Do You Believe Women Find 80% of Men Unattractive?

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MCheetah · Accepted Answer

Absolutely I do, yes. I've seen this so many times on social media, dating sites, and in real life. Women seem to only want the top 20% of men out there. The top 20% of tall men (six feet and up; a man at 5'11" is only 64th percentile, which isn't good enough), the top 20% of wealthy (men earning $80k a year or more), or the top 20% of confident men, although that is harder to quantify.

Many women always try to deny it because in general, women HATE looking bad in public and anything that paints them in a negative light, they will ALWAYS refuse, even if everyone knows its true. (Like if you ask people who are meaner to each other; everyone knows women are meaner to each other than men are towards either women or men; but few women will admit what they all know is true.)

So MANY studies, time and time again, display that most modern women have extremely high standards. Yet, because society has made everyone into little pussies afraid of being called "sexist," men want to deny what is the truth. Don't get me wrong; I don't LIKE that so many women are shallow as f*ck. But they are. Men are shallow too as well, but men don't have the power to pick and choose in the dating world like women do, so women are allowed to be more shallow due to this leverage.

Regarding your question "Would you date a woman who thought you were ugly but was dating you for other reasons?" The answer is yes. There are three requirements most straight women have in most men: Has to be tall, has to have high social market value, and has to be confident.

Ideally women want men AT LEAST six feet tall, but some are willing to settle for "as long as he's much taller than me," even if he's still short like 5'11" or 5'8" or something. Women also want men who are "successful" in some way; the most obvious one being wealth, but there are others, such as popularity, having an important job, having authority, making a good amount of income, etc. Women notoriously hate men who are underpaid or not doing important careers and will refer to them as "bums and losers." And lastly, women want men with high ego, aka "confidence." This is pretty much the most required trait and even tall and successful men who lack confidence may not do well with women. Having high ego means EVERYTHING with women, even more so than being over six feet tall and successful.

So yes. Women value things other than just physical appearance (height being part of that). But the fact remains that women are still far more shallow with men's physical appearance, than men are. Men have a wide variety of women they can find attractive, from skinny to thick, flat chested to busty, light skinned to dark skinned, brunette to blonde, etc. Most straight women pretty much only have one type of man they're attracted to: Tall, dark, athletic, and handsome. Prove me wrong.

Effort put in online dating of men, versus women

Female height preferences of males in society.

Pointing out women's own choices and shallowness in dating, is apparently "sexist" somehow.

Do You Believe Women Find 80% of Men Unattractive?

Nik1hil · Accepted Answer

Yes that's true...  But it's for looks...  Women don't love with eyes...  Women love with ears...  Say the right words and she is yours...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It could be true, I think women mostly "adapt" to a guy and try to find attractive traits in their personality, or mature their attraction after gathering more data than just a photo (meeting or seeing the guy interacting somewhere makes the difference).
So this study is not 100% reliable because it assumes women find men attractive based only on photos without all the other things that a real life guy would showcase (personality, how he moves, how he communiates etc, which would instead make the difference), and it assumes that women decide who to date based on how much they message them. This is wrong to assume because there could be a number of reasons why a woman doesn't text a guy. She might be shy or not feel attractive enough for a man, or not valuable enough to deserve better, and others. The wording used in the test itself could be also misleading: maybe some women thought "attractive" means actually "to feel physically attracted" and not just "decent, good looking" (waiting to meet before understanding if attracted or not). Very likely, indeed, to feel attraction through an anonymous photo only without any other detail to gather, it must be a VERY strongly attractive guy. Also the study doesn't say how many women were analyzed and in which area, age etc.
So I think it's wrong to jump on the conclusion of your title, but that it could be considered true if we mean only attraction "from photos".

Side note: a big real problem (that is based on my experience, no polls), is that guys who are usually very attractive are gay. Most of gays are not "feminine", and even so, they take much more care of their look than straight ones, have a better beard and haircut, healthier skin, dress much better, are much more empathic and more emotionally intelligent, less shy, less emotionally stiff, smile more and emit more positivity, have no toxic masculinity or other ridiculous mentalities/hobbies/manners that are all about screaming for fixing a man's ego, they're usually very charming in groups or at job and usually have some unique talents or striking qualities that make them stand out. But then, when you find a perfect man like that, you will anyway find out he's gay. I challenge you ladies telling a different story that denies this one...

NicoletteXO · Accepted Answer

I do not necessarily find 80% of men physically unattractive.

However, I find around 95-98% of men unattractive simply due to either a lack of respect, a lack of purpose/ambition, a lack of intelligence, a lack of emotional awareness or a lack of sophistication.

This is the simple truth - it is what it is. I also find around 95% of women unattractive for the same reasons.

The lovely thing is - although they are in the minority, when I find someone that I do find attractive, there is usually a very easy resonance and sympatico between us.

Veljko_B · Answer

What is so strange about people not thinking highly of a majority of other people?

I don't think most people I work with are good workers.

I don't think most people I met are good friends/partners/spouses.

I don't think most waiters I was served by were very good waiters.

I don't think most of my girlfriends were really good as girlfriends - just as I wasn't a very good boyfriend in their eyes.

If a 100 women passed me by on the street, I would find only a handful of them attractive (and not all of my mates would agree on all of them).

Judging by what people talk about or write on social media, most people share this view.

So, what is so shocking about individual women not being attracted to a lot of men? The same goes for men - there is a limited number of women we each find attractive, and it's definitely way under 50%.

I really don't understand the shock here. This sounds like just another "women are bad even if they act just like people" sort of thing. Just stop it already, they are people, just accept it and move on!

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Yes. Im quite attractive id say, girls talk to me out of the blue and start convos, I've been hit on and cat called by girls before, i get more attention from girls than any of my friends ever did my whole life really... and yet i regularly get girls who tell me im ugly. Like wtf? How am i ugly when i dont even have to say anything except show up to a party or club to get laid half the time? I call bullshit.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Yeah of course. I am not gay, but i am also not blind. And why girls would be attracted to any more men than 20% of us i will never know and probably even lower.
Something like the guy who plays Thor i can understand. But just regular guys? Nah we be ugly.

Anonymous · Answer

Currently 9 woman answered this… 28 men.. so defensive. Someone poked a nerve.
I agree with the woman that basically said their mind and mouths tend to ruin the package. Hauling around baggage from past relationships expecting the same to happen, not having healthy outlook to give a fresh start…
Healthy mind/healthy heart. Beauty on the inside tends to light up the outside.

lilyanony1 · Answer

No there are a lot of good looking men in the world, but what ruins their shot. Is their mindset.
Either being too timid or being a jerk.

It's nice to meet a friendly, warm welcoming guy that's confident. Leave the ego at the door.

Moimaris · Answer

women can get attracted after a while while men get attracted instantly. If men acted more like men with good behaviors there’s no problem to it that you might don’t look like a model

Anonymous · Answer

If true, it wouldn't surprise me. Not just because I also think a lot of men are unattractive lol (ie don't see what women are attracted to), but also with how "selective" most women are, this doesn't surprise me at all.

jasco · Answer

I believe that a lot of women find a lot of men unattractive in some form. No just facial features, but mentally thinking. Some guys really are just cunts

Anonymous · Answer

Think about how many men of your age you know, or who you see in day to day life. How many of them would you say you find attractive?

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yes in theory (as in if you give a women pictures of 100 men with their statistics, she might only pick around 20) but no in practice because plenty of men (of different bodies, financial situations, jobs etc) are in relationships.

DonkeyDan · Answer

I don't think they find men unattractive, just not bothered so much about the male form as men are about the female form.

Hangry06 · Answer

Yes.. And it's a study. It doesn't matter what we say now

Jayplays900 · Answer

Probably. I mean, most men and women are unattractive.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think much of women so it wouldn't surprise me. I don't know how I ended up with a woman because I am not a male model. Maybe it is because of my job and my money. Who knows. Men. Watch out for your self

Browneye57 · Answer

The truth is the reciprocal of that - they are only attracted to maybe 10-15% of the top men in the dating pool. At least 80% of women are. The rest of everybody else is standing on the sidelines waiting for something to happen.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah When I was in shape and had a wallet full of cash I was having to turn women down because I'm no cheat No I'm out of shape and stopped spending like a sailor on leave, nothing

tatianamay · Answer

Eh, players, "nice guys" and "bad boys" are quite unattractive to me.

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Probably, that's why men cope with status and wealth to attract a mate, because the other is so selective.

Anonymous · Answer

Thats true. That's guys worst fears , as too many girls date guys for money or other materials rather than himself.

Chthou95 · Answer

Yeah and what's laughable is there are studies and research to back these claims up yet people will still deny it and say that personel experiences out beat data lol

BigKevHanma · Answer

Well women just put make up and wigs over their ugliness

Anonymous · Answer

I believe it's 99% that 1% is only attractive to them.

Grubhub · Answer

That might be true. Most women I come across are nervous around me but seem fine with other guys

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It certainly seems to be true

Renegade_Sailor · Answer

Yes. This is well documented.

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

Yes or it could be 90%.

ChiPaPa · Answer

I think 90% of women don't find me attractive.

seer09 · Answer

Yeah I believe that.

serious · Answer

No, I don't believe that.

Adogdog · Answer

I would agree with that.

anylolone · Answer

At least they attempt to project it.

Zygum · Answer

You write your opinion, forget about Tango

Anonymous · Answer

It sure seems that way.

LimboOfTheDink · Answer

I guess I'm not a woman.

Not_a_baddie · Answer

I'd say so yes

Anonymous · Answer

No, that is BS, obviously.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it's 99% only 1% men look attractive.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

No I don't believe that at all

Adam_West · Answer

i dont believe it. #MayTheDarkShineYourWay

EaterPeter · Answer

Yupp

TheFlak38 · Answer

yes.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope i find most of them attractive

In_Trance · Answer

Yes I do

slatyb · Answer

No, I don't.

Anonymous · Answer

Possibly

OrhanKultigin · Answer

I don't.

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