What do men really want in a woman?

[coachTanthony]

What do men really want in a woman?

So this is my sequel to my other question I posted:

What do women really want in a guy?

[NineBreaker]

Answer: A set of physical and behavioral traits subconciously associated with fertility. Sounds superficial, but that is a big element for almost all guys, even if it isn't the only thing.

Nothing wrong with seeking someone who fits your more superficial preferences. The important thing is to give these preferences the lower priority they deserve.

Originally there are 3 traits that I personally seek in a woman that are the top 3 dealmakers:
- Kindness: Don't want to be involved with someone who is normally cruel, coldhearted, or evil.
- Intelligence: Don't want to be involved with someone who is an idiot. We all have our moments, so long as these moments are not a continuum of bad decisions and poor judgement.
- Grit: No one likes a quitter.

[Anonymous]

This is what most women don't get. Guys aren't so different from them. Most guys just want a loyal companion and lover. But so many women choose bad guys that are only look for the latter. Rather than accept her mistake they just decide to paint all guys with the dame paint brush and then wonder why they're not happy.

[coachTanthony]

Good points.

[Truthatanycost]

That's because only attractive guys are visible to them so when they turn out bad, it seems like all others are. Average Joes aren't included when they talk about men in general.

[Opinion Owner]

@Truthatanycost You're right. But generally when their younger yeah but most women grow out of that as they age. I'm not going to lie though some never do. It's a learning curve. But everybody wants someone their attracted to both men and women

[Truthatanycost]

Yes everybody wants someone attractive, but look at this www.yourtango.com/.../women-find-80-percent-men-unattractive-says-crazy-study

“As you can see from the gray line, women rate an incredible 80% of guys as worse-looking than medium. ''

''To show that some women may be operating on a very different scale, OkCupid shared some pictures of men who are fine-looking, some might say cute even, but that women have rated them as significantly less attractive than the so-called medium.''

I also notice everywhere I work. The average guys are ignored, but the average women get more attention.

[Opinion Owner]

@Truthatanycost once again absolutely true. I've seen this before i think from a different source but it went on to say how women find 80% of guys on ok Cupid unattractive they still messaged 40% of them. (Not sure i believe that part lol) but that means women are messaging 20% that they still find ugly. This either suggests that these women are getting desperate or that they're looking past the guys looks. This adds to the claim that women are less visual. Once again i'm not saying looks don't matter. They just matter less to a woman.

[DizzyDesii]

Someone who lets them be themselves
Someone who will cater to their needs
Someone who will bust the puss open when theyre craving it most
Someone who will understand that their mom comes first
Someone who will want them for nonfinancial purposes
Someone who will make them feel like theyre the only handsome man in the world

[Slim57]

My mom is important but my woman is first. But spot on for the rest, smart girl Desi

[DizzyDesii]

Im not the type to cater to your needs (like cooking or cleaning your mess UNLESS its sexual then ill lend a helping hand) and i def dont understand why your mom comes first once you’re with me. she's had her turn. Now its mine. Other than that, i can handle the rest 🤷‍♀️

[DizzyDesii]

@Slim57 yay :D

[obojamahahahaha]

Funny is,, I did everything you said..
But I got dumped by him :(
So I dont know if I was wrong

[DizzyDesii]

@obojamahahahaha he's ungrateful. Thats why he left you. OR he realizes you're a good woman that he doesn't deserve

[ChiTown33]

@obojamahahahaha It sucks in the short run but in the long run he did you a favor. If you did all that and he dumped you he didn't deserve you.

Dizzy i love your list! And when you said "his mom comes first" it's like this. His mom is the #1 woman in his life till he meets his wife then she becomes his #1 woman in his life.

[DizzyDesii]

@ChiTown33 yesssss 🙌

[goodlongman]

That's a sick list... you need to find a real man

[DizzyDesii]

@goodlongman i didn't say thats what i go for 🤷

[goodlongman]

Good

[StingRayxoxo]

They either want what @Logorithim said: Great companionship, great sex.

Or what Pink Anon said: Just to have fun and sex hehe and no emotional attachment to achieve those 2 things

[Logorithim]

Great companionship, great sex.

[coachTanthony]

This is either going to get a ton of upvotes or downvotes. I just don't know yet! LOL

[Logorithim]

Quite true.

[JoseJr]

I want a girl who isn't going to ask me what to wear or judge her clothes. Who doesn't overthink everything I say. Who says what she means and isn't subliminal messaging me. Understand that there's a life outside of our relationship, like work. Who isn't 100% dependent on me (most financially) who has her own goals and achievements and will help meet our mutual goals.

[dandeliondesire1]

It's nice to see such a thorough explanation.

[Dlg1979]

Good in bed, doesn't nag, can live her own life and have her own interests, and doesn't need to call him or text him about every little thing.

[Dlg1979]

Like my male "Friend", for instance, I know when he's at work, so I don't bug him at all. He has his son all week when he's not at work. I might send him a good morning text sometimes but I usually let him cone to me when he has a minute. No pressure.

[goodlongman]

YES YES YES and loves to play games and is competitive

[Dlg1979]

@goodlongman one morning he texted me at 5 am before he left for work, so I called him right back and he said" I didn't think you'd be up"

[goodlongman]

Good shows him you love to hear his voice and have time wiht him

[goodlongman]

My best friend, my lover, my partner someone who has the same love langue as me, someone who has the same moral values as me, completely compatible

[doctorwhofan23]

I just want someone who is someone I relate to and feel a connection with. Someone who Is pretty, sweet and smart.

[elizamichale1]

Well mostly her boobs and pussy with no strings attached lol

[Guardian45]

You forgot her bum!

[elizamichale1]

@Guardian45 hehe yea you are right lol

[bulletbob555]

Gosh I read all the answers. I'm real confused. While I still have some rational thought left I better give my answer. I want a woman who is my type likes me as much as I like her. I used to say there is a lot to be said for availability. So someone that is emotionally available. Doesn't have life issues, good attitude, and shared common interests. I love a soft kind voice.

[Ellie-V]

Just based on the many questions and answers I’ve seen on this site, most of the men on gag seem to prefer someone who is conservative and old school.

[CandacePerry]

Common interested, know from right to wrong , trustworthy , knows how to treat a woman with respectful. Be honest. Everyone is attracted to a different type of people. I probably why type for guys that in autism.

[purplepoppy]

Apart from sex someone who'll tolerate them and feed them.

[cunnilinguist]

nailed it sis

[Kitty46]

Trust, honesty, loyal, doesn’t cheat on you, to love you & great sex

[Anonymous]

Just to have fun and sex hehe and no emotional attachment to achieve those 2 things

[SexyAshh]

🎉🎉🎉🎉

[aa180]

A woman who is smart & good looking and who *doesn't* fetishize rape and violence.

Yeah I geddit, fictional women don't count, but a man can dream..

[lolol_707]

Lololol I get you but what is your definition of 'good-looking' like good hygiene and taking care of themselves or just pretty?

[aa180]

@lolol_707 the girl whose photo I posted on this question is exactly what I'd call good looking:

Men from or originally from Scandinavian countries: what is your type? ↗

[scotty01]

Caring loving active fit and everything in common to start with must look after herself is a must and drives a car and hard working..

No ex boyfriends still hanging around her to is a must don’t like that crap.

[Danny_11]

I want a woman who takes care of herself and is presentable but can get a little freaky in bed. We would inspire each other to be our best selves. And of course the standard answers like loyalty, honesty, kindess, intelligence, communication, etc.

[Exterminatore]

Frequent good sex, not starfish sex, low maintenance/low drama, companionship, someone to have fun with, depending on the person babies, and domestic help. That pretty much covers the basics.

[bamesjond0069]

Not hos thats the worst. Id take a fat dumb but loyal virgin over a hot intelligent skanky ho any day of the week. Well in terms of a serious relationship anyways.

[Secret6620]

Great question 👍 I'm here for the comments lol

[Kdude010]

Women that don't require the man to change and let them be themselves No man should have to change who they are just to appeal/cater to the woman.

[Dlg1979]

I'm a woman and that goes both ways. My ex tried to get me to change my job, pluck my eyebrows and keep my toenails trimmed. I hated it. I told him no about the job change.

[Anonymous]

They want someone that’s like... a second mother or a maid.