Why is dating like this?

Question

why is it that men have to put in 2000% effort to get a chance with a women, while a woman can pretty much put in 30% effort and pretty much garentee to get a boyfriend? I have to look good, smell good, change how I look, change everything about myself just to have a chance, and even then the only person who matters is her, I have to change everything about myself just to get her to look at me. Then initiate the conversation and have her talk about herself, show I'm listening to let her know I'm interested, while there no effort for her to get to know me, she doesn't have to put in any effort at all, and even in relationships guys are expected to put in 80% of the effort to keep the relationship together while the girl puts in 20%. The moment the guy only covers for 60% or 50%, the girl will leave him for another guy or cheat. No wonder why the dating world is impossible now for guys. Guys to talk to 100 women and maybe get 1 date. A women can talk with 100 men and get with 90-95 of them easy. All she has to do is dress nice, and that's pretty much it. She's not expected to change a single aspect about herself to get with someone but a guy has to throw everything about himself out the window and be whatever women want him to be to get with some. F that bs. I want a 50/50 relationship, we both put in work and we both make ourself look good but still be us and fall in love for who they are while putting in effort to know the other person, but no, one thing wrong with the guy and he has no chance, 10 things wrong with her and she still have a 90% chance.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

I see women bomb out over and over, I wouldn't make assumptions of their reality. guys are the pursuers in nature, so it may feel harder, to some degree, all they have to do is present themselvers and they get a taker. You have to present your value to them and often get filtered out emotionally, very quickly. The ones who "market" themselves well win.

You just have to accept it as a learning process. Some people can swing a bat and hit the ball first time, others have to practice for a long time.

Sevenpointfive · Accepted Answer

i don't know bro. if you don't have money then you don't have a g/f

Troyana123 · Accepted Answer

the girl Will make the 100% of the effort just if she likes u.. i made so many things to my ex-bf. i give him money to his university, he used my car, i make his fav food every time, i made all of these things just bc i loved him so much, i was in love with him... but i dont will do much effort with 1 guy who i dont like him, it dont have sence..

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Im a girl and i agree. Nowadays mostly girls dnt do efforts at all they act like its an honor to date them lol. And yes im a real girl but i hate how girls and feminism are changin some guys making them hate us.