The club or me?

[Anonymous]

I started seeing this guy. He lives a pretty outgoing life style meaning, he goes out more than 5 times a week.

Should I take this as a red flag or am I just to quick to judge.

I live not so close and he said if I were to live closer he would probably choose me over the party scene.

I call B. S. I don’t mind that he goes out but the small talk and the actions unlatch.

Should I hang in there or just let the club have him

[LikeALog]

From what you said, I'd say it's a Red Flag.

I used to do that. I'd frequent two bars. I'd usually meet one of several gal I knew or a friend of theirs. Sometimes we'd just talk, dance and drink. Other times we'd hookup and go to my place.

I don't know if that's what your friend is doing, but it's a possibility.

[Asker]

Yeah I honestly thought this. We are pretty open about who we hook up with. He hasn’t said anything lately so I don't know if I should overreact or just let it be. Kinda have too

[Anonymous]

Clubs are a low vibrational scene based on excess and hookup culture. Surely you know better. Or maybe a part of you subconsciously sets yourself up for pain. Some of us are on such a path but don't consciously realize.

[Asker]

Yeah I was hoping he was just out with boys. But I know bette

[Danny_dan92]

Considering your age, I would imagine he is older. And if a man older than you is still hitting the clubs that much? Yeah that’s a bad sign.

[Asker]

Yes we are both in our 30s

[Danny_dan92]

Yep… no bueno.

[Asker]

I feel the same but why this stigma? I mean we aren’t dating dating. So I don’t want to over react

[Danny_dan92]

Because typically men go to the clubs to find females to fuck

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Let him have his fun. Youth is quickly gone.

[Asker]

Oh I’m not saying he shouldn’t. I really don’t mind. But I feel like if we get serious it can’t be 5 times a week lol