When you interact with someone on first, second and third dates, what do you try to observe about them?

[senor_bacon]

Their attention to detail?
What catches their attention?
Have sense of humor? Which kind?
How they treat the help?
Judging character based on how they respond to certain things?

What do you look for and how do you judge?

Women are usually better at this?
Still wanna hear from both.

[DishLady]

I keep my “spidey sense” open and whatever hits hits, whether it’s a red flag, green flag or just something stupid that makes me laugh. My instinct tends to be 90% accurate, but the 10% “be nice” factor tends to get in the way, so I don’t LOOK for a particular thing aside from manners and whether the guys is open and kind or just generally shady.

[Warmapplecrumble]

I observe all of that on the first date. The second date is are they compatible of being a husband. Third date is are they compatible for raising children.
If I am confused I will go on more dates.

[senor_bacon]

on the first date, how do you go about doing that?

[Warmapplecrumble]

It's simple as how he treats me,
does he open the door,
does he put his chair back,
How he talks to other people
What his response is
How he's nervous
What his political views are
Is he religious
Is he using me for sex
Do we have a common ground

Basically every movement the guy makes I monitor it, keep remembering it, then stay or leave, keep doing it till I think this is a good partner for me to raise children with

[Warmapplecrumble]

Thanks for MHO 🙂

[perfectchaos]

I don't look for anything but two things is do we seem compatible and do I enjoy my time with them.