Would you date someone with an OnlyFans?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't, for 2 reasons
1. The type of women who usually make an OnlyFans are undesirable
2. I consider it cheating, idc if it's for money, ends don't justify the means

Yes

No

[weeee]

If thats something they did in the past or something for money or whatever ill give them a pass, but dating someone while they are also actively doing that? Nah

[hm7733]

I'm not possessive or controlling - sex work is just a job and I want my partner do do whatever job they want to. Onlyfans is taking photos and videos.
It's completely fine to have boundaries in relationships but people who think sex workers cheating need to re-evaluate how they think of sex work.

[Asker]

No we absolutely do not. It most certainly is cheating. If she didn't do it for money, and just sent them to a guy she liked, no one would say it isn't cheating. Just because you do it for money doesn't change what you did. If I throw garbage into the ocean for fun, vs doing it because someone paid me to, does it change the fact that I threw garbage into the ocean? No, no it doesn't

[hm7733]

Cheating is to do with the lying and betrayal, it's only cheating if both people in the relationship aren't okay with it. Open relationships or polyamory isn't cheating.

Sex work isn't cheating cos they aren't in a sexual or romantic relationship with anyone else. It's just work.
Like how it's not cheating for a masseuse to give their clients a massage, it would be cheating however for them to give people massages outside of their job.

If you have a problem with your spouse working then that's your problem, it's only their fault if they haven't told you about it.

[Asker]

"Cheating is to do with the lying and betrayal, it's only cheating if both people in the relationship aren't okay with it. Open relationships or polyamory isn't cheating"

You literally just defeated your own argument right then and there and it's hilarious that you don't see why

"Sex work isn't cheating cos they aren't in a sexual or romantic relationship with anyone else"

Relationship? No, but sexual engagement? Yes. By your logic if I have meaning less sex once with someone as far favor because they were feeling depressed and never do it again, it wasn't cheating as there was no relationship and I was just helping them out

"Like how it's not cheating for a masseuse to give their clients a massage, it would be cheating however for them to give people massages outside of their job"

Uh no, your moral code is really fucked. A massage isn't inherently sexual to begin with. The only way a massage would be cheating is if the purpose was to establish some sort of intimacy. If your friend had a sore shoulder and you rubbed it for them, that's not cheating. Shit analogy

"If you have a problem with your spouse working then that's your problem, it's only their fault if they haven't told you about it"

Quite obviously in the question the person isn't okay with it dumbass, that's the point. You're looking retroactively in an attempt to strawman my argument.

Pretty obvious that you dodge the ends vs means point, so I'll say it again. If I throw garbage into the ocean for fun vs if I throw it into the ocean because someone paid me to, does it make a difference?

[hm7733]

Yes they are different, both aren't okay

But sex isn't the same as throwing rubbish into the ocean either

[Asker]

Cheating is an immoral thing. Just like throwing garbage into the ocean.

You specifically had to mention polyamory and open relationships to try and give it a pass. That's bias. The majority of people aren't polyamorous and don't want an open relationship.

The question is would you date someone with an only fans. No because many would consider it cheating, because they aren't into open relationships or polyamory

[ceciliamrs222]

no i’d find it every disrespectful to the relationship

[Sweepthelegjonny]

Absolutely not. I couldn’t imagine starting a relationship with someone and having to SHARE a part of my relationship with an entire subreddit.

[James_Likes_PPL]

I accidentally hit yes. I really meant to hit absolutely no chance in hell. Cause that’s where all the only fans girls are... hell. I’m just joking. Kinda of. 😂.

[MCheetah]

Absolutely not. I couldn't even respect someone who did that (unless it was like, a "do or die" situation or "her kids would be homeless" or something, but that's rarely ever the case).

[Dchrls78104]

Sorry, no. I need someone in my life who has much more to offer than that.

[_乃尺OЩ刀_TITI]

od Yih, I'll take the s of her so I can be her OnlyFan

[OddBeMe]

Been trying to talk my wife into it.

[bamesjond0069]

I agree with both of your reasons.

[insignificant_person]

Probably no.

[JesseJayNeak]

No, I ain't no simp