Is it weird to be 23 and not even kissed a girl yet?

Question

I’ve never tried if I’m honest. I think I’m a very attractive man and I’m told I’m a cool guy. I have a lot going for me.

But I kind of feel like I’ll just never ever find anyone. Like if a pretty girl stares at me in the street I have to look away because it’s just awkward.

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pickedcrisps · Accepted Answer

You'd be surprised how common. And only getting more so with time. And I'm no incel, I'm just an average guy who just never really found someone worth it. And that's how I'm fine with it.

27 and never done anything but I am comfortable with it. I guess the decades can continue flying me by because I choose to believe in heaven/hell and that's why I'm happy living this bachelor single lifestyle of sorts because to me, right or wrong in my beliefs, it serves my purpose to me as a happy coping mechanism. ... and I see that as good for me 🙏

ItsMeElliana · Accepted Answer

It's your life and you shouldn't care about what others think of you. you can do whatever you want and at the right time. :)
don't feel pressurized by the people around you. because you're saving that kiss for the right person to come along and it should mean it.

hi_it_is_me123 · Accepted Answer

No. It is actually cute. Please dont be ashamed of being virgin. If you were a girl, you would not care about being a virgin. It is ok to be a virgin. I personally prefere virgin/non promiscuos men and i would be happy to find a virgin men

cth96190 · Answer

A huge number of men in your age range have not touched a woman.
Many have never even been on a date.
Why?
Young women have, as a collective, made themselves bitchy, unapproachable and obnoxious.
Through Title IX, #MeToo and Feminist indoctrination in general young women, as a collective, have made themselves too dangerous to approach.
Most of the young women are chasing the top 5 per cent of Chads. To most women, the remaining 95 per cent of young men do not exist.
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serious · Answer

Nothing is weird about this. At least according to me. I am 34 and I have never kissed a woman, never been touched by a woman and I don't have any regrets at all.

You are only 23, you are very young and you have plenty of time to experience being kissed by a woman or kissing a woman, anyway you put it.

I don't see your situation weird at all.

tatianamay · Answer

It is not weird, just unusual. Maybe you're shy? or maybe you don't feel like its the right time? Don't feel pressured to do things just because your friends are doing it, or too seem 'cool'. The important thing is, you have to feel comfortable.

Screenwriter · Answer

It's a bit unusual. Sounds like you're shy.

The main point is, do you WANT to? Second question is, WHEN do you want to?

Perhaps you haven't been motivated because you don't feel that strongly toward anyone so far.

MarkRet · Answer

It's not weird, but keep in mind, if you aim at nothing, you'll hit nothing. Girls aren't all super focused and confident. Some of them have their own insecurities, and might even be interested in you, but they're afraid to make the first move.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

To be honest if I wouldn't count escort girls, I haven't had my first kiss either

Anonymous · Answer

It may not be too common, but it isn’t weird. There is also something weird in me. I only had a girlfriend back then in Kindergarten. Me and my family moved elsewhere in the city, so I went to another school, and that cause the split up. I almost had a girlfriend in high school, but I never really tried making the move.

WhoRtheseGuys · Answer

Not a big deal. Most guys that act like they get tons off ass are usually repulsive.

TwinkleLily5 · Answer

Next time a pretty girl stares at you don’t look away. Ask her out, take a chance. It’s time for you to get that kiss. Good luck.

Slayerrrrrrr · Answer

Wink at her next time, be bold. Sometimes at the local bars downtown girls will actually come to you, be ready for it and just have a good time. dobt think too much about it and stay relaxed and entertain yourself through flirty conversation

Explorer911 · Answer

Don't stress it. Be nice but not a fool. Be welcoming but don't chase. Be honest and don't take breadcrums.

crazy8000 · Answer

Are you in a hurry?

It isn't that special.
Especially if the other one isn't someone you have feelings for that have the same feelings. even if there are feelings between it isn't that special like some paint it up to be.

Flower7 · Answer

This is definitely unusual, but there's nothing wrong with it either.

Anonymous · Answer

I am almost 32 I am a virgin and I kissed only once 2 summers ago at 30, out of despair with a guy I randomly met. But I promised myself I would never do that again, I would never kiss a man unless I truly love them. Kissing is very special, without love you ruin it's true purpose. Sometimes some are not meant to have those things. It is normal. But sad, of course.

exitseven · Answer

Everyone has their own circumstances. The opportunity never presented itself. It happens. Shake it off and go out find somebody.

KingofCups · Answer

You've gotta have some confidence and go for it eventually. Really the only thing making it awkward is your own perception. You can do it bro. Believe in yourself.

noohair · Answer

Don't be afraid. Women are just humans too. I know you are afraid of breaking you male ego, but there is no firing squad. Live your life. Be yourself, everyone else is taken.

Wester1967 · Answer

You’re lucky bro. Once these women get their claws in to you, you’ll never walk straight again

owaislatif · Answer

First of all it's not a weird and it's someone's personal choice , 2nd it depends on which country you livin and also religion is major factor , most of Muslim even at 30 year's of haven't kissed a girl , they will wait till there marriages.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

Could be to others, but if that’s how you are, so be it. We’re all supposed to wait for that woman we marry.

Anonymous · Answer

well, we are in a pandemic-- took 2 years off. I had my first kiss at 20, im 22 now. a lot of people are behind sexually now because they didn't leave their house or meet anyone

Anonymous · Answer

Please be my boyfriend.  I'm 22 and a virgin too.  I respect guys like you seriously.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

To me, no; it's not. I haven't ever kissed a girl and I'm 43.

Anonymous · Answer

I am 22 never kissed a guy and never will i just wanna do it with my hubby

Anonymous · Answer

I only kissed an escort if that counts. Pretty pathetic.

Anonymous · Answer

15 years ago it wasn't normal, but we don't live in normal world anymore.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Depends on which country you live in.

Youdumbeotch · Answer

Dude I’m 27. I never even had friends.

moviedude714 · Answer

A lot more common than you think

clampfan101 · Answer

I’m 33yo and still haven’t had my first kiss…

Twalli · Answer

It's unusual, but not weird

Fuentes · Answer

Your choice not an issue you have time

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

Honestly that’s kinda weird but do you

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

I hated my first kiss. And I was so young

Slim57 · Answer

Nah only weird if you've actively been trying

elizamichale1 · Answer

it does tbh

Anonymous · Answer

If you're ugly then it's normal

m33lad · Answer

I’m still a virgin

Iron_Man · Answer

It happens

Anonymous · Answer

I'm going to be 32

Anonymous · Answer

It’s normal

Anonymous · Answer

Its fine

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