Well honestly there is nothing wrong with being with a older man so do not think there is something wrong about that. You have a right be happy and you should follow your heart in finding happiness and not care what other people say or think.
With that said, if you know what you want out of life then you have to consider all things and at 19 that's a major commitment or decision to make... because lets be honest at 56 this guy has a lot of life experience and has made a lot of choices that at 19 you have yet to have the opportunity to filter through for yourself on your own terms.
I always tell people regardless of the situation that if you get into a relationship that is not making you happy or you are not getting what you want out of it then you should consider other possibilities. If this guy really loves you and he seriously wants to be with a 19 year old then he has to consider your feelings and be willing to compromise with you. If you want kids he should be willing to do that. I for one at 45 have had my kids and I do not want any more... so being with a women that wants kids would never work for me and I would never ask her to do that for me. Growing old together is just never something you at 19 can do with a guy that is 37 years old than you... seriously when your 40 he would be like 87 years old, do you really see yourself caring for a 87 year old at 40 years old if he is still alive at 87? By the time your 30 he could already have serious health issues at 77.
My sister is 50 and her husband 77 years old and she is very happy with him and has been for last 15 years... but at 35 she had to make that choice that she would never have kids and that she would probably find herself alone at some point. So you are asking the right questions, but honestly you will only find the answers you seek within yourself.
Just consider whether or not this love is sweet enough and worth it despite him potentially leaving this earth at nearly 1/3 of your kids life span, and you being left a widow at maybe even his age or earlier.
How is his health? If you're gonna do this, you both have to have him on a seriously healthy diet for longevity and good quality of life if you want that "grow old together" dream. He'll have to beat the odds, which means His lifestyle has to be really healthy-- Like blue zone type of health. And even then there's genetics. What's his family history like when it comes to diseases? All these things play a factor.
You seem to be passionate about him. Just know that there are consequences to every choice we make. If you feel it's worth it then go for it. If not, then let it go. But you have to be willing to face the practical consequences that will come along with the relationship. Right now you might be blinded by passion, so take some time to think everything through be for you decide to commit to him.
Best of luck!
You don’t think it’s sad you won’t get have kids and grow old together and see your kids have your grandkid… personally I couldn’t do it but each to their own.
Can’t say it’s wrong or not, a bit weird, yes but it’s not my life and not my choice so what I think or say shouldn’t matter
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I do not think an age difference this large can work. You're at fundamentally different places in life. You certiainly won't grow old with him... but you may be taking care of someone as they lose their physical and mental faculties... while you're very much at the prime of your life.
I don't know you, or enough about your situation I suppose. I am a big fan of Love. But I just cannot see a 37 year age gap being healthy (as in "healthy relationship"). I'm 37 years old. To think In 19 years I might date someone who is just now being born... and have it work... is... honestly... ridiculous.
u Dating someone 37 years old means you won't grow old together. You must ether accept it or recognize that he is not a suitable long-term partner for you, regardless of whatever chemistry there may be.
... are you serious? This isn't a red flag to you? A guy that age wanting to go out with you? Maybe he's got money, maybe he's intelligent, maybe he treats (or says he will treat) you well. But why oh why do you think this is a good idea? You said you want to grow old with and have kids with a guy... Logic tells me this isn't your man. There are many guys his age looking to get with young girls like you. It's sick. If you like older, more mature, sofisticated men, that's fine. But 37 years? That age gap is older than YOU!!! In fact it's almost double your age. Think about that. You say you're falling in love... But what you've actually fallen into is a deep dark pit of infatuation. Get away from this guy, find someone closer to your age, get married, have a whole bunch of kids, and forget that you ever thought this was a good idea.
I think if someone is old enough to be your parent it is okay as long as they don't have kids within 15 years of your age. If they are close to being old enough to be your grandparent, that is too much.
Plus you want kids. After age 55 guys chance of having healthy kids without problems decreases. Not as quickly as women's does after her age of 35, but I'd say it is already too late in life for him to likely have healthy kids.
Little bit older is an understatement...
Persanlly I'd say it won't work in the long run. That being said, you're young, you don't have to rush into kids. You could pursue for a little while and still by 22 find someone else you can settle down with and start a family. Stop wasting his money on insignificant things, buy an apartment and get him to contribute to paying mortgage. But be very open with him that it has a shelf life.
What do you do for a living? Are you working? In college?
It's not wrong. If you're both happy together then who cares about the age difference. Does he feel the same way about you or are you just his charm for his arm?
I'm age 54 and would date someone age 18-40 and have a baby with her
You can grow old with someone and have kids , and you could be married to this guy as well 🙂😆
No women like dominance money and daddy issue.
You'll fuck him for a while until around 25 then your not gonna want it anymore.
Because hell try and settle down.
Well if you do have kids at least you'll have practice changing diapers for later on.
You should keep sucking up that dudes cash and realize you'll be getting old with some new friends
No I like younger girls because I have a young spirit
I can't imagine that a 56 year old man dating a 19 year old woman is up to much good.
Uh, usually women with "daddy issues", do this
Well I am 62 she 40ish it about love
Not wrong.
Age is nothing but a number
Fk em & Leave
Trophy wife
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