Do you think that people make up excuses on why they cheat?

[Anonymous]

[desidoll]

Yes, which is stupid. If I was caught red-handed, I won’t bother to explain or justify. Just admit that you have cheated and let them decide whether they wanna stay.

[Asker]

Usually when you do stay after they cheat they keep on doing it

[_Damien]

Sure they do.
Plenty of people cheat simply because they got an exciting offer and they just said "fuck it, they won't find out".

It's just about opportunity for them, who their partner is or what their relationship is like rarely ever matters.

[Leonharted]

People always look to blame their failures on others. I've learned this lesson quite well since joining this site.

[Asker]

I think that when people make up excuses on why they do you wrong. It means that they are full of crap they were going to do what they wanted anyway. No matter what you do.

[Leonharted]

Unless they are raped, there is no excuse that's worth listening to. If it is rape, then you need to help them press charges.

[Alisa158]

What I think is that most people do it, maybe it's habit, maybe it's a white lie. How to treat depends on your relationship with him have duoshen

[kyleelyn199723]

Of course they do. They think that the truth doesn’t eventually come out.

[Asker]

Like I said I don't think you should rush to be in a relationship. Sometimes people waste years of your life just there to play with you.

[kyleelyn199723]

@asker I agree, but I think most people in this generation do things while they are in a relationship and they don’t realize it negatively affects their relationship. Perfect example is social media. Social media destroys relationships and honestly people are better off not using social media if they want any kind of happy relationship

[Medhat-M]

They're losers... If you're not having fun with your partner.. Leave them... Don't go around and sneak behind their back like a coward

[Asker]

They be lying too be saying yeah about a relationship but turn around and be fooling with someone else behind your back.

[Medhat-M]

Yeah... just low

[Dragonpurple]

They make up rationalizations after the fact to justify it. Some don't though, they just cheat cause they want to, and they do not need a reason.

[IAmMichael]

Yes. If someone is unable to reliably demonstrate commitment, do not expect that person to demonstrate accountability or honesty either.

[Gingerguy33]

Yes sometimes they will even try saying your the one cheating

[Jintendo18]

This one doesn’t get enough mention.

[Asker]

@Jintendo18 it is to cover what they are doing wrong.

[Jintendo18]

It’s called projection, and it’s happened to me before.

[Gingerguy33]

Yes it’s so they can feel like they aren’t doing anything bad

[Asker]

Probably because to them they are not I think people just assume that they are in a relationship when they are not. Usually people waste their time dating people they don't like for some reason.

[Jintendo18]

They cheat because they think they can get away with it.

[Asker]

They know that they can and will do what they want to do.

[Jintendo18]

So then why ask if you already know? lol just needed confirmation?

[Asker]

Yeah because people are always talking crap saying why did you allow them to do it. You can't force people to do stuff they don't want to do.

[Jintendo18]

Or force them not to do what they want often

[Asker]

I don't know a solution to the problem people don't like victims. People think that you are playing the victim when you act shock over someone cheating.

[Strightwhitrepub]

The real reason is that they are not loyal and their disrespectful and their wants are more important than your feelings

[Wise4myage]

Yes, lots of people blame alcohol, which is laughable.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

Yes, of course they do.

[exitseven]

yes, they try to rationalize it.

[andy530]

Excuses, justifications, and reasons yeah

[boggboss]

Yes ofc they do

[Asker]

How can you make sense over stuff that someone else chooses to do?

[boggboss]

By looking at it logically the end of the day if they cheated clearly they didn't respect you or care for your feelings

[Asker]

It means that they dont like you. People are always going to find something not to like.

[boggboss]

People will only find this is they are looking for problems

[Asker]

I dont even know why I worry about people it doesn't change people are entitled to do what they want to do.

[boggboss]

Ofc bubthats why relationships are built on trust and why u don't just get into a relationship with anyone

[awkward_author]

Yep.

[acebb658]

Definitely

[Jmmmfi4]

Pretty much