That's an issue within black culture that no one wants to talk about. If you speak with proper English, you're acting too "white". Why can't black people articulate themselves utilizing proper English without having social ramifications? I saw this a lot growing up, and one of my best friends who's black has mentioned this as well. My suggestion is to be yourself, and surround yourself with likeminded people. Not just people of the same ethnicity. America is a melting pot, and it doesn't make sense to surround yourself with just one subset of people. You don't have to conform to one identity or culture to be accepted. I have friends that are white, black, Asian, latino, and black. They all have different personalities, and their ethnicity doesn't define their personality. I make friends with people who align within my interest. I'm biracial, so my family is even a melting pot.
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Well, what men are telling you your not black enough? I'm guessing not white/Asian/hispanic guys, am I correct? If they do not appreciate you, why not try dating outside your race? If you are and they say that, then well thats pretty messed up and I do not have any response to that. Their is nothing wrong with speaking proper and I don't think it should be associated with being "nonblack", that is kind of messed up when you think of it. As for your interests I have no idea what they are so I cannot comment on that.
In all my 30 years on this earth, I've never heard that expression.."you're not black enough"
I'm not sure where or how you meet these guys, but they sound immature , mentally and emotionally, and very childlike. Change the way you meet a potential partner or date
They're immature, find yourself a nice older man who can love and respect you for who you are.
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Yo lemme switch skin tones with you, I got the exact opposite issue, Girls tell me I am too black!
On a more serious note, do you mean they don't treat you like a black women because your way of speaking, interests and over all personality doesn't fit the stereotype for a black women? Or do you mean your skin color is not dark enough?
If its the former, the black community has high disdain for black men and women who they consider race traitors, so much so that liking something stereotypically considered white can get you ridiculed.
IF its a non-black person saying this, they are racist.
I personally enjoy a lot of Animes, cartoons, fantasy movies like Lord of the Rings and Harry potter! I love music like Metal and rock way more than I do rap, so people call me a traitor that I kiss white heels. Just bunch of cultural deep rooted hate against other cultures and races, fills the black community makes it toxic to actually make something of yourself if that something doesn't involve the black community.You're dating trash guys, what else do you expect?
You should be more discouraged by the fact that what you desire - does not desire you. Change your outlook, kiddo.You need to date guys that appreciate you and won’t compartmentalize her. Strongly consider dating outside of your race.
No there just gerks so lifs of guys do it to cut a girl down so they can make them weak so they get a hookup by saying i can make it up to you then they seduce you
Lmao The ignorance of some should never be understood, just bypassed and overlooked.
Obviously they are racist against white people doing what black people like.
IF YOU LET OTHERS INSULT YOUR INTERESTS AND GET YOU THEY won't RESPECT YOUR INTERESTS
Any guy who says that probably isn't good enough for you so don't worry about it.
good enough for anyone around you, you haven't met them all
I honestly think it's hot when I meet a black woman that speaks "Proper" as you put it.
Don't worry about that
because those guys are idiots
I agree with Not_Average's comment.
why do people always say im not white enough
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