Should I date someone 18 years older then me?

Question

he's 40 I'm 22, we share a lot of interests and have the same values

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If you're not interested in a long term relationship all that matters is that you're having fun. However, if you want a long term relationship what matters isn't age. It's maturity and life goals. If you're compatible in terms of those two things then age is just a number. However, age is often a decent indicator that you won't be compatible in these areas (although there are many exceptions to this. I'm actually married to a man 16 years younger and we have a great marriage. However, he's also very exceptional in that he is compatible with me maturity wise and in terms of life goals. That would not have been the case with the significant majority of younger men)

Alyssa11 · Accepted Answer

If you want to. Just bear in mind older people might have some kind of coercion against you so be alert to that. Also consider that some people are single at 40 for example for a reason.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I've been out with girls 22 and I can tell you this they are smarter they are wiser they're more confident some of the people that I know that are my age it has been a very very good experience but parts were good friends she just opened up a business but I think you could learn a lot from a person that's older than you weathers dating or even just being a friend the guys that I work with their wives are always trying to hook me up with somebody and they're in their twenties so I am my age and I do have a lot of friends in their twenties or thirties and I mean they come to me for advice we just friends so experienced it whether you're dating or just a friend

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

Yes not a problem, it’s down to compatibility and how you both are as a couple.

People often get too hung up on age and not things like dating people we are not really compatible with or don’t tick all the boxes.

being happy is a huge part of any relationship and having someone you can connect to is important.

the biggest hurdle can be friends and family on both sides, getting them inside ASAP is really important.

interests and values are really important when you are entering a relationship, it brings you closer than most other things in life.

Also saying no would be rather hypocritical of me lol..

JSmuve · Answer

Wait, someone show this to all the girls who say girls *never* go for a guy more than five years older than them. There's one chick who keeps harping about it but I can't remember what her name was.

Anonymous · Answer

Go for it if you really like him. I personally ONLY like younger guys I’d feel weird dating a man nearly as old as my dad 😕

fred_durst · Answer

as long as both of you are thick skinned enough to face people who will judge you , sure , why not

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Only if neither of you have a problem with it, if your only worry is what people will think about it, then yes. If it actually bothers you or him, than no.

The_Maphio · Answer

Both of legal age, both consenting, both ok with the idea of having a relationship? Good for me.  Just consider that he realistically could be your parent. If you don't care, more power to you.

alexander3244 · Answer

Nope, my father is 14 years older than my mother, and trust me, they are terrible. My father acts younger than his actual age and my mother acts like she's older than her actual age. It's hard to watch :(

WesBrewer · Answer

I say 10 years is the max, but it up to you, in my opinion it’s a no though.

weysally · Answer

age at the moment may not seem that bad, but in later years it could, be careful

wankiam · Answer

if you like him then go for it

Dchrls78104 · Answer

If you are compatible and he feels the same way you do and treats you well, then go for it; may you have many years of happiness together.

vald9inches · Answer

Go for it! You are both two responsible people with your own minds so do what you want dont let other people tell you what to do! 😊

Anonymous · Answer

Your 18 now and your consider as an adult now. Do on what your heart tells you. My best friend ex girlfriend 37F happily married for 15 years to a 65M and they have 5 kids together.

Wise4myage · Answer

Why not? If it feels right, then go for it. You can always back out if ithings don’t work out.

DaMack999 · Answer

Experience it. Give it a chance. You might like it and learn something. Who knows until you try.

Shellyworld · Answer

Yes you can as long as everything is according to your wishes

Luckycharms12 · Answer

It's a huge age gap it's bit much though

Avicenna · Answer

Sure, you’re both adults

DaviRon · Answer

It's okay to date anyone

Stevefiveo · Answer

Yes, date whoever you want.

AmeerX · Answer

Of course. Love is not bound by age

Mangospacho · Answer

You “can” but it is not recommended.

JamieLoves · Answer

If you like him... YESSSSSSS

Twalli · Answer

That's a pretty big age gap.

lycanthrope3 · Answer

give it a go, you may regret not trying

Anonymous · Answer

You shouldn't. Big gap

COMMODOREII · Answer

Go for it

msc545 · Answer

Sure, why not?

Jendeukiee · Answer

of course

7771999 · Answer

No...

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

nope

Hotdmt · Answer

Yeah

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