What do you pay attention to on a first date?

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to be polite

DenizLikesTennis · Accepted Answer

1. Her Attitude and Personality

2. Her Surroundings and Friends

3. Her Standards and Expectations (realistic, unrealistic, pessimistic, optimistic)

4. What her life goals are... if she knows what she wants... like looking for many one night stands, looking for a serious relationship etc.

5. If she takes care of herself such as mental health (Talking too much about her broken past, how she's been hurt, full of resentment). I don't need so much physical. I love a woman for her personality and attitude that she gives me the vibes.

I am soon to be 27. I want to settle with a woman whom I can establish a healthy serious relationship. I hate playing games.

Telekinetic-Potato · Accepted Answer

What they order, whether they ask how were going to pay. I don't care how we pay but it says a lot how they approach that situation. How relaxed they are.

Their comments about the day. Is she lying about having a good time? Does she stick up for herself and voice her wants. I don't want someone who is timid to the point where on a first date they can't speak for themselves at all.

Does she get comfortable quickly. That's another compatibility thing because I basically don't get anxious and I want someone like that too.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I’ve likely known him anywhere from 1-3 months before the first date. So im not gonna be asking questions to get to know him. I’ll have known long ago if he was someone I’d want to be around anywhere from the first 3 hours to 3 days to 3 weeks of talking to him. By the first date, we’re gonna be focusing on whatever activity we chose to partake in, all while enjoying quality time with one another

es_annie · Accepted Answer

I pay to attention to manners & courtesy but of course I also tend to focus on one’s hygiene, how put together one looks and their smell.

Pinay_ako · Answer

On how they treat servers and people in general

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

First dates are absolutely wonderful & as for me I would pay attention to the lovely lady I were on the date with. In addition I would pay attention to the little things. Is she on her phone, does she have nice or fucked up teeth, does she have a sense of humor, do we click. Does she have an Adam’s apple, is there a bulge in her pants, does she have man hands because if she does I’m out like a fat kid in dodgeball.

SnowedIn · Answer

To be polite? What they say. What they like. What's making them comfortable or uncomfortable. Details matter.

I'm also paying attention to whether they can stay off their phone. Be nice to the service people we're with (servers, cashiers, etc.). Can/will they converse. And so on.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Chemistry. Thats the biggest thing for me on a first date. The second would be her manners (mostly how she treats others). Its been my experience people hide their red flags the best they can and you don't hear about or see them until they let their guard down a little bit.

Emelina · Answer

If my date is paying full attention to our date and not scanning around while talking to get to know each other.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

How she looks, how she carries herself, does she slouch or sit up correctly. Can she hold a conversation. Can she focus on me or does she need her phone for snapshots every 5 minutes. How does she interact with those around us?

asphaltrhymes · Answer

Probably a lot things. Without overthinking and being stressed the whole time. behaviour, interests. Ethics or views.
Either ticking boxes or making me think how fast until this date is over, politely 😃😁😁🙃

ohsheeT · Answer

Everything from the tone of voice to look in the eyes the body language the touch the chemistry the energy I notice everything

jshm2 · Answer

Their time keeping and dress style.  If they're very late, or shabby; the rest doesn't matter.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

If they're on time, how he carries himself, if he's respectful to other people, what his goals are (long term, short, kids, marriage, ...)

thatshydork · Answer

How they treat me and the staff as well as how they behave and their expectations of me.

sheikalana · Answer

Manners and the topic of the conversation. I do not appreciate when people try to be too nosey on the first few dates.

Dargil · Answer

Her eyes, language articulation and body language.

imfreeze95 · Answer

I pay attention to how they treat people. If they’re rude to waitstaff or the person at the cash register. Then I will probably not ask them out again.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Probably their conversation skills. There needs to be some chemistry.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Personality and interests. A lot of people get nervous on a 1st date, so I do not judge her on that.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I would pay attention to everything they say. (Which is what you should be doing anyway, even if it isn't a date.)

Anonymous · Answer

How many times she lies and if I think those lies are manipulative in nature. Virtually all women lie the question is why they're doing it. That tells you whether she's worth a second date.

Anonymous · Answer

To be polite, I try NOT to pay too much attention to her cleavage! lol! Generally I try to focus on the conversation.

Matt-G · Answer

Eye contact, conversation, body language and general engagement.

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