Would rather date a woman with kids or without?

[Anonymous]

So I heard that a woman with kids is not clingy and understanding of time than a woman without kids.

[Reaperbot666]

as a single father myself I can somewhat relate to trying to date when you have children from past relationship's. so I would be open to the idea of dating a single mother. to see where things lead and possibly blending the families together. if we happened to work out long term. however many single parents come with baggage plus drama from their past relationship's. that some people might not want to deal with long term. also the limited time they can spend together due to them dealing with their children might turn off some people.

[Asker]

Well said sir

[Reaperbot666]

thanks

[Drumlin2001]

As a father of one, and one in the way, if i were to be single i could find pros and cons both ways. Mothers would be more understanding of commitments and priorities. But someone with no ties would be more flexible to fit around my schedule.

[Asker]

Would you want more children?

[Drumlin2001]

Not sure. I'd have 2, approaching 40. Would take time to meet someone and be settled enough to have a kid. Don't think i would seek to have another one, but if she really wanted i could be persuaded

[Asker]

I like your open mindedness

[JackSmy]

It is much easier when she doesn't have children.
I have, in a few cases, dated one with kids, and some dead-beat, d-bag and absent father! It's a lot more challenging, and as much as I tried, it hasn't worked. Not blaming anyone, or judging anything. It's just really hard, dating a single mother, with kids, and almost no support from anyone else.

[Asker]

Thank you for your answer

[JackSmy]

@Asker Are you a single woman, with kids? Maybe? Just trying to find someone that knows the kids come first, and can accept that?

[Asker]

Actually I am just a single woman with no kids. But I heard that it was easier today woman with kids

[Asker]

I definitely understand that children come first that’s not the issue that I’m having. I don’t mind a man that has kids I’ve dated one. But it did come with a lot of baggage like the mother wasn’t stable so she had to stay with him a lot

[JackSmy]

@Asker So the opposite! He had kids, not you! Sorry, no experience with that! A lot of people bring a lot of baggage to the next relationship. Partly why I have been taking a break, to sort that shit, and leave those bags behind! Nothing major, or troublesome, but 'little things' and I don't want to bring those to the next. . .

[Anonymous]

Without. I don't have any either and don't want any. I don't want to be a father figure, and even if that's not her intention, the child (ren) will become attached as time goes on, and I them. If it doesn't work out. Plus, they take up a lot of her time and energy and I'd like a little "clingy" myself lol. I want her time and energy for us.

[nerdybutlazy]

If I was older I would date a woman with kids then I could adopt them and have a little family :)

[Pete671]

perfectly said, I feel the same, at 57 I'm looking to settle for life, I'm rather lonely and get a boost from interacting with children, and love to pass down my life experiences to younger people of any age,,,

[nerdybutlazy]

@Pete671 honestly even if I was in my 30, at that point. besides she could be an amazing person and the kids could be great too

[Pete671]

Thanks, looking back I would have been happier settling in my 30s,

[nerdybutlazy]

@Pete671 lol well I'm sure you still have time

[Pete671]

Thanks, more likely a woman with a daughter with kids though lol,

[nerdybutlazy]

@Pete671 That could be such a bad thing :3 kids are cute unless you don't want them

[Asker]

Would ever want birth the kids yourself in the relationship?

[Anonymous]

Depends on the woman. Idgaf if she has kids, but I care if she’s someone who works hard to make sure her kids are successful. If she’s one of those woman who dgaf about their kids then no

[Asker]

Well explained

[Unstoppable20]

It doesn't matter to me. As long as she checks all the boxes for what I'm looking for in a relationship then it doesn't matter. I want a family anyways so kids aren't a deal breaker for me. It would be a plus if she was open to having one or possibly two more kids though.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Well I prefer without but I know that is not realistic all the time.

[Asker]

How so and why

[Dchrls78104]

Without. I did a myTake on the reasons I wouldn't date a woman with kids.

[Asker]

What is the link

[Gooblegobble]

Without kids. It really is just too much baggage most of the time.

[JDavid25]

Without kids, because it's easier.. I would rather us both grow and not have to worry about her kids likin me too.. Although if it was a toddler that's coo.. I wouldn't mind that..

[oncpl]

I have been dating a single mom and found her very hot, eager to have sex, free in talking dirty. I believe that woman with kid can be more clingy if encouraged.

[Dave31989]

Yeah but then she's putting her kid priority number one. that's not cool

[Bandit74]

Definitely without kids.

[Asker]

Why without?

[Bandit74]

I have zero intention of raising another guys so unless she's only looking for something short term I'm not interested.

[Asker]

Understandable

[geonator]

I would choose without if I had to make a decision, but finding out a girl has kids wouldn't affect my decision to date her

[magiusX26]

if i get to. choose, no. kids as of yet.

[Asker]

Why do you believe you don’t have choice?

[magiusX26]

you dont choose who you fall in love with. as a guy i almost get zero choice in who i date really.

[Asker]

I guess it’s true. Women either

[magiusX26]

women get most of the choice in who to date though. but yes women get as much choice on who they fall in love with, which as previously stated is you dont.

[zagor]

Without. Though kids aren't a deal-breaker.

[Asker]

Why please

[zagor]

Why? Because her first priority would be her kids, most likely. Better to start with no strings. Though if her kids were nice I guess I could do it.

[bamesjond0069]

I would never date a woman with kids. Just hookup maybe.

[Cowboy6666]

without kids
but i dont mind if she has one kid

[Asker]

Why without

[Cowboy6666]

because I want my own kids from her

[Asker]

That’s good to hear

[Cowboy6666]

by the way do you have kids?

[Asker]

No but I want them in the future and don’t mind if the person I’m dating has them as long they not involve (sexually) with the child mother

[Cowboy6666]

alright let me know if you are single n searching too ;)

[Anonymous]

Most men accept a woman with kids only if they cannot find one without

[AdamPereira2]

without

[Asker]

Why?

[AdamPereira2]

because we would have less freedom to do stuff the kids would come later

[Asker]

I’m glad that’s still options for you

[Slim57]

Without

[Asker]

Explain please?

[Slim57]

I like kids but they get old fast, they're a responsibility I dont want anything to do with. I'd rather have time to do whatever we want not planned on a schedule of what to do with the kids first

[Asker]

Understandable

[DavidFox]

Without

[BCA6010]

Without for sure.

[Asker]

Why for sure

[Anonymous]

Without kids.

[Asker]

Why?

[Opinion Owner]

Less baggage and expenses

[pigoat]

Kids are stupid

[Skankhunt]

Without kids

[Asker]

Why without

[Anonymous]

Without.