Have you ever felt that you weren’t meant to be in your boyfriend’s future? That maybe you’re just an obstacle? Should I leave the father of my child?

[Anonymous]

This is a topic I have dwelled on for so long. I have been vocal, for 7 years now. It’s hard to explain to people close to me (26F) of my problems because my partner (27M) isn’t the “bad guy”. A likeable, mellow, and quiet person. We met young and have grown into adults together. Two years into the relationship, I got pregnant. And now we’ve lived our life with just our one child. I have been feeling my self esteem and self worth took a big hit for just being his BM. I expected that we’d be married by now. We have our own jobs, but my partner said he wanted to wait til he has a proper career. I’m at a point where I feel that all the responsibilities I have I can achieve on my own. But I’m scared that if I leave I’m going to be the one at fault for ruining our family. I can’t accept his intimacy anymore or appreciate when he tries to be nice to me. I feel cold, and over it. I’ve started to resent his advances towards me and respond with sarcasm that I’ve seen hurt his feelings. “Ex. I think you should save that for your wife. Let her know I’m good with carpools” I don’t know, I guess I expected him to have fallen for someone by now, if he wouldn’t settle with me. I’ve cried to him, and it’s like I’m talking to a brick wall. It’s like he’s waiting for my crying to end and nothing is ever resolved. Why can’t he give me a solid answer that I’m not the one for him? Why does someone who isn’t the cliche “bad dad” hurt me so much? He was the person I wanted to grow old with. I don’t think I’ll ever feel closure from this. or the decision that will soon come. Especially after the holidays. If you read this all, sorry for the pathetic vent.

[Guy13]

You sound trapped to me. It seems like marriage would be the right thing. I’m not there though🤷🏻‍♂️