Falling in love with the idea of someone means there's a good chance you won't just be irked by their flaws — you'll want to actively change who they are because it's your idea of who they should be now and in future.
Unfortunately yes... I thought he was this wise, caring, empathetic, funny, mature, patient and intelligent man I've been dreaming about. My intuition told me early on to wake the fuck up but I didn't listen. I always had this gut feeling which was saying "At first glance it looks like it, but heck it ain't it. It can't be it." After I've learned all the fucked up shit about him I didn't want to believe him so I stayed in that toxic thing for 6 more months. I was young and naive and my ex took advantage of it. He "broke up" with me during the relationship 2 times. After the last biggest fight he wanted me to change my mind about the issue. I was literally forced to come to conclusion fuck you motherfucker. Left my old life behind and never looked back.
I fall in love with the “reality” of someone…. But internet dating /long distance/ never met in person could be described as falling in love with the “idea” of someone…
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No I never cared for how people lived much. Oh well maybe one guy, I did fall in love with the idea of him? No it’s debatable. I loved talking to him, but he was depressed and a smoker so… I just wanted him to live healthy. He had stopped some times but didn’t because he just did it? 🤷♀️
I think he just did it because he wasn’t happy with his life. Not sure if it was an addiction.
Everyone else I spoke to, I wouldn’t care much for how they did things, just that they loved me and only loved me more lol.
So maybe in that sense I fell in love with the ideas of them loving me so very much.
I don’t change anyone or try to today. I try to change people for the better, but it’s easier to just let them be. I do what I need to, to live well for myself.
I liked a guy a lot but I am aware we were not around each other long enough to fully understand the other person’s flaws. I’m sure he has many good qualities too, but it was a propositional interest without full knowledge of outcomes.
I was in a long distance relationship with somebody who put very little into the relationship/ This went on for 3 years. I knew that she was not a very good girlfriend but somehow I was able to overlook it all. I figured that sooner or later she would get it and realize that she had to do better. Naturally that time never came. Eventually I got tired of it and broke up with her over the phone.
Yeah or like more with the potential that I saw in this but I was and I am a realistic person and I have never ever tried to change somebody... at the end I was just sad that it isn't what it maybe could be
Yes. Potential is a bitch. But after a bit of experience falling for people's potential is more or less a thing of the past.
Yeah, i liked the idea of someone, dated her, and realized “the idea of someone” isn't enough for love or if it isn't w good match
i think fundamentally, this is the ONLY way you can love someone. cause you can never be in their brain. you can never "really" know them. so what you love can always only be your idea of someone. and i guess whether a relationship works out or not depends on how accurate your idea is to the real thing.
i think this is way more common than we think. people have their ideal versions of you and when the reality doesn't meet the fantasy it doesn't end well.
Yes I've honestly fallen in love with the idea of younger Henry Cavill. In my mind, I've created an irresistible version of him that likes me.
Hard pass.
Yes, but it 💯 doesn't work!!!
100% of infatuation is “the idea of someone”. Infatuation is the beginning of 100% of “love” experiences. Anyone who suggests otherwise is grossly ignorant or selling something.
How else are you gonna fall in love. No one will meet your standards.
Trying to change someone's personality is a recipe for disaster.
I fall in love with the idea that each day I get to see him!
Yes I’ve been blinded by lust.
Yes, twice.
Not really, as far as I know.
hell no
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