Should I date someone 18 years older then me?

[Ludoblue]

he's 40 I'm 22, we share a lot of interests and have the same values

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes not a problem, it’s down to compatibility and how you both are as a couple.

People often get too hung up on age and not things like dating people we are not really compatible with or don’t tick all the boxes.

being happy is a huge part of any relationship and having someone you can connect to is important.

the biggest hurdle can be friends and family on both sides, getting them inside ASAP is really important.

interests and values are really important when you are entering a relationship, it brings you closer than most other things in life.

Also saying no would be rather hypocritical of me lol..

[Ludoblue]

We haven't met yet but I really like him and want to soon

[ChrisMaster69]

Obviously think safety but it’s a case of being happy as well.

It’s worth making sure a friend etc knows about it as well.

[Ludoblue]

Yeah I will have to travel to another state though

[ChrisMaster69]

Luckily mine drives and lives local lol.

It a long drive?

[Ludoblue]

I'll probably take train to NY from pa

[ChrisMaster69]

Excellent, you thought when you likely to do it?

[Ludoblue]

Maybe next month

[ChrisMaster69]

Excellent, you had much negative feedback from friends etc?

[Ludoblue]

No not really they know regardless I'll do what I think is right also they see how we talk and he is very genuine and sweet

[Anonymous]

If you're not interested in a long term relationship all that matters is that you're having fun. However, if you want a long term relationship what matters isn't age. It's maturity and life goals. If you're compatible in terms of those two things then age is just a number. However, age is often a decent indicator that you won't be compatible in these areas (although there are many exceptions to this. I'm actually married to a man 16 years younger and we have a great marriage. However, he's also very exceptional in that he is compatible with me maturity wise and in terms of life goals. That would not have been the case with the significant majority of younger men)

[Alyssa11]

If you want to. Just bear in mind older people might have some kind of coercion against you so be alert to that. Also consider that some people are single at 40 for example for a reason.

[Ludoblue]

he's divorced 😬

[Alyssa11]

Major red flag. Divorced and going for some younger than him... women his age don’t want to put up with him or what?

[Ludoblue]

I'll have to find out more

[Alyssa11]

Why not :)

[ohshee]

I've been out with girls 22 and I can tell you this they are smarter they are wiser they're more confident some of the people that I know that are my age it has been a very very good experience but parts were good friends she just opened up a business but I think you could learn a lot from a person that's older than you weathers dating or even just being a friend the guys that I work with their wives are always trying to hook me up with somebody and they're in their twenties so I am my age and I do have a lot of friends in their twenties or thirties and I mean they come to me for advice we just friends so experienced it whether you're dating or just a friend

[JSmuve]

Wait, someone show this to all the girls who say girls *never* go for a guy more than five years older than them. There's one chick who keeps harping about it but I can't remember what her name was.

[Ludoblue]

Who or what

[Anonymous]

Go for it if you really like him. I personally ONLY like younger guys I’d feel weird dating a man nearly as old as my dad 😕

[Ludoblue]

My dad is 60 so not as bad

[fred_durst]

as long as both of you are thick skinned enough to face people who will judge you , sure , why not

[Ludoblue]

I've never cared fir others opinions as long as I'm not hurting anyone

[The_Maphio]

Both of legal age, both consenting, both ok with the idea of having a relationship? Good for me.
Just consider that he realistically could be your parent. If you don't care, more power to you.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Only if neither of you have a problem with it, if your only worry is what people will think about it, then yes. If it actually bothers you or him, than no.

[Ludoblue]

I dint care what others think but I was looking for others advice for generational differences

[TheSpaceGnome]

age gaps matter for only 3 reasons:

1. age of consent: you are both adults so this one is moot

2. relatability: you already claimed you can relate to him pretty well mentally.

3. lifespan differences: this is the only unknown to me, if he looks younger/healthier than most his age, then this is also moot, if he looks heavily aged however, then you might need to consider that you may live longer than him and you will be alone in your last years.

[Ludoblue]

Yeah its scary he will die sooner bur he's only 40 so we have time

[TheSpaceGnome]

He might not die sooner, he might live 20 or more years longer than most people, you might live 20 years less, life is uncertain, but lifespan isn't about how many years you existed, it's about how full your health bar is, and how often and how well it's refilled.

Healthy humans have indeterminent lifespans, meaning there is no cap on how long a person can live so long as they maintain good health.

Many people fuck up their health beyond repair before they even reach adulthood though, and they have no clue what things are doing it short of a select few habits or injuries.

[alexander3244]

Nope, my father is 14 years older than my mother, and trust me, they are terrible. My father acts younger than his actual age and my mother acts like she's older than her actual age. It's hard to watch :(

[WesBrewer]

I say 10 years is the max, but it up to you, in my opinion it’s a no though.

[weysally]

age at the moment may not seem that bad, but in later years it could, be careful

[wankiam]

if you like him then go for it

[Ludoblue]

Thanks

[Dchrls78104]

If you are compatible and he feels the same way you do and treats you well, then go for it; may you have many years of happiness together.

[vald9inches]

Go for it! You are both two responsible people with your own minds so do what you want dont let other people tell you what to do! 😊

[Anonymous]

Your 18 now and your consider as an adult now. Do on what your heart tells you. My best friend ex girlfriend 37F happily married for 15 years to a 65M and they have 5 kids together.

[Wise4myage]

Why not? If it feels right, then go for it. You can always back out if ithings don’t work out.

[DaMack999]

Experience it. Give it a chance. You might like it and learn something. Who knows until you try.

[Shellyworld]

Yes you can as long as everything is according to your wishes

[Luckycharms12]

It's a huge age gap it's bit much though

[Avicenna]

Sure, you’re both adults

[DaviRon]

It's okay to date anyone

[Ludoblue]

No under 18

[Stevefiveo]

Yes, date whoever you want.

[AmeerX]

Of course. Love is not bound by age