Do I have a right to be pissed?

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This guy chased me 4 years to be exact , i had sex with him and then he decided adter sex he didn't like me at all. I feel betrayed and hurt.

FlutteringFeelings · Accepted Answer

He chased you for 4 years? Were there any consistency for those 4 years? A man can chase for any reason but if his motive behind the chase was to get you in bed then his work is done. You saw him chasing you as wanting commitment and he was chasing you because he had an ulterior motive. Don’t go on a high because a guy is playing a game of ‘I’m head over heels for you’. You’ll know his true intention with time. I bet if you decided to take things slow and told him no sex he would’ve ghosted you the same day.

Your feelings are valid and you have every right to be pissed. However, being pissed isn’t going to change the situation nor will it change his mind. Take this as a learning lesson and listen to what a guy says and watch what he does. A guy can tell you anything that you want to hear but time will tell what his true intentions are.

Carolmille · Accepted Answer

I’d be pissed. Really pissed. I’m pissed just answering this.

The_Maphio · Accepted Answer

After waiting for 4 damn years, I would also have pumped and dumped. And making you feel bad about it would be the cherry on top. To be honest, he's quite the dumbass for wasting that much time on such a trivial effort. Unless he grew sour for the wait itself and was waiting for this chance to make you feel miserable too. Never underestimate people's ability to hold a grudge and what they might do to get satisfaction from it.

jshm2 · Accepted Answer

No. You have a right to be ashamed and claim naivety.  If you're not into someone, then their "chasing" shouldn't make a difference. He took you for a fool, and he was right. Now wise up and move on.

Anonymous · Answer

That depends. How many women was he sleeping with in those 4 years? I mean if you were paying attention you would know that. And that would have been your tell. If you knew that and proceeded then while it's unfortunate it happened it's your own fault. Sorry

ikEVERYTHING · Answer

You shouldn't have had sex with him. Another reason to observe abstinence next time, if you really want to find a genuine guy or at least have a better chance, put barriers on sex and wait until marriage. This prevents so much and this is an example.

Anonymous · Answer

For some guys it's all about the conquest. It's why some people hold off on stuff until they're in a committed relationship.

Wise4myage · Answer

You should feel that way, but why did you wait so long to screw him?

RichSD · Answer

Pissed sure, but not at him. At yourself. For assuming it had any guarantees.

Ironic_Method · Answer

Why are you pissed? That you were disappointing for him?

hhhffg7889 · Answer

Life lessons hurt sometimes. You can be pissed. But move on quick and don't hold it against the next guy you talk to if possible.

ashish804 · Answer

yeah u have... actually he was after u just to bang u rather for love

noohair · Answer

Men are hunters, if he lied to you, you have every right to feel betrayed.

bighairy1 · Answer

I dobt the story is that simple. Doesn't matter, move on.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course considering his attitude

Anonymous · Answer

Go fuck his friend

TeacherUser · Answer

Fuck jim. Bastard

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