Have you ever loved a girl deeply, for who she was?

[Vewrie]

Not only for straight men to answer but anyone who falls in love with girls.

[jaybee281]

Once and only once - I thought she was a whore when I first met her in school so I wasn't interested at all at first but as we had to sit next to each other we started to talk and she became my best friend - I fell in love with her and told her but she didn't even believe me because of my own stupidity:telling her we're just friends, talking about which chick I'm seeing next week - As I said I never thought I'd like her let alone love her - But she has something about her i can't explain - I've read something in a book by Robert Greene that we get intensely attracted/vulnerable by people who have a quality that we don't have - I'm still trying to figure it out - What I know is that there is something I always felt when she hugged me but never acknowledged it as something important (I don't like to be touched and shown affection usually) - Anyway I think she sees me as a friend and even if not she likes male attention a lot (has many guy friends) and is disliked by most women - I used to laugh at those guys who fell for her and look at me now jesus...

[pajamasam]

There was a girl growing up who I deeply admired. She was always so very outspoken and funny. She knew her worth and was very confident. She was athletic and sociable but also very kind and personal. I never saw her be rude to anyone. But I did see her stand up for herself when people did her wrong.

She was always very blunt and never minced words but she knew how to draw a line and be respectful when she needed to be. She could take a joke just as well as she made them and always made people feel heard.

Why I never told her this I still don't know.

[Vewrie]

Why did some chick downvote this? 😂 It is beautiful ❤️

[SilverRose10]

True

[SystemOfTheMachine]

Yes, only once in my life while I was in college. I fell in love with a woman who was my best friend. I hanged out with her almost everyday when I was still in college. We talked all the time and her personality was amazing. She was a strong, independent, sassy, and artistic woman. She was more driven than anyone I knew and I cherish every moment I was able to be with her. Unfortunately for me, she was dating her highschool sweetheart when I met her. I never wanted to try and make her leave him, even though for a while, she was spending more time with me than him. This was the first and only time I have fallen in love. I don't see her much because of the pandemic now.

[Vewrie]

Sounds like you were a better match the way you appreciated her and the fact that she chose to spend more time with you <3

[SystemOfTheMachine]

Maybe I was. I try not to think about her too much anymore, since we don't see each other much. I've been told I should just move on and look for something else. I do miss her sometimes though.

[Vewrie]

You’ll love again ❤️

[Tomsta]

Yes twice.

First time was my first love she turned out to be just be emotionally manipulating me, so I vowed to never let that happen again

Second time is my current (and first) girlfriend (By the way the time difference between the two events is basically a decade)

[talka20]

Yea i feel deeply in love wth this girl cuz we connected so good n bec of who she was... but it was one sided

[Vewrie]

Typical. What did you love about her and what was the connection like?

[talka20]

I loved her vibe n how she also used to be super happy talkin to me n how botha us were super close... we were best friends... i couldnt control my feelings n it went more n more... and things just got worse after that

[Vewrie]

Too bad. ! She probably will regret it in the future...

[talka20]

Nah she won't regret that she didn't accept me... but she might have in a sense that she lost a friend

[Vewrie]

Maybe in 10 years... when it is too late and you are happily married to someone else. Maybe she never stop to regret it. Maybe she is young and dumb now and will realise it when it is too late.

[talka20]

I dont think so... cuz she was clear with her words that as a partener she does see me at all... and im now engaged n im happy too... and if she will regret something thatd be the friendship thing and maybe that at times i got hurt by her... but i always hope she is doing her best in life... and she was also never wanting to hurt me whole time but at this situation she just couldnt accept me and that was her right to decide what she wants n doesn't want... she never thought i was bad person n i never think like that either... just we both couldnt be together n thats it. It did hurt a lot ofcourse but i know its her decision so yea

[Vewrie]

Well... she might even further in the future. But of course it will be too late.

[talka20]

Yea she might but its like 10% chance i think

[Vewrie]

Time will tell 😌

[talka20]

Even if some such thing happens i won't know

[WesBrewer]

Yes, I truly loved this girl I dated, I loved everything about her, even her constant temper, but since I was so young it didn't really last long or go anywhere.

[Elsa143]

Lol who loves constant temper? :D

[WesBrewer]

@Elsa143 she wasn't getting mad at me, I thought it was funny because she would get embarrassed afterward sometimes.

[Liam_Hayden]

I can't imagine loving a girl for any other reason.

[minibigproblem]

Yeah. I thought she was the coolest person. She was so extroverted, awesome to talk to, extremely relatable, and then she played with my feelings. :(

[Vewrie]

F*ck. This has happened to me too.

[Vewrie]

But I forgot to say, I wonder when we feel this way and the other person does not feel the same; are the qualities in the other that we fall in love with qualities that we miss within ourself and really need to develop to be happy? And then the other person do not feel the same because we lack what we see in them and they don’t have the same void to fill? Or maybe a completely different one that we still not possess?

[minibigproblem]

Now that’s very interesting. After our little break up I did notice I was turning into her. Maybe it was because I hit puberty, but I became more outgoing, I met new friends, had awesome experiences that not a lot of people say they’ve had, and I graduated early from school even when I had flunked out the previous year. So I think you could be right. I think that sometimes we do project ourselves onto others, and it comes back to use hard.

[Vewrie]

Yeah, same here. I have noticed that I fell for a girl who was performing her own songs very confident and how I after I got over her started to record mine I had hidden in a drawer. Another time it was a successful guy and then I applied for university etc. But it’s gotta be something that really is a true connection? That more has to do with our original selfs and not what we need to develop in our life?

[FriendlyEnigma]

Yea, and she was a child groomer (in the process of grooming ME) 😂 so i regret a lot of things about that

[Vewrie]

Jesus! How awful!!

[SilverRose10]

Whats a child groomer?

[Manab]

Yeah , then she changed who she was for a hot and old guy and left 😅...

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Not sure if my rigor fate has that in store for me later on. But it’s fine if they don’t. I weVinna either way. The gods have decided

[chHaynes]

I would say my first but it is just what it is a first is not really real love

[Wewladdy]

Yeah. And it was a mistake both times. Neither of them were quality people.

[Whtevernever]

Of course. Hard to love a woman for who she isn't.

[Snakeyes7]

Yes but that only made it hurt more when she left.

[Rob17792]

yes i have and i still do

[Knightoffire]

Yeap, weirdly enough I did.

[Dweezil]

Totally!!!

[Vewrie]

What was it you connected with? 🙂

[Dweezil]

It was on numerous levels. Physical attraction was a part. But her being a great human being was the most important part.

[Vewrie]

Wow ❤️

[SnackAttack7]

There's no other way to love her lol

[Doga_34]

Just like most of people, yes.

[gandolph3]

isn't that why you love any one

[Vewrie]

I don’t know. Some men only describe the physical appereance when talking about someone they loved. Or vague things like “she was shy and mysterious”.

[gandolph3]

admittedly her looks are what attracts the attention, but if that is what keeps it, it does not speak well for the man, whether she is a good person or not

[Vewrie]

Hm yes. But you can feel somewhat attracted to someone and think they are a good person and still not feel deep within your heart a connection like no other that makes your soul scream “This is the one”. At least for me but I’m a girl...

[gandolph3]

correct, that is not an overnight thing, but an over time feeling

[Vewrie]

Sometimes I have had guys confess their love for me out of the blue and I have not felt the same, like at all. I wonder what it is about, because I do not look like a model and have not flirted with the ones I am thinking about. I think they see me as kind and very sensitive and that is it. I just wonder if men has a fantasy about a woman being some kind of mystery woman or if they see her as a human being they can connect with 😂

[gandolph3]

really can't say, were they true to you, who broke it off

[Vewrie]

It never happened with these I am mentioning now since I did not feel the same at all. I did not even think we connected and thought we were very different people. But then I have felt strongly for other people who in their turn didn’t notice me.

[gandolph3]

some guys will lie about their feelings hoping the girl will have sex, so beware of that, also if sex is involved he may feel a false sense of love and profess it as real

[Vewrie]

There were never any kind of physical touch involved. 🙂

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes; I have.

[AmeerX]

I did

[dudeinohio]

Yes I have

[KrakenAttackin]

Absolutely.

[Sabretooth]

yeah

[apimpnamedslickback]

Nope

[Xoirwinkan]

Never been in love.

[Jmmmfi4]

Nope not yet