Should I do this?

[Gwenhwyfar]

I wanna tell my one online friend (male) that our mutual online friend (female) likes him (she literally Likes all of his posts).

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I’m not gonna do it

[Bluemax]

I don't think it's a good idea. Perhaps if she wanted you to.

I've done that on the occasion when a friend of mine asked me to. That was in high school. I also told a friend of mine that our mutual friend's sister liked him. She was totally into him and hoped someday he would ask her out. I also told him because he was *very* down on himself at the time, believing no one except losers liked him (far from true, my *own* sister liked him too... and given that virtually every friend I had had a crush on her I'd say my sister never lacked attention from men). My friend's sister was also not wanting for attention from men. We all had a crush on her, myself included. Ironically, the friend I told that she liked him was probably the only one who *didn't* have a crush on her. However, telling him did have its intended effect. He knew she was no loser and a lot of guys wanted her, even if he didn't. He perked up on hearing this. I also knew he would be discreet if he didn't like her and would never make things awkward. He didn't disappoint me in that regard.

Epilogue: My friend who I told is now a mortgage officer and happily married to a nurse. They have one kid. My friend's sister is an obstetrician and happily married to another doctor. They have 2 daughters. My sister never dated any of my friends. That's a pity given the long list of asswipes she did date. Ultimately she married an architect, who is not an ass wipe. She has one daughter, my lovely and amazing niece. And I am all alone. 😢

[Bluemax]

Have you asked your friend if she wants you to tell him?

[stargazeraug1989]

That could go south really quickly. Is there any particular reason why you want to tell him?

[Gwenhwyfar]

I think they’d make a good couple

[stargazeraug1989]

I would leave that for one of them to decide. If either of them feels as strongly as you do, they'll make the first move. It's not something you should do.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I don't think it's a good idea. I think that's for her to tell or him to figure out on his own.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Thanks

[Lillie_xo]

Id let her tell him ! meddling like that won't always turn out how you expect or hope /(@ﾟﾍﾟ@)

[Gwenhwyfar]

Thank you

[NathanDavis]

one of my biggest mistakes... was when I assumed it was okay to tell something about my friend to her best friends... I wrongly assumed it was "obvious" or that, she told them already or would tell them eventually...

I took the liberty of giving this information without to them, without telling her first... in this case... she had her very personal reasons to not tell her friends but to tell me and only me

I made her feel like she could not trust me with personal things, and that she could not trust my judgment... and I did hurt her

not only I assumed that "it was obvious" I also assumed it was no big deal if I did... anyway... if you have a bit of worry and think maybe you should not do it, then just don't do it... because there's a possibility than you might hurt someone, even if just a little bit hurt or upset... don't know about you, but I just hate to hurt people or make them upset even if just a bit, so I would be careful with this

[Gwenhwyfar]

She didn’t tell me she liked him. I inferred it from her actions. But thank you for your advice.

[NathanDavis]

well, I would be even more reluctant to do it... because to infer is not actually knowing for sure, it's still to reach to our own conclusions

[qwert1234]

Maybe do some probing questions. Ask him on what he thinks of your several female friends, of course, including that specific female friend.

If he responds positively - then maybe you could mention.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Hmm. Not a bad idea.

[EmbraceThePain]

Mhmm.


Well, in this case, I don’t think so, unless the woman wants you too

[Gwenhwyfar]

Hmm. Thank you.

[ChrisMaster69]

I would step back, I’ve been burnt doing this and lost 2 friends rather than having 2 friends bond. It might sound easy to help but I would really would leave it to them to sort.

[Red_Arrow]

Rough choice. She likes him, but telling him that could help... or hinder. I would suggest learning more from each about how they feel about the other.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Don't out someone's perceived feelings without their consent, that's just not cool.

If she is into it she might not be ready to tell him or something else. Either way, it's not your information to tell.

[1stranger]

Why shouldn't you do this?
I mean what happens if you do this?

[Gwenhwyfar]

They might get mad at me

[Static_In_The_Attic]

If she really really really likes him maybe she should let him know. On the flip side playing Cupid instead of playing stupid is a great idea as well.

[newfreshstart]

why really knows if your online friends are who they really say they are

[Gwenhwyfar]

They are. But I’m not gonna get involved.

[newfreshstart]

@gwenhwyfar good for you its better that way

[Gwenhwyfar]

Thanks

[newfreshstart]

welcome

[Tstrbrainer]

Yeah if this female friend is okay with it, go ahead.

Did she ever tell you directly that she's crushing on him or is it a guess?

[Gwenhwyfar]

A pretty sure guess

[Tstrbrainer]

If it's a guess, I think you can tell him.

[Joshua0213]

I mean its pretty obvious at this point isn't it if she likes all the posts, he's probably just not interested

[Gwenhwyfar]

Maybe

[collie22]

i think you made a good choice letting them figure it out

[Gwenhwyfar]

Thank you 😊

[Iron_Man]

You might as well tell me everybody else is crushing on me

[Gwenhwyfar]

I get what you mean but this is different

[Iron_Man]

Ok…,,;

[loves2learn]

He probably already knows if she keeps liking his posts.

[Jamie05rhs]

No; he probably doesn't. You are overestimating the intelligence of men.

[loves2learn]

@Jamie05rhs my bad!

[Jamie05rhs]

@loves2learn 🤣🤣

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes tell him especially if you think he'll like her too

[Bklynbadboy12]

Did you tell him

[Gwenhwyfar]

I’m not gonna say a word. The more I think about it he’s a really smart and intuitive guy. He’s gotta know she likes him especially with her being so obvious that even N (our other friend) picked up on it. If he’s not gonna make a move that’s his business unless he directly asks me for advice.

[Bklynbadboy12]

See that's what I like about you you always think things through😉

[Gwenhwyfar]

Thank you!!!

[Bklynbadboy12]

Your so welcome

[Bklynbadboy12]

I need to be more like you cause at times I can be soooooo impulsive

[es20490446e]

If your girl friend is okay with it, I could do it if that helps them.

[crmoore]

Not a good idea, in my opinion. It's just not your place to do so and it could anger your friend.

[convo_king89]

well you could say why does she always like ur posts and and asking him to investigate further.

[Jerre]

I would certainly not hesitate in passing the info. Should not hurt anyone’s feelings.

[Sabretooth]

could be a nice surprise... could blow up.

[Gwenhwyfar]

That’s what I’m worried about

[Sabretooth]

talk about her.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Good idea

[Sabretooth]

good luck.

[NYCQuestions1976]

I'd check with her first.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Yeah

[pink_and_inlove]

She’ll probably get mad

[Gwenhwyfar]

Yeah

[Jamie05rhs]

So what? Let her get mad.

[jasco]

yea unless u like him

[Gwenhwyfar]

I don’t

[jasco]

than help the poor fella out

[Gwenhwyfar]

Cool

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Whatever your comfortable with doing

[Cassieee18]

If he likes her back you can maybe drop a hint.

[Wise4myage]

Sure, maybe drop some hints?

[Wise4myage]

That's fine too!

[barn_stormer]

you should

[Gwenhwyfar]

Thanks 😊

[Smf1989]

Does he talk to her?

[Gwenhwyfar]

Yes.

[Smf1989]

She should tell him

[karaspara]

Yeah go for it

[Jace_Belleren]

Do it

[Gwenhwyfar]

Thanks

[Jace_Belleren]

Pleasure

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes. Tell him!

[noohair]

Online is fake friends. Face to face is real.

[Twalli]

Is she okay with it?

[legalboxers]

:( booo

[B4852]

Go ahead.

[eagle1951]

should you do what