Guys, is it attractive in a girl?

[Anonymous]

If she appreciates the small things in life like hearing a good song in the pub?
Or when she thanks you for small things.

[HighlyVolatile]

I just prefer that she's having a good time with me. No need to thank me for it. I prefer to dispense with the formalities. I prefer to cut through them.

[HighlyVolatile]

If she's having fun and smiling and laughing, I figure we're having a good time, and I think that's attractive that we can both have a good time together.

[Asker]

Oh, I'm just normally a polite person. I mean I like to show some appreciation as I guess it feels good for the other.
Plus, I am trying to the more to appreciate and compliment men.

[HighlyVolatile]

If she says at the end of the date something like, "Thank you for showing me a great time," I don't hold it against her. That seems very polite and formal, but I'm somehow allergic to such formalities. It makes me want to provide a robotic response like, "My pleasure." I just want to cut through all this and keep it fun and arrange when to meet next for more good times.

[HighlyVolatile]

Oddly I'm slightly allergic to both gratitude and flattery. :-D I don't know why. I just want to keep it fun. I think maybe it's because most compliments and expressions of flattery tend to take on a generic form which primes me to want to provide a generic response. If she flatters or expresses appreciation in a very novel and unusual way though, that would be interesting to me.

[HighlyVolatile]

* [...] expressions of appreciation [...]

[Asker]

You sound like my mate 🤣

[HighlyVolatile]

Curious what your mate is like; I'm admittedly a bit odd here. :-D But I think I prefer a more "show over tell" approach to these things. It's clear to me in her smiles and laughter that she's appreciating the time with me, and if we continue talking at the end of a date at a pub, perhaps we can reminisce about the foods we ate, the things we drank, the sites we saw, all while -- interwoven in the process -- revealing much to each other about the way we think and feel. And that type of exchange is one I tend to value far more than exchanges of formalities which usually appear a bit on the routine side.

[Asker]

My mate is a very logical person, he studies computer science at the uni. Personally I think he just doesn't know how to handle compliments. He is on the autism spectrum, slight Asperger.
Nowadays I over-emphisize my thank yous for him, but he knows I'm just teasing, so we just laugh.

But I was called very polite before, and not sure they meant it as a compliment hence the question.
If I am seen as formal and not easy-going, I want to change it

[HighlyVolatile]

That's interesting since I'm also a CompSci major (CompSci and Visual Arts to be specific). I sometimes wonder if I'm on some sort of spectrum, although I'm an extrovert which is a bit unusual in this profession.

[MCheetah]

Yeah, I'd say to me, that's charming, cute, or endearing to her.

[Iron_Man]

Just be happy around your prince and that will make me happy

[Anonymous]

Yes it's attractive, but girls that hang out in pubs aren't.

[Asker]

We're talking about British pubs and not Whetherspoons

[Opinion Owner]

Oh ok British pubs are different than here in USA.

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, I've never actually SEEN the inside of one but, I guess it COULD be attractive in there.

[Asker]

Yeah I am sure you felt the inside of a girl before, it's almost the same 😂

[FunkyMonkee]

Felt, yes!! I could practically draw a road map! Good thing I learned braille!! There's hieroglyphs in there!! Seen is another story.

[OddBeMe]

No we hate human expressions in our dates. You’re to act like robots 24/7.

[BCA6010]

Yes, at least if it seems sincere.

[exitseven]

Yes, God is in the details.

[UniquelyBasic]

Yeah its attractive

[ColtonLG]

Very

[In_Trance]

I guess it could be

[TX651]

Yes very attractive.

[JesseJayNeak]

VERY attractive

[Anonymous]

It is my opinion.