What’s the longest you ever been single and why?

[cthom1243]

Over 8 years by choice for me and I have no interest to date

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+1 y

If love ever came I’d probably reject it been single too long

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+1 y

The dating world currently for me and how I am plus I don’t think I’ll ever find it in this current dating climate

[MCheetah]

Five years, at this point, but if we count all the time before my first girlfriend, then 24 years before that.

I'm single because I'm short, unattractive looking, overweight, don't have a high ego, not the kind to "buy" my way into a girl's heart through monetary transactions (simping), don't want to be taken advantage of, won't date someone who isn't right for me and who I am not right for, and value being myself more than changing everything about who I am in order to fall into some woman's good graces.

So yeah, women just don't like anything about me, and I can't make myself taller. But at least I'm free to be who I truly am, so there's that.

[lightbulb27]

how tall are you?

[cthom1243]

5”4…

[MCheetah]

@lightbulb27
Who, me? Or the OP?
I'd rather not say.
It's either mediocre/sh*t-tier, or just "short." I prefer the latter than to be compared to worthlessness.
I'm the same height as Stacy Keibler.

[cthom1243]

Oh @lightbulb27 I thought you were talking to me

[lightbulb27]

@MCeetah - you since you flagged it as a justification. curious, it's all relative... there is a norm but I wouldn't make that a criteria for not finding a mate. I was told I was ugly, it did a lot of damage for a while. Im short, I have a girlfriend. most everything else you list is changeable. You are intelligent and communicate well, likely would thus have good conversations. that is a value many would value. but if you shoot yourself down first... they will too.

[cthom1243]

I don’t want to deal with men in today’s society too toxic and bitter I intentionally hid myself from dating men are too much for me

[cthom1243]

I don’t think I’ll find what I’m after

[lightbulb27]

I had a similar defeatist and directiknless attitude at your young age. You may not…and it’s a choice to take the risk. After 50 years I finally found a girlfriend. She put a lot of the work in to make it work. I was alone that long. I was going to write a mytake on this subject but in essence…it’s good to have someone to love and mutual support. Didn’t say it’s easy and you may have to work in yourself…challenge yourself. I’m we met in gag 5 years ago and live together and now.

[cthom1243]

I’m done with dating @lightbulb27 tired of the dating world and dating - the climate is too much

[cthom1243]

Rather stay single as I have been 8 years

[t-8900]

6 years due to a spiritual and mental breakdown. Once dad was resuscitated after 4 attempts I just kind of broke. that was literally all i had for family. So almost losing him that day REALLY messed with me.

[cthom1243]

Sorry about your dad

[t-8900]

ty. he's hanging in. i'm talking to a girl now. I'm praying we work out. I think we're both being patient which is great. I need some time still to sort myself out. I want to be in a better place before putting a ring on it. Though that's kind of my intention.

[cthom1243]

Good luck

[t-8900]

ty and same to you.

[cthom1243]

Thanks not focused on love more focused on preparing my family out here - haven’t looked for love in 8 years and still not looking

[cthom1243]

I don’t want too

[InventorofWarp]

I've never had an official relationship where someone came out and called me her boyfriend before so... technically, never had one.

[cthom1243]

Same been single most of my life but had short term relationships with men

[InventorofWarp]

I've sort of had short-term relationships. Nothing ever really physical or emotionally intensive though.
Just sort of dating around. Hell, one was even an emotional affair with a married woman who I actually thought loved me.
I haven't really been lucky in this arena.

Hell my current crush is even taken.

[cthom1243]

Haven’t found the right guy yet

[InventorofWarp]

I'm scared of being 25 and still a virgin and then what value do I have to any woman? And I'm 7 years out of high school and 5 years out of Uni and women will hear that from me and go "what the fuck is wrong with him?" even IF you're waiting. It terrifies me to think about. It terrifies me to think about how any woman I end up with and most men had relationships and lost their virginity in high school and had dozens by my age and... I'm me.
I'm just fucking terrified. I'm terrified of being that worthless. Not just to someone but everyone. But that's where I'm heading.
It's exactly why I'm just trying to pour everything into my music career, my girls (dogs) and hobbies as well as bothering my crush (we're friends) with random memes hoping to erase those feelings and just smooth them over with the warm fuzzy feelings from doing shit that feels like it matters.

[Whizzy83]

5 years now and handsome as F**k. I don’t see it but people tell me and the girls love me. I’m an introvert so I live a happy lonely life. You be you love.

[cthom1243]

I’m an introvert just hidden and off to myself

[Whizzy83]

Well find someone love. Because life could be difficult for a single women as they age. Think of home repairs, self injuries, possible home break ins etc. I’m currently starting to look for someone. A year ago I got a leg injury while jogging. I ended up in crutches and boy I got to say sometimes it be better if I have someone that can help me out in hard times. You’re still young so go for it.

[cthom1243]

Nah this dating world is crazy and I don’t do online dating soo

[cthom1243]

Would like life to go back to normal so I can get in my arts

[Whizzy83]

Well I’m 38 now and when I was 34 I ask myself I would find someone but still put it off. I guess we think a like🥰

[cthom1243]

I put love on the back burner and focused on myself

[cthom1243]

Stoped looking for it

[Whizzy83]

You just haven’t found the right guy yet. Is introvert deserve each other because we understand each other. You can be in one room and I’ll be in the other 😂. We will eventually find someone. Now stop channeling that negative energy out into the world and just feel that one day the right man will come by just not now.

[cthom1243]

I’m not pressed or worried anymore - if love-finds me it does

[Interstate]

EXACTLY THE SAME HERE!!! Relationships= Drama + Bullshit!!!

[cthom1243]

I’m just hidden in hopes not to be found

[cthom1243]

No desire to date in this climate

[Interstate]

Same here. Or ANY climate for that matter.

[cthom1243]

I’ve considered meeting men overseas I don't know

[Interstate]

That will be difficult come time when the two of you decide it is time to meet in person.

[cthom1243]

If he’s here no problem, but beyond that I need an unvaccinated partner

[Interstate]

[cthom1243]

Haha

[NathanDavis]

will be two years this November... why? because of the pandemia and there is no rush

[cthom1243]

It’s a question

[NathanDavis]

yes, that was my answer... I am single because of the pandemia and because I am not looking for relationships at the moment

[cthom1243]

Ok cool

[DaveToo]

So far it's been 12 years. But then, I'm gonna bet I'm considerably older than you. Now, why don't you wanna date?

[cthom1243]

BS of dating nowadays too stressful

[DaveToo]

Then perhaps you're expecting more from the dating experience than you're willing to give?

[cthom1243]

No I stopped trying entirely

[cthom1243]

I don’t put myself out there like that

[KasonBader]

My entier life I have been single and It's because everybody hates me becuase I rejected the big ass and big tits school prostitute when we were in 6th grade.

[Razor8]

2 1/2 years was the longest I've been single. I was busy and didn't want the task of getting into dating at the time.

[cthom1243]

Ok thanks

[Dchrls78104]

43 years and counting. I do not trust the modern woman.

[cthom1243]

I don’t trust American men too modern

[Likes2drive]

About 6 years since divorce and not by choice, have no luck

[cthom1243]

Sorry to hear that

[Likes2drive]

Still looking though, but I’ve never been single by choice, that’s not hard to do at all, nobody asks guys out normally

[cthom1243]

I don’t want to deal with the current climate of dating nowadays done looking

[Likes2drive]

Maybe casual dating so at least you have someone to do things with

[cthom1243]

I don’t casual date never have never will - I stay to myself

[cthom1243]

I’m not interested in dating men of today as they are modern , seeking sex, and no commitment

[cthom1243]

Waste of time and energy

[Likes2drive]

At least I’m not, I’m actually looking for a relationship as rare as that is these days

[cthom1243]

It’s a waste and a lot of men are now modern and in these movements it’s a no for me - I stay to myself and remain single. My family doesn’t expect me to date and I don’t bring anyone home for them to meet it’s pointless ( no guy is worth it - it’s the mentality of most men now I won’t deal with and this haterd a lot of men have towards women

[cthom1243]

Maybe one day I’ll change my mind , but it’s a no

[poneglyphs]

Uhh still single and going? So 26 years gonna be 27 soon.

[InferiorElegy]

My entire life, reason is too ugly and always get rejected and now I don't care to date and I will never try dating ever again.

[scott04sa22]

28 years. Don't find anyone.

[scott04sa22]

Couldn't find anyone*

[cthom1243]

How I feel the current dating climate isn’t for me.. I stopped all together

[Rob17792]

better to be alone than hurt by anyone

[cthom1243]

Your choice

[shortster]

I would rather not say in public.

[cthom1243]

Oh ok

[cthom1243]

I understand

[shortster]

You can dm me if you want to know.

[Cowboy6666]

Around 5 years and still counting

[cthom1243]

Ok thanks

[Jfranco12]

My whole life

[Interstate]

You're not missing out on anything, believe me.

[cthom1243]

I know I did a social project for 45 days online and immediately hid myself I have no desire to deal with most American men

[Jfranco12]

@Interstate oh yeah I know, closest thing I had to one was a situationship and that ended poorly and I decided I’m better off alone anyway

[dreamstar72]

17 - 21 was a ghost to most (accident)

[Miristheiss]

Are you married?

[cthom1243]

Nope

[KostasKouvalis]

Almost 20 years, JESUS!

[ChiPaPa]

My whole life. Women don't want me.