Breadcrumbing? Why does this happen?

[Shinobi2134]

Why does a girl act interested just to ghost him months later. After talking often making plans for her to flake. I dont get it.

[lol20075]

Honestly it sounds like she's scared of commitment. She doesn't want anything serious with any man she meets, if any she's really looking for a quick fling/one-night stand. I've heard of girls going out with a different guy almost every week just to get a free meal 🤷‍♀️


Don't take it too personally, there's nothing wrong with you. Some people treat dating as a game, when it should really be about finding your potential life partner.

[Shinobi2134]

Unfortunately I really enjoyed getting to know her and got really hurt. Its already hard to meet women where I live and im already lacking confidence due to multiple instances like this

[Nikki1989]

Some people are just like that. Once I make plans, I stick to it.

[Shinobi2134]

It seemed odd how excited she'd be to hang out or do something.

[Avicenna]

Maybe she isn't someone who takes things seriously and just likes attention

[Shinobi2134]

After seeing her on tinder and how she's down for anything I figured that.

[ChiTown33]

You're saying she already made plans to flake months before she does it"?

[Shinobi2134]

We would make plans a week ahead. She'd flake last minute. It went on for a few months.

[ChiTown33]

Ok that's different she's either super busy and saying your time doesn't matter. Or she not interested, has never been interested but lime you being interested.
Either way the cure is rhe same. You drop her flat!. Don't talk to her about it just pull up stakes and mive on. Find another girl and go out with her. IF the first girl comes back to you and all of a sudden has time for you. Tell her thanks for coming to see me but i'm seeing some one else now. And hold firm regardless of what she says. If you gwt upset in any way she'll have won. She has to walk away from that meeting as she had a chance with a quality guy but SHE blew it! This is the only way that'll happen if that's possible. If she was just leading you on. She walks away having been brought down to earth she thought she could wrap you around her finger and it didn't work. It'll be a blow to her ego.
Now since you got a girlfriend go out and be a great boyfriend and be thankful that you were treated the way you were by that manipulative girl now you know not all women are created equal!

[Shinobi2134]

she's got guys chasing her doubt she's coming back. Unfortunately im not great with women why I end up with girls like this

[ChiTown33]

Ok well i'd just move on clearly you're not big on her radar or she'd not have flaked like she did. This will come back to her eventually trust me. I knew a girl in school whi did that to guys and she really only wanted one guy. Well she got him. They married. And now he cheats on her constantly. Everyone knows about it. And she is constantly humiliated.

[Shinobi2134]

She already has a 3 year old. Im moving on. Difficult thing is its a small town and im bad with women

[Cam45795]

It's fun for them! They aren't doing it and regretting it, I assure you If it isn't fun for you, then dont engage. I find women fascinating so, dont get offended is my advice