Is going three weeks between dates a bad sign?

[Anonymous]

It's going to end up being 3 weeks from date 1 to date 2. She says its because she's extremely busy with school. I'm just wondering.

[Tamikaze]

Unless this girl is an A-type personality that is shooting for becoming a Nobel prize winner in her chosen field of study, I would say this is too long. Most students are less than disciplined about their studies and I know when I was a full-time student and had a job AND an internship, I still had a boyfriend. When push came to shove, I cut out the internship, but not the boyfriend. If someone is really interested, they would figure out how to see you before 3 weeks.

[Asker]

Yeah I think she is interested because we planned on where we are eating. I just think she puts her studies and the fact she is an RA above seeing me. I'm hoping this will change after this dinner.

[Tamikaze]

It is rarely a matter of black and white, but of shades of interest. She is interested, but has a limit to that interest and you are feeling it. Yes, keep dating and see if this changes. If it doesn't, you will have to ask yourself if you want to play second fiddle to her other priorities or not. I personally think we all deserve to be with someone who thinks we are amazing. Good luck!

[Asker]

Yeah I definitely think you nailed it. She definitely has put her priorites over me right now. We communicate in some form everyday via text or instant message. But yeah I am feeling that she is fine without hanging with me obviously if she can wait three weeks. Do you think she will change?

[Tamikaze]

I wouldn't hold my breathe. It is certainly worth a few more dates to see if something clicks and she falls for you, but if after a few more dates, she continues to put you in second place, I would move on. I have a demanding career and a child, but I still put my relationship in first place without treating my job or my daughter any less.

[Anonymous]

no one is that busy...