How does all my friends make it look easy to get into a relationship?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

It looks easy because they are hiding their true self from all partners, hiding their past history, modifying their behavior to appease who they are with... and they don't even know they are doing it. Such relationships do not involve much depth that goes beyond the false self and so it's 'easy'. How many people in relationships that you know of only got into them because they were overflowing with such an abundance that they had to share it with someone... as opposed to feeling lack, loneliness, desire or a void.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Because it really IS easy. The key is never to worry about making a fool of yourself. If you can laugh at your own misfortune others will laugh too. It puts people at ease.

[Asker]

Really? Half of them dont even respond

[TommyMountainFigure]

I'm talking about in person. How things work online I have no idea. I'm old school.

[DrAdams]

Perhaps the amount of people they know and sheer luck

[MannMitAntworten]

Probably because for them, it is. You likely have a lot more, requirements.

[FEARLESSHERO]

Because they lower their standards

[Asker]

Half of my guys dont even respond

[FEARLESSHERO]

Lower it more