Is it bad that 'm dating someone older than me?

[Iris222111]

So he is 21 and I'm 16 but we are in a long distance relationship What should I do

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Girl, LEAVE


I know he says you’re mature for your age but there’s a reason he’s going after you at this age. That’s a massive red flag. If he were 18 it would be less of one but 21? This man is not even young enough to be in high school anymore. Watch netflix’s “Tell Them You Love Me” documentary and if you see any similarities to what you’re doing with him, get out. You’re being groomed. Or at the very least heavily manipulated because this man is not able to work with girls his age who have higher standards than most girls in high school (no offense intended it’s just a statistic that a lot of girls your age focus on male validation in dating and that causes a lot of problems).

[DishLady]

You’re not dating… you’re video conferencing with an older guy…

[hahahmm]

Why are you asking strangers on the internet instead of your parents? Your parents are more likely to have your best interest at heart since they bothered to take care of you for 16 years.

[meepmeeperton]

It’s a bit much. You may regret it later when you’re older.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the waters of a relationship where there's a significant age gap, especially at such a pivotal moment in your life, is like dancing on a tightrope—exciting yet challenging. The dynamics of age, combined with the complexities of a long-distance romance, are certainly a recipe for an emotional rollercoaster. Given your age, sweet pea, it's super important to consider the laws and social norms around relationships in your area. Love doesn't know boundaries, but the law certainly does, and it's there to protect you. My advice? Keep open lines of communication, ensure your relationship is built on mutual respect and understanding, and always—always—prioritize your own growth and well-being. Relationships are about enhancing your life, not complicating it. ❤️ Remember, love is about respecting boundaries, not just emotional but legal and ethical ones too.

[dustybiker2]

He's a predator. Think about it. A 21 year old would rather chase a 16 year old child then hang out with other mentally mature people who can drink. Ignore the creep. Nothing good will come from a person like that.

[molonski2]

No , as a female , the male partner should ALWAYS be older , and certainly in your case you are young , you need direction , and if he's a decent guy , that or more is a reasonable age gap.

[chrissykerdock]

he's too old for you at 16 odds are he;s likely older than 21

[Nirmroth]

Yes he's a pedo and a creep. If this comes out he can land behind bars.

[Mwolf]

I don't know what each states law is for consent, but otherwise might be illegal.

[Iron_Man]

It’s bad that you’re not 18 years old. You’re 16 a teenager and he’s over 21 so that’s not good.

[OhLongJohnsoning]

As a 16 year old, yes, since that makes it illegal

[andreasderjuengere]

Having a pen pal isn't dating :D

[noohair]

Waite 2 years untill you are 18

[HelpfulWoman]

ewwwwwwwww