Why is body hair a dealbreaker in dating?

[Anonymous]

I'm hairy and it's feels like a chore to get rid of all the hair

[Xoxocutekitty]

I don't think it's a dealbreaker. Although I will provide the following circumstances.

1) Swiping on a dating app, and where there are multiple swimsuit/ boy hair showing photos. As a person particularly drawn to minimal body hair, paired in a highly comparative "looks first oriented" medium, I would probably not self select that person. In that way, it would be a pre-meeting judgement dealbreaker.

2) Met from a dating app (but no body hair photos), and dates 1-3 go lukewarm to well. Maybe some clothes are removed, maybe it's hot outside. Depending on the general level of hygiene, it would it make a difference. Can I see chest hair from underneath his shirt? Am I supposed to see it? It is a look? Does he also have dirt under long fingernails? Does his breath smell? Does he open his mouth when he chews? Does he eat loudly? Do his clothes look clean? Does he smell good? One cannot change how much body hair they naturally have, but they can keep up to standards of compatible present-ability. If no, and they are missing other key "wow factors", it would contribute to a "dealbreaker."

3) In an event where clothes are removed and we are exploring each other physically, then it would not be an issue. If it is not trimmed to what I find presentable (no mouth fist fulls of hair please) then I will request additional manscaping. I would hope that he would want to do it not because i am demanding it, but because it would add to my level of basic comfort and sense of "closeness" via physical touch.

[jaybee281]

Well it is a chore and lucky for us it's more of a deal breaker for us if a girl has hair than the opposite.. Like i would never sleep with a hairy woman and i actually appreciate the effort that women make to look as hot as they are and if a woman you like says she hates hairy men it's your choice you could tell her you're hairy and it ain't changing or you get rid of the hair.. Personally i get rid of the hair because there are some girl that hate hairy men but no girl really hates a guy that has no hair (hate as in deal breaker i just couldn't find a better verb so..)