My ex fiance loved and chased me really hard, the things he did for me made me cry. Because he was putting his whole heart to make me feel something. First when I saw him I just thought he was a very good looking guy but I didn’t have any feelings or interests to him. What impressed me was hid ability to chase me to the very end, he made it almost impossible for me to forget it. He never gave up on me, he tried his best until and after he got me. He just poured his whole heart in me.
At that time I was dating an American writer who was too popular among girls so he wasn’t half as invested as my ex fiance. So we parted even before becoming a thing. Cause I couldn’t just stay with him cause he was popular or good looking.
So, the things my ex fiance did for me truly made me cry, he wasn’t expecting anything in return he just did his best and wanted to see me smile.
I was mesmerized by his nature, by his ability to give me everything without asking for anything in return and I slowly deeply and truly fell for him. I wanted to make him feel as loved as he made me feel. I also felt lucky that he had such an amazing personality and also was so good looking it was impossible not to like him.
However, in the end, even though I fell for him because of how deeply he loved me his love ended up being more short/lived than mine.
I still love him.
But sometimes I think what would I feel if I met him again? Probably nothing…
Because what I loved the most in him and what made me love him the most was that he loved me selflessly and my love was only a deep reflection of his love to me.
If I see him again and I don’t see the same thing in his eyes, I think he will just be a man who used to love me and who I loved… Nothing else.
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I believe that’s like adding fuel to the flame. There can be initial chemistry, a spark, a flame.
But when one side loves intensely, that helps fuel the other side to love intensely back, which fuels the other side to love even more intensely. It becomes the ever-growing fire that just keeps burning strong.
That’s why I don’t think people should think of giving 50/50 in a relationship, but more like 100/100.
One person loves the other with their all, and the other person loves back with their all. But if one of them gave nothing, the other would still give 100. Love like that will spark the flame anew.
When it’s 0/0, it’s like someone is waiting for the other person to make the first move. They aren’t willing to love until they are first loved in return. And if the other person is thinking the same way, they will both go nowhere and the flame won’t be rekindled.
But… If one of them chooses to love anyway, selflessly, without expecting anything in return, that can be just the fuel the other person needs to light their fire.
I’m a big believer in true love, and I think it’s one of the most beautiful things a person can experience in life.
Heck, I’d even say it IS the most beautiful thing a person can experience in life (in my opinion).
It’s hard to not be captivated by such love, since it’s so rare to see.
I believe for me, I need to have great chemistry with someone, establish a deep and meaningful connection, and then if that’s layered with intense deep sincere love… I would probably catch feelings.
no but peorbably as you said if i initially found hi "I just thought he was a very good looking guy". Yes, we women fall for me if they actually put an effort but ONLY if we initially think they are good looking or at least ok otherwise no.
Unfortunatelly a lot of me chase women only to get them for their ego and dont actually love them, thats how your story sounds. When he got you he wasn't into it, some men just like the chase and what they can't have.
He was into me. We were together for over 3 years and he proposed me.
ok but its very odd to lose interest if that was the case
Nope