Should I join a swinger club (sex club)?

[Unit1]

So since relationships and girlfriend won't happen in this life of mine I figured I might as well just join a swinger club and be over with it. I have found one in the city, where I live and they promise very good conditions including provision of contraceptives, private rooms and other comforts. Although it's pricey I believe it will be worth it.

Besides money, what do I have to lose?

Go for it! It's a good idea

Eh... can't really say

Bad idea but whatever

Don't do it!

Other

[Truthatanycost]

When trying to make any decision. Ask yourself this simple question.

Are my actions coming from a place of wisdom, consciousness and the higher self.

If the answer is yes, then your actions are likely to bring peace, wisdom, contentment and increased health to your life.

If the answer is no, then the opposite is likely to occur.

[Unit1]

I like that perspective.

[Nachowedgie]

Wish I could find one

[englisc]

No. If you can't get a girlfriend there's no way you're gonna get laid at a swingers party. As a single guy you'll be seen as low value, none of the women will want to have sex with you unless you're exceptionally good looking and you have a foot long, so you'll just be standing there watching.

Besides, not only is it just a bad idea to go after those sluts anyway because why the fuck would you - swingers are dirty and are mostly fucked in the head. They're a higher STD risk than prostitutes actually:

www.reuters.com/.../disease-risk-higher-for-swingers-than-prostitutes-idUSTRE65M6NX20100624

It's clear that what you want is a girlfriend, and that's obviously the healthiest option. What you really need to do is figure out the reasons you can't get a girlfriend. It's usually fixable if you're willing to be honest with yourself and do the work to fix it. I did. I'm happy to try to help you figure this out if you wanna PM me.

[Unit1]

I'm an involuntary migrant in a strangers country. I'm from Europe and am residing not in Europe nor in the west. Cultural difference is a real barrier. My peers believe i should have the upper hand in dating because of my origin and where i came from but that is simply not the case for me. I don't really speak their language because their language is difficult.

In any case i can just hire prostitutes and always use contraceptives.

[Unit1]

Some of My peers also told me, that they are quite shocked at how i didn't yield any results over the past 3 months. Like they are surprised, that i debunked their expectation. They took a look at my dating profile before and after some minor corrections. They said my profile is ideal right now but they are truly shocked how it did not yet yield any results.

I think, that women think, that I'm fake on there. At least one said so when we matched (and then discontinued).

If you ask me: online dating is the last place, where i would look for a girlfriend.

[englisc]

Are you German? Where abouts are you living?

Online can be tougher than meeting in real life, and women online tend to be of lower quality than women you'll meet in real life generally. If your friends are saying that you should have the advantage, it's probably to do with something else. I've seen your other posts on crying, and I've noticed that you've started to talk about how much you love women and you're using a lot of heart emojis. That might not seem like a big deal to you or other people, but to me it seems like you're trying to relate to women in a feminine/female way, which is bad. It doesn't work that way.

[Unit1]

Ah, well.
Ja, I am German. I'm stranded in the east. I got here because my parents decided so and brought me with them when I was 15 years old. Some things never change like my longing for my home, which is the west or Europe.
As such my mentality is European - I think fundamentally different from people here but some seem to understand me as I am.

I 100% agree, that online dating is one of the last places I would look for a girlfriend. However I don't really have much of a chance in an alien country. I still don't really speak their language 😕
My peers are telling me because I am "such an exotic creature" from Europe I should have the biggest chances in dating like exceptionally stand out. Well, I like that they are rooting for me but I am not seeing this unfolding.

In any case there are fortunately things, that I can have control over like raising up my career, graduating with some degrees in Bachelors of Science (I plan for an MBA also). Or doing the things, that I like (outside of my home that is)

I have shocked perhaps half of my peers (at most) how I am still single 😂 including one married female coworker.

[Unit1]

Yikes! I just noticed I repeated myself, didn't i. I already forgot what I said and what I didn't say yet 😖

What would you suggest would be the better openers if not relating to women?

[Adrian17k]

Ok you sound very convincing so tell me what should people who never had and don't have a girlfriend do to find one. I personally don't think there's anything I haven't tried and always been super unlucky.

[wagsingle]

There's a sex club in New Orleans. According to it's web site a single woman gets in for $5.00 A Couple $35.00 and a single guy pays $100.00!!! As best I can recall. Clearly they get WAY too many guys trying to get in! So unless you're a couple looking to play as a couple, or are crazy hot, Save your money.

[CubsterShura]

No. No matter how single you are, it's not going to be worth it.

[Unit1]

Why not?

[MarkRet]

I don't know, I've never been to one of those places.

[owens97]

u realise swinger is for people in a relationship and they swap partners

[PoohBoy38]

I think it's such a bad idea whatsoever! I think it's so dangerous to join a swinger club!

[Thatsamazing]

How do you know that actual females are at this club and it's not just a bunch of males hanging out?

[Unit1]

Females get free entrance. Males have to pay entrance fee of around $60

[Thatsamazing]

Yeah... that's nice but that doesn't mean that they go there. Don't waste 60 bucks without knowing it's going to be worth your time.

[Unit1]

It's not like they have a trial tour of some sort available. But generally i agree, $60 for a chance of getting laid is a worse spending decision than hiring a prostitute for less money.

[Thatsamazing]

I mean I suppose it can't hurt to try once.

[Unit1]

Aye!

[Anonymous]

Do swinger clubs let in single dudes? I though it was mainly couples or single women. I'd have though single dudes who couldn't contribute a girl wouldn't be let in.

[Unit1]

This one accepts single dudes too, although for a fee. Women get free entrance... 😐

[Opinion Owner]

Ah okay. That's actually good. You don't want to join a club with a bunch of single dudes. So as long as you can afford it, you want that price high to keep out the dudes. How much is it if I may ask.

[Unit1]

With the currency converted the entrance fee for men is $60

[Unit1]

On second thought... it could be just better to rent a hooker (average price is $30/hour) or spend it on erotic massage instead (with happy ending) ($35). It is actually cheaper.

However that sex club lasts from 18:00 evening - 11:00 morning. Just some things to keep in mind.

[Opinion Owner]

So what all do you get for your entrance fee? I thought it would have been more of a membership kind of thing.

[Unit1]

You'll get to do whatever you want in that club. Hit up on those whores, do all sorts of sex things. Gang bang, dark room, vanilla sex in a private room or public, hotwife & cuckoldry (gross)...
They provide drinks (alcohol free and alcoholic beverages), sex games, competitions and other entertainment as well.

That is *if* you can manage to get a whore to have sex with you. I think there's a chance you could pay that entrance fee and walk out without even getting laid there.

[Opinion Owner]

Any idea on the ratio of girls to guys that they aim for? It may be worth giving it a try.

[Unit1]

don't know honestly.

[Opinion Owner]

You should ask them. Then maybe just give it a try once to see how it is in terms of quality, quantity, and the scene and vibe overall.

[Unit1]

That's some expensive *chance* of having coitus. Darn!

[Opinion Owner]

$60 isn't too bad for a night of entertainment, some education, at the very least some voyeurism and also a chance at action.

[alice55]

You can get std and such. That's pretty dangerous too those places are usually quite fishy.

[Truthatanycost]

Yea, I bet they are quite fishy in many ways.

[alice55]

@Truthatanycost They're, it's quite a dangerous places especially if you aren't used to go to them

[Tiffanykells]

I'd love to have a nosey in one lol

[name_is_eric]

You have to have a wife in order to be a swinger.

[Unit1]

Nein. This swinger sex club accepts single guys also.

[name_is_eric]

Then it's just a sex club. Not a swingers club.

[Unit1]

Point made.