woman. Most girls use to dn much make up anyway.

Too much is made of the fashion and make up industry standard of how a woman should look. And you can hide a whole big mess with that stuff. A naked face is honest shows ya what your gonna have once you unwrap that present.