Did I ruin it for myself?

[Anonymous]

So I haven't seen the guy im seeing for more than a month. He kept asking to hang out with me for more than a month but told him i was busy. I told him we could hang out the next day which was today. So he calls and wants to meet up at this place we always go to. I didn't want to go there. He doesn't want me to come to his parents house to see him just this same place we always chill which is like 18 minutes from my house. I told him i didn't want to go there and didn't feel like driving all the way over there.
So he just says well we won't see each other ever again then.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Yes, I think you did.


You kinda gave him the “all or nothing” type of thing and aren’t willing to compromise to make it work. He might have said that last like, “we won’t ever see eachother again” out of frustration, but that should be a wake up call for you to realize that you need to compromise if you want a relationship to work out for you.

[Cranberrylakes]

Yeah you did. He’s putting some effort in. And assuming you’re super young, that’s kind of a lot because well you’re not adults yet who can just go anywhere.


You should have said “no that’s too far, but we can meet here!”


And tbh I don’t think you like him all that much. Any guy I was crazy for I wouldn’t ignore for a month, because I’d be too head over heels to not hang out with them any chance I could. Sounds like you should just accept that you don’t like him and actually date a guy you do have feelings for.

[HawkPerception]

Lmao. Where did you want to go then? I wouldn't say you messed up. If anything you dodged a bullet, if he was willing to stop meeting up on such a whim. But I would also say that in the future, you should make it easy to meet up. When more options become available, then you guys can go to those other options. Anyways, there's plenty more guys out there that you can start talking to easily.