Apparently, my friends think it's weird that guys that are very physical fit are a turn off to me. Not saying I wouldn't date them. Most guys I dated go to the gym all the time and are very fit, but guys that are slightly heavier are more attractive to me.
That hasn't always been the case. I've really only started feeling that way for the past year. But then this comparison of Jason Momoa with a 'dad bod' (rolls eyes) started making it's rounds, and I was the only one of my friends who actually think he's more attractive now than when he was ripped. I'd hardly consider it a 'dad bod' but the fact that his abs are gone and he's thicker looks a lot sexier to me than his physique as Aquaman. What are your non-traditional or weird traits that you would in a partner? They don't necessarily have to be a requirement but just something you find attractive that most others would not.
What's a weird, non-traditional personality or physical trait that you find attractive in a potential partner?
I applaud your individual thinking for not being attracted to the fit muscular men, as I’m sick of those kind of shallow girls. I wouldn’t date athletic women myself (though I’m not saying I desire obese girls either). Exercise, other than walking or dancing, has always been a sign of vanity for me unless it’s required for a career rather than a hobby.
It’s more natural and genuine when people still show attraction towards those who let loose and eat what they wanna eat, etc.
I’m not sure I have any preferred weird traits in a partner, but I just wanted to compliment your non-conformist taste in men 😌
''Exercise, other than walking or dancing, has always been a sign of vanity'' you need exercise for HEALTH first, people who exercise have more energy, feel better, are healthier, stronger, and look better not just for their muscles or figure, but they have healthier skin as a result of circulation and sweating. walking is a form of excercise for old or sick people. exercise benefits you in so many ways not just looks, that's just a dumb outlook. you are still young so you don't see it yet, but if you stay lazy in your younger years that's gonna make it more difficult for you when you're older. and you don't want obese women? but I bet the ones you're attracted to have healthy figure that are not formed by sitting on a couch reading or eating junk food all day long.
I like muscles on a guy but not over the top. The abs come from low body fat % and when that happens all of the muscles are more defined, also the veins are so visible they look like they're gonna pop out which freaks me out a bit lol. so I don't think it's weird at all. especially if you see that and KNOW how much work goes into maintaining that type of body. he'd either have to do it for his career or just be vain. I like his more relaxed body too, probably cause you chose a BAD photo of the fit one. he does not have a dad bod, he is still muscular and strong, just not lean and eats well
I agree that Jason Mamoa is more attractive now. And yeah, I’m not really attracted to the super fit guys anymore. Maybe because every single one I’ve tried to talk to had no personality or ambition. A guy doesn’t have to have a six pack and go to the gym every day to be attractive. 3 years ago I would’ve thought the opposite but now that I’ve tried to look for someone who could be a potential husband, none of that other stuff matters. If I can have an actual conversation with him and he has morals then that’s enough for me.
I don't like overly fit men and I think most women outside of the US don't like it either. We like strong muscular guys but not Hulk-tier or bodybuilder-tier guys.
Someone who doesn't care what people think. I like it when a guy can act weird in public without thinking twice about what strangers are going to think of him (obviously nothing illegal etc)
Huge turn off for me is when a woman (or anyone, really) uses their phone or accesses social media in the company of others for any reason whatsoever. It tells me that whoever that person is with is not important enough to get their attention and I find it insulting. Looking at a phone during a date like above or as a cure to what might be boredom is a 100% guarentee that there won't be a second date. At least for me.
Or the whole being fake nice/charming on the first date or in general. Believe it or not, you dont have to smile all the time or try to be happy when you're not - just be normal and react to things like you usually would, no need to be fake.
Im terms of physical appearance, makeup and expensive clothes are a huge turn off for me. Goes, back to, the whole fake argument.
I like the way a guy looks at me, like not creepily or anything, he just stares and he's confident about it he doesn't look away when he's caught
I like when a guys yawns or takes deep breaths. I like to hear the soft low rumble of their voice
when a guy stretches
Nice arma especially forearms 🤤🤤
When they are fixing something, when they are teaching me about something/knowledgeable, making plans and being assertive, thinking deeply/concentrating
When men drive... i dont know why but i find it really hot.
The way a man walks can also be very attractive. They walk slowly and surely, with their shoulders back, chest out and head high
I think for now thats it, but im sure there's more and will be more
I love short guys. My height and shorter are preferable. I also like guys who are really thin OR a bit chubby. I also LOVE long hair on guys. I also like men with feminine faces. Muscles (unless slight) are kinda a turn off for me. I also want to be stronger than the guy I date, but sadly I'm a scrawny toothpick lmao
I have a thing for non-symetrical faces. A lib that is oddly shaped, a scar, something like that. As far as turn offs go. The skinny-fit guys seem so feminine to me. When they have the 6 pack and no arms Im not nearly as turned on as I would be from a guy with a dad bod+big arms.
I like chicks who are fucked up in the head, apparently. Broken in some way. Really need to get past that, but seems to be a deep-seeded thing, for me.
I prefer the 'dad bod' because I don't feel intimidated by a guy who constantly goes to the gym. I feel intimidated when I go to the gym when there's a lot of bigger built guys there because I'm pretty short, don't look like I've got much muscle and it puts me off using weights. I can lift, yes, but it makes me feel awkward. Back to 'dad bod'.. I used to be with someone skinnier than me and I felt very conscious people thought I was with another girl. Nothing wrong with being LGBT+, I'm just straight, but I'm not the skinniest girl out there and am kinda curvy. I'd rather be with someone I know will eat rather than look like they eat nothing, or just eat for gains. I just see gym bod people to be controlling in not what only they eat, but their partner too, and that makes me feel like they'd control more than just their diet... Rambling over!
@redpanda_ Unlike Stefi Cohen who squats double the amount I can while weighing 25 pounds less. Do you think she started out being that strong?
That's basically what Dom Mazzetti said in that video. Instead of wanting someone who will help you grow, you want someone who will applaud you for doing nothing or actively applaud you for having an unhealthy lifestyle? Or do you just want to be more valuable than him, so you can dominate the relationship?
No, I just want someone I feel at ease with and not constantly judged or controlled. I've been in a controlling relationship and it was horrible.. You know what, you're twisting what I'm saying.
@redpanda_ It's not my intention to twist what you're saying.
"I feel intimidated when I go to the gym when there's a lot of bigger built guys there because I'm pretty short, don't look like I've got much muscle and it puts me off using weights."
Why does it matter if you don't look like you've got much muscle?
And why is a chubby guy going to be less controlling? Like he won't have anything else that he expects of you? Or that he'll be so happy that you're with him that he'll just be controlled by you, instead of reversed?
I feel intimidated because I'm a girl and very short, most men at my local gym have huge muscles and are tall. It matters because I feel like they're going to judge me/laugh at me. I'm not saying bigger men can't be controlling, I'm saying from experience gym nuts have been more controlling/judging. Again, you're twisting it. I never said about me wanting to control anyone, I believe in free will.
For some reason, I used to tend to go after guys with issues (mostly irresponsibility, but also emotionally unstable) and want to be the "hero" that changed their lives. I felt sorry for them and felt like it was my job to help them. What I came across were guys with issues that were completely self inflicted and that they had absolutely no desire to fix, or thought it was easier to be the victim and feel sorry for themselves rather than do anything about it, and just make excuses for themselves. That is when I learned the hard way that you can't help anyone who refuses to help themselves, and some people are comfortable in a mess of a life and don't want out of it, or actually enjoy feeling sorry for themselves.
@aWes0MeNeSs If I could upvote your reply, I would.
I learned differently, though. I'm good at it. I'm good at helping people. And I can make them self-sufficient. I can get them to figure out what's wrong and what would be right. Then think about what they want out of life, what steps to take to get there, and how to take the first step. I've helped a lot.
Being intimate with them gives me a lot of influence. So I can use that influence to guide them. If they want to please me and want to be valuable to me, they'll listen to me. Maybe there's a gender difference. Guys are usually more disagreeable, yeah?
Hey, new therapy tool. Maybe I should make a business. "Fuck n tell. Solve your emotional issues by getting into bed with me."
But. I also think I'm addicted to the chaos roller coaster. It's nothing if not exciting.
How do you deal with that propensity of yours, though?
I find something attractive about those soft hoods with hair falling over them. I've had interest in girls simply based on the fact they wear hoodies. Maybe its the soft nature of them that attracts me?
I am so totally there with you on that & agree 100%! I find the softness of a little fat way hotter than rock hard muscle. I also don't like feeling any bones either. I want to curl up to someone that feels good to rest on. Gymaholics & weight lifters big turn off. I'd rather have a man who works construction & has a little beer belly.
Unreleated but, Jason Mamoa is not even out of shape and is incredibly healthy. For the role of aquaman, he had to he on a strict diet and had to restrict his water intake. A lot of male actors feel pressured to achieve that body type, and many of them hate it. It's unfair that so many people are criticizing him. That is not a dad bod. But yeah, I do consider it more attractive than abs, so I'm on the same page as you.
It just sounds like you want a variety, which is the same reason guys secretly don't mind having casual sex with fat women... but tend to still prefer to date lean girls
You just want variety which is normal, you are use to fit guys it seems... so you want something different Not necessarily you find them more sexy, in fact you clearly find the fit guys more sexy because thats been your choice for all these years, its only now AFTER the fact that you want variety
Uh... or maybe I don't particularly care if he's fit or heavy as I clearly said 'most' were fit, not 'all'. I've dated heavy set guys, too. And preferences change with age.
well if most were fit then thats what you choose and wanted... so I think it still stands you just want change now because your first choices were mostly fit
thats how it works for almost everyone... most girls have a first choice of the hot guy, but when it doesn't work later in life they then settle for he average guy thats well off
If you date 10 average girls and 1 hot girl, it doesn’t mean you don’t like hot girls, it means you couldn’t get a hot girl and you fell for people’s personality. It could be that Asker was not approached by more heavy set people, maybe she’s very attractive and they feel like they have no chance. You can’t assume someone’s type when you don’t know them. Seems like you have your own insecurity issues to work through
@Valiant That’s actually true. I noticed more guys like girls with a little more meat on their bones and heavy set guys want the thinner girls. Heavy set guys don’t even look my way lol, but guys with a lean build are more likely to show me interest. I’m not fit at all. Not fat, just average, but it is interesting.
@VaIiant thats a good effort but its incorrect. Are you saying she couldnt get average body guys but she could get fit guys lol. You went backwards with your example And thats why its wrong
Lol, I literally didn’t say that. That’s pretty sad that you have to make up information just because your original statement lacks supporting facts. Give up, your argument is terrible 😂
sure you did... you said exactly that 1. "Heavy set guys don’t even look my way lol, but guys with a lean build are more likely to show me interest" 2. And you also said "Most guys I dated go to the gym all the time and are very fit" therefore You only dated guys that showed interest and approached you but you Never went for what you want, which is apparently dad bods
I’m more into someone I have true chemistry with and could care less about physical attributes. My current interest is bald and heavier but he’s got beautiful eyes and a great smile. Sexy voice, arms and hands. Looks great in a suit and street clothes. His personality and sense of humor totally match mine.
If she has weird traits and likes weird things. Life becomes more interesting when you're exposed to things out of the norm. And if that happens to be the one you like, its ALWAYS gonna be interesting.
-She is taller than me. -She bigger than me. -She is stronger than me. -She is dominant, bossy and assertive. -She is like a reliable big sister to me.
Just because I train in the martial arts does not mean I cannot have such a woman looking out for me.😊
I love scars, especially small facial ones. I just feel like they add character. I also really like it when a guy has really big hands. This one is kind of weird but I also really like it when guys chew gum. Not in an annoying way where I can hear them smacking it but I just like the movement of their jaws when they do it
I like guys with Flat tummies but no abs Bitten nails but gotta look a certain way Eyebrow piercings Eyebrow scars/slashes Southern drawl accent glasses Cute pointy nose Wears converse No facial hair unless a goatee Thick bushy naturally arched eyebrows
I like strong personality girls and also tall I mean they don’t have to be that way but if they are oof I’ll fall in love with you, but I’ve also noticed that most of the time my knees go weak when I see a tall girl and or strong, too bad their knees don’t get weak when they see me.
I like very weak wimpy girls. Like if a 6th or even 5th grader could legitimately beat her up I would be more attracted to her. Or if she at least looked that wimpy. I think that is so hot.
I like athletic girls that are tougher too. That increases their attractiveness to me, but when they are just regular or ordinary for physical abilities, that doesn't increase my attraction to them. That and I like when girls wear those silky shiny athletic clothes.
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