Why do some guys don't reciprocate a girl's feelings and start ignoring her as soon as they know that she likes him back?

[Anonymous]

[iamacuriousguy]

There could be many reasons:

They are scared of being labled thirsty.
They don't wanna act like a simp.
They are not ready to take responsibility.
They don't want longterm relationship.
They don't see the girl as wife material.
The girl maybe less attractive.
The girl may have low self esteem.
etc.

[Asker]

If a girl have low self esteem, why would he dislike her instead of building up her self esteem?

[iamacuriousguy]

If a girl is unstable and always acts insecure due to low self esteem. that annoys and is unattractive to guys. Some guys may try to help her some won't and some people don't take help or develop themselves and keep blaming the world till death.
So, if a guy thinks that he can't help her, he will eventually lose interest because ultimately only she can't develop her self esteem. people may guide you, but they cannot cultivate self esteem for you.
when intelligent spot a a bad pattern within their personality, they take notice and improve themselves but if the person is foolish they will blame the world for the repetitive bad results they are getting, while not knowing they are the cause of their problems.

[iamacuriousguy]

can*

[iamacuriousguy]

intelligent people*

[Asker]

So the guys who help girl get a self esteem deserve her love right?

[iamacuriousguy]

he maybe able to guide you if he is mature enough, but you have to help yourself. That's why it's called self-help.
His behavior towards her will change spontaneously when she changes and gets better.
She can't help but give her love if he deserves it.

[Asker]

True

[GlassTop]

Either embarrassed or not interested. Not to mention some girls think they are obvious about certain things when they aren’t. Do you tell him you liked him? Or are you doing gestures and texts and assuming that’s enough for him to know?

[Asker]

Gestures and texts only. I said him that I don't like him but giving him lot of hints that I like him too in hopes that he should understand

[GlassTop]

Well I’m sorry to say you will have to be a bit more straightforward than that. Some guys won’t get it at all, especially nowadays where people are scared of sexual harassment. You will have to come straight out and either ask him on a date or tell him you like him.

[Honesttguy]

Cus you will get all tears and gonna cry after they leave u, now u know

[Asker]

Why they'll leave a girl whom they firstly interested in?

[Honesttguy]

Cus she catch feelings and will cry?

[Asker]

Why will she cry if he loves her more? Why will she cry if she doesn't stop liking her?

[Honesttguy]

Then why do you? This question on forum u dont think its already first sign of crying?

[Asker]

Yes, but why he needs to leave her once she got attached to him?

[Honesttguy]

Simple here, if I asked you to write me down on paper eazy steps how to manage your feelings could you do it?

[Asker]

Definitely

[Honesttguy]

Well then do that and give it to him

[Honesttguy]

There problem fixed

[Asker]

He told me not to explain him anything

[Honesttguy]

Wait what u mesn explain?

[Honesttguy]

I asked how to "manage" not how to explain them

[Honesttguy]

Lets say you get angry, what should i do to manage that situation?

[Asker]

I get it. But he's not even ready to read my thoughts. He's avoiding me completely. He blocked me everywhere

[Honesttguy]

Well thats the thing he doesn't know how to manage it, and this is how he does it. So any more questions?

[Asker]

Should I move on from him? Or chase for answers? He didn't give me any answer

[Honesttguy]

Simple answer his not mature enough to handle these things so he choses to run away like baby.
Should you move on? Depends what u want, want waste bit more time to get nothing u csn stay around. If i were u i tske my lessons and be wiser in future.

[Asker]

What exactly made him run away?

[Honesttguy]

His inability to handle situation

[boggboss]

Because they don't like her they like the attention they get from her

[boggboss]

9r it could be that once he found out more about her he lost intrest

[Asker]

Then why do they like and get her into feelings at starting?

[boggboss]

Some guys enjoy flirting and seeing if they can make a girl fall for them others will just talk and say stuff without meaning it

[Asker]

Why does knowing more about her even matter? If he likes her, he should like her even after knowing anything about her. It means that he isn't a true person right?

[boggboss]

Lol thays a silly thing to say lol liking someone without knowing them is not actually liking them its liking the image u have of them in your head let's say he liked u but then found out you are cli gu or have a personality that he clashes with that would turn him off from liking u

[Asker]

If someone genuinely likes someone, he or she should like them through everything is what I believe in

[boggboss]

Then u belive in a unrealistic standerd of love that is quite toxic and allows for people to become emotional punching bags in the name of love

[Asker]

But love means accepting both good and bad.

[boggboss]

No it dont becuase the good don't fix the bad and the bad don't ruin the good if u have a man that's perfect but also is prone the beating u when he gets drunk but u love him that love won't fix the situation it will just keep u in one that will end poorly yes when u love someone u should accept the bad but if the bad is objectively toxic and an danger to your or your mental health u don't have to stay in that situation have a mind set that people must accept the bad parts of me if u have toxic traits makes it so u will never change bad behaviour and instead blame others

[boggboss]

The same goes for a women that may be insecure have trust issues or low self-esteem no guy should be forced to stay and fix her if it effects his mental health it has nothing to do with him deserving her or not loving her but him not willing to be her emotional punching bag

[Asker]

But what if she leaves him for the same reason? Would he like it?

[boggboss]

Its irrelevant if he would like it because it would show he is not in the right place to be dating someone like her people don't have to put up with others shortcomings yes it's nice when people do but expecting someone to accept your negative triats is unhealthy

[boggboss]

If u have reached 18 and honestly feel that if u love someone u must accept them even if they are abusive mentaly or physically then u will put yourself in some vary dangerous situations with men who will manipulate u

[Asker]

Yes, I will definitely put up with someone's low self esteem. I will not leave him for that silly reason and will definitely make him feel good about himself. This is the real meaning of love. Just falling in love with perfection is really a fake meaning of love

[boggboss]

U clearly have no understanding of love nobody said u fall in love with perfection there is a difference between someone being perfect and someone being toxic but if u are not capable of seeing that then meh guess u will have fun when it comes to relationships

[Asker]

But even if I put myself in dangerous situations, he might change into a good one if I put up with his bad behaviour. Bad doesn't need to be the reason someone should leave someone else. Because, in a true love it's mostly about being there for the other person even through their roughest time and bad in them. If they are trying to manipulate, it means that they want love and nothing wrong in seeking love from their partner. They are trying to get love in some good or bad way, but they need love. So what's wrong in giving them the love that they need? If someone is abusive that means that they're struggling with themselves internally which needs to be addressed correctly to avoid that behaviour from them. Most of the time, someone's first behaviour will be a reflection of second person's behaviour. So if second person is behaving bad, then first person might have done something which might hurt second person so they may have chosen to be violent. If first person understands this, then second person will feel less stress and get into good terms and behaviour with first person. This is the real definition of love

[boggboss]

Then I guess all the women that where killed by abusive men simply didn't love them enough or all the people that where cheated on by their partner just didn't love them enough clearly we have difdernt understanding of what love is if u feeling staying in a toxic situation is the right thing to do then good for u but gladly most people understand that doing so poses a risk yo their own life and or mental health and will decide to leave thats situation

[Asker]

If a person is treating wrongly despite if one partner treats them good, then the problem is with other person and yes, they can leave this situation. But, when silly things such as low self esteem, looks, or imperfection comes in the way of loving someone, if they leave, they are the most horrible humans and fake lovers is what I believe

[boggboss]

Thats your opinion not a fact by default if u knave someone because they are not perfect you are a retard if u leave someone because u no longer find them attractive thats unfortunate but liking someone personality but no longer being attracted to them is not going to be a successful relationship as u need both physical and emotional attraction so leaving would be the best thing if u have low self esteem or are depressed or any other mental illness and a partner tries to stay and help but starts to be negatively effected by the situation and things are not improving then leaving again is the best thing to do for your own mental health it sont make u a shitty person for not being able to live in a toxic situation

[Asker]

It's not toxic to stay with a person with low self esteem

[Asker]

Only the guys and girls who care about others will stay and a beautiful bond will them stay forever. Sometimes, leaving should not be the challenge but staying is. True love means not giving up no matter how the situation is

[Asker]

beautiful bond will make them stay forever.

[Asker]

* beautiful bond will make them stay forever.

[boggboss]

If I was with a women that had low self esteem and this caused her to be insecure so she didn't trust me which made her want to police my social media or constantly check up on me this would be a turn off for me and even if I loved her I would not be happy in a relationship like this

[boggboss]

Your definition of love clearly comes from that of a child's or a fairy tale and not that of real life where people can be abusive and have and will continue to die being with partners they love but end up getting abused by because they think he will change

[Asker]

Obviously that kind of behaviour is not acceptable

[Asker]

But leaving her just because she's desperate is not a valid reason

[boggboss]

When did I state just leaving her because she is desperate is fine I stated its when issues mount up from stuff like insecurities and low self esteem the situation I provided happens a lot from people that are insecure

[Asker]

Yes but I was asking about a guy who leaves a girl for this reason. Why would he do that?

[boggboss]

Because he was not in love with her he was attracted to her then when he found out was unattracted

[Wise4myage]

Any guy that does that, probably wasn't into in the first place, or they just lost interests.

[Asker]

What makes a guy lose interest in a girl whom he first is interested in?

[Wise4myage]

He might have met another girl? Try to get an answer out of him.

[Asker]

No, he haven't

[Asker]

He says he don't like me talking with other guys

[Wise4myage]

That's not good enough.

[Asker]

Is this a valid reason? I don't understand

[jahaims]

Because they don't have feelings for her obviously

[Asker]

Then why drag her into the mess in first place?

[jahaims]

How would I know with the given information